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Originally Posted by lady_chem
I never felt any sort of bond with DEF, but I just knew ABC would be the best match for me.
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OK, at such a small school/rush I can say this with authority. ABC was NOT the best match for you. You have to trust the girls at ABC on this one. Don't be angry with them or think you failed - in chapters/rushes this small it's not as though you fell through the cracks. It's not a matter of liking someone or not liking someone, it's a matter of who fits where. There are women who went through rush that I loved to death but I knew they would not fit into our chapter or be happy there.
Reading back over your posts, it honestly sounds like you had the most positive things to say about DEF, the ones who gave you a bid. Look back over these posts and pretend someone else wrote them, and then tell us what you think.
As far of the girls that made fun of the group where they are now, it's possible they were doing so as a self-defense mechanism - to cut their losses in case they didn't get a bid.
I'll say what I said before: from now on, ABC and XYZ do not exist. They have ceased to be. You have to quit saying "IF I would have gotten a bid to one of the other 2 groups, THEN I would have been happy." (FWIW, it's a pretty good plan to not say "If ___________, then I would have been happy" in general for life.)