Can't believe this actually happens!

rusheemom · #1 08-24-2008, 01:00 AM

A pnm whom I wrote a rec for decided to "suicide" my sorority. Bad move I know, but she didn't ask for advice and I'm not sure what her options were. She didn't get a bid, but the horrific thing is that no one contacted this poor girl. She showed up at the designated site thinking she got a bid, and they told her that she had no bid and esorted her off site. Her Rush Counselor "Pi Chi" neglected to give her "the dreaded call". She was very upset. She said she would have been fine if they had called her, but the humiliation she had to endure was so unwarranted. I don't know who exactly to lodge a complaint with as this should not happen to ANYONE! Anyone else out there have this type of situation?

Jill1228 · #2 08-24-2008, 01:02 AM

That is wrong on so many levels! Someone dropped the ball. No one deserved that to happen to them

AGDee · #3 08-24-2008, 01:11 AM

You're right, it shouldn't happen, but I don't doubt that occasionally it does. It's certainly unfortunate but I can see how, with these huge recruitments, one of those phone calls could be missed. It must have left an awful taste in her mouth for sororities.

epchick · #4 08-24-2008, 01:11 AM

That's really awful!! You might want to let the Greek Life Advisor know.

Something similar happened when I rushed. The PNMs were suppose to meet at 11am. So around 10:50 I started walking from my dorm to our meeting place. When I was approaching the meeting place (it was around 10:55), I got "the call." By that time it was too late, I had already met up with some friends. I ended up watching from the window at the Union.

Benzgirl · #5 08-24-2008, 09:00 AM

^^^^Co-sign. I wouldn't get into the fact that it was your chapter, but the situation is totally uncalled for.

violetpretty · #6 08-24-2008, 10:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Benzgirl

^^^^Co-sign. I wouldn't get into the fact that it was your chapter, but the situation is totally uncalled for.

It doesn't really matter which chapter it was, because it's Panhellenic's responsibility to make "the call".

aephi alum · #7 08-24-2008, 10:53 AM

At my school, NOBODY got called. (This may have changed. I hope it has.) Each PNM met individually with her rho chi, who gave her either a bid or a letter informing her that she had not received a bid. From there, she either went to her new sorority's bid day party, or went home if she hadn't received a bid or if she'd chosen to decline her bid. The less fortunate PNMs, who were often in tears, had to walk past all the other PNMs waiting for their bids.

If you're going to call women who didn't get invites/bids, it's imperative to call EVERY woman, to avoid exactly this sort of situation.

texas*princess · #8 08-24-2008, 11:05 AM

ouch.

were they told they would receive a call?

BadCat25 · #9 08-24-2008, 11:20 AM

And we all wonder why there are so many greek haters out there.

adpiucf · #10 08-24-2008, 11:25 AM

My heart goes out to any PNM who has to go through such a horrible experience. Every Panhellenic should have a "no-bid call policy" during recruitment to avoid just that kind of heartache!!!!

#11 08-24-2008, 09:44 PM

Even if the complaint is logged to the campus' Panhellenic Council, what kind of trouble would the Rho Chi get into?

Rush is over and she's no longer a Rho Chi. That's a horrible thing to have to go through for the PNM, but I imagine there won't be any consequences for the Rho Chi who didn't give the courtesy call to the OP's PNM.

AGDee · #12 08-24-2008, 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

Even if the complaint is logged to the campus' Panhellenic Council, what kind of trouble would the Rho Chi get into?

Rush is over and she's no longer a Rho Chi. That's a horrible thing to have to go through for the PNM, but I imagine there won't be any consequences for the Rho Chi who didn't give the courtesy call to the OP's PNM.

Assuming the Rho Chi received the correct information...

#13 08-24-2008, 10:57 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

Assuming the Rho Chi received the correct information...

Ah, I didn't even think about that.

KSUViolet06 · #14 08-24-2008, 11:05 PM

I am sorry this happened to her. Unfortunately things like this do happen (occasionally) for any number of reasons:

*The Pi Chi may have forgotten to make the call.
*The Pi Chi may have been mistakenly told (by Panhellenic) that this girl got a bid, when she didn't.
*The Pi Chi could have delegated the responsibility to another Pi Chi in her group, and she may have forgotten.
*It may have been someone else's responsibility to make the call, and they didn't do it.

I think a (reasonably polite) email to the person at Greek Life letting them know that this happened (they may not know) is a good idea. They may not be able to do anything about it, but at least they can make sure that it doesn't happen next year.

Zillini · #15 08-25-2008, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

They may not be able to do anything about it, but at least they can make sure that it doesn't happen next year.

That's the key, to try to protect future PNMs from enduring this same pain and embarrassment.