Can someone maybe answer this?

mruff77 · #1 08-07-2008, 05:57 PM

Hi.
I'm new here and figured that this is where I need to come for help.
I am 35 years old, married, and have an 8 year old son. I just completed
my Associate's degree and I am continuing at a state university next month, for my Bachelor's degree in Elementary Education. The reason why it took me so long to get this far is that I have always had to support myself from 18 years old and on. I have had to provide a home for myself
and work full time in order to supprt myself. I have worked very hard these past several years and feel that I have just a little more to go. I will be attending full time and working full time as well. I don not feel like a typical 35 year old and feel as if my heart is very young. I am thrilled to be finishing up my undergraduate career and would also like to fully experience college the right way. I have always wanted to join a sorority, and wonder if this might be the time that I would be able to do that. I admire the sisterhood of sororities and would like to be a part of that.
I am proud to be attending a great university and would love for to make a sorority part of my life. If anyone can respond and tell me your thoughts and even what advice you might have , I have both ears open. Also, if there is a particular sorority that you might know of that might have a member/ members my age, I would love to find out which they are.
I will be attending UNC Charlotte and at this moment cannot recall the sororities by name. If anyone could shed some light here, I would REALLY appreciate it. Thanks!

PS: I posted thos thread on the recruitment forum and someone suggested maybe asking to be an initiated alumna(?).
Wouldn't I have to be a graduate as well as previously a member of a sorority?

#2 08-07-2008, 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by mruff77

Hi.
I'm new here and figured that this is where I need to come for help.
I am 35 years old, married, and have an 8 year old son. I just completed
my Associate's degree and I am continuing at a state university next month, for my Bachelor's degree in Elementary Education. The reason why it took me so long to get this far is that I have always had to support myself from 18 years old and on. I have had to provide a home for myself
and work full time in order to supprt myself. I have worked very hard these past several years and feel that I have just a little more to go. I will be attending full time and working full time as well. I don not feel like a typical 35 year old and feel as if my heart is very young. I am thrilled to be finishing up my undergraduate career and would also like to fully experience college the right way. I have always wanted to join a sorority, and wonder if this might be the time that I would be able to do that. I admire the sisterhood of sororities and would like to be a part of that.
I am proud to be attending a great university and would love for to make a sorority part of my life. If anyone can respond and tell me your thoughts and even what advice you might have , I have both ears open. Also, if there is a particular sorority that you might know of that might have a member/ members my age, I would love to find out which they are.
I will be attending UNC Charlotte and at this moment cannot recall the sororities by name. If anyone could shed some light here, I would REALLY appreciate it. Thanks!

PS: I posted thos thread on the recruitment forum and someone suggested maybe asking to be an initiated alumna(?).
Wouldn't I have to be a graduate as well as previously a member of a sorority?

Thanks a lot, ASTAlumna06.

MRuff, please refer to the advice given to you in the recruitment forum.

mruff77 · #3 08-07-2008, 06:13 PM

Is this not where I would contact some actual initiated alumna? Could you maybe tell me what an "active sister" usually entails?

#4 08-07-2008, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by mruff77

Is this not where I would contact some actual initiated alumna? Could you maybe tell me what an "active sister" usually entails?

For what?

Please refrain from asking any more questions until you've actually bothered to read the discussions on these message boards. Do your research. You will not be spoon-fed this information.

mruff77 · #5 08-07-2008, 06:25 PM

Excuse me? I have read the discussions and cannot figure out where to obtain such information. I do feel as if I am doing my research by asking people about things that they know about. I NEVER ask for ANYONE to spoon-feed me. If you do not want to offer help or information, why would you bother even posting a reply?

#6 08-07-2008, 06:27 PM

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Originally Posted by mruff77

Excuse me? I have read the discussions and cannot figure out where to obtain such information. I do feel as if I am doing my research by asking people about things that they know about. I NEVER ask for ANYONE to spoon-feed me. If you do not want to offer help or information, why would you bother even posting a reply?

NO YOU HAVE NOT READ THE DISCUSSIONS.

If you can't even bother to even figure out what an "active sister" is or figure out information and do your damn research on your own...you have no business being in a sorority.

Again, take heed of the advice already given to you in the Recruitment forum.

mruff77 · #7 08-07-2008, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

NO YOU HAVE NOT READ THE DISCUSSIONS.

If you can't even bother to even figure out what an "active sister" is or figure out information and do your damn research on your own...you have no business being in a sorority.

Again, take heed of the advice already given to you in the Recruitment forum.

AS I STATED EARLIER.....
I AM NEW TO THIS SITE AND CAME FOR SOME HELP AND ADVICE, NOT TO BE PUT DOWN OR INSULTED BY SOMEONE WHO KNOWS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ABOUT ME. LUCKILY...I HAVE PRETTY THICK SKIN! I GUESS PEOPLE LIKE YOU WHO DON'T ASK FOR ANOTHER'S INSIGHT WHILE DOING RESEARCH ARE JUST THAT MUCH BETTER THAN PEOPLE LIKE ME (ie. WONDERING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WOULD HAVE TO SAY TO MY SPECIFIC SITUATION AND NEEDS). DOES BEING IN A SORORITY MAKE A PERSON BETTER THAN SOMEONE ELSE? WHAT ONE CALLS BEING RESOURCEFUL, SOMONE ELSE REFERS TO AS NOT BEING WORTHY OF BEING IN A SORORITY?

#8 08-07-2008, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by mruff77

AS I STATED EARLIER.....
I AM NEW TO THIS SITE AND CAME FOR SOME HELP AND ADVICE, NOT TO BE PUT DOWN OR INSULTED BY SOMEONE WHO KNOWS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ABOUT ME. LUCKILY...I HAVE PRETTY THICK SKIN! I GUESS PEOPLE LIKE YOU WHO DON'T ASK FOR ANOTHER'S INSIGHT WHILE DOING RESEARCH ARE JUST THAT MUCH BETTER THAN PEOPLE LIKE ME (ie. WONDERING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WOULD HAVE TO SAY TO MY SPECIFIC SITUATION AND NEEDS). DOES BEING IN A SORORITY MAKE A PERSON BETTER THAN SOMEONE ELSE? WHAT ONE CALLS BEING RESOURCEFUL, SOMONE ELSE REFERS TO AS NOT BEING WORTHY OF BEING IN A SORORITY?

I'm sure you'll be an asset to any sorority at UNCC.

You got your advice and help in the Recruitment forum. If you don't think that's helpful at all, then that's your damn problem.

nittanyalum · #9 08-07-2008, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

Thanks a lot, ASTAlumna06.

Seriously. How do we make it so that anyone who markets/suggests AI on the open forum to completely uninvolved/unconnected/unknowing people are immediately banned and the post deleted? There's just no need.

mruff77 · #10 08-07-2008, 06:52 PM

I always appreciate another's help. What I do not appreciate is rudeness for no reason. I KNOW that I am an asset anywhere I go because I am always willing to do what it takes to help a fellow human being. Shame... that is not the case with everyone.

mruff77 · #11 08-07-2008, 06:57 PM

"One thing we can state with authority is that candidates may not have ever been an initiated member of a National Panhellenic Conference sorority. In general, alumnae initiates may be community leaders, professional women, homemakers….anyone who is thought to have the potential to make a positive impact on the sorority." --Recruitment Forum: Alumni Initiation

Are these not the "uninvolved/unconnected/unknowing people" that you are talking about?

Jump down from your horse...

#12 08-07-2008, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by mruff77

I always appreciate another's help. What I do not appreciate is rudeness for no reason. I KNOW that I am an asset anywhere I go because I am always willing to do what it takes to help a fellow human being. Shame... that is not the case with everyone.

You know, there's a website out there just for you.