Greek life when living off campus

lsucajun8 · #1 04-18-2008, 10:54 AM

I've looked everywhere and i can't seem to find anything that really helps me with this......I'm going to be a freshman in the fall and I plan to go through recruitment. If I do end up joining a sorority I was just wondering if the living off of campus is a problem. I realie that many people communte everyday, but i am worrying about maybe having a strained or more difficult than usual relationshuip with the sorority that I join if I'm not living conveinent to the campus. Things like recruitment, big/little activities, socials, lunch/dinner, etc. I live about 20 miles(25 minutes, traffic) from the campus. Any advice would be really appreciated.

Scully · #2 04-18-2008, 11:57 AM

Personally, I had no problems as a commuter student. I lived about 10 miles from campus. During my new member period, I practically lived in the dorms, as all of my pledge sisters were residents. I was always able to attend major functions - because I made a commitment to the sorority and it was my responsibility to be there. Of course, I attended class and worked, but AEPhi was a priority as well. Plus, with 40 sisters living on campus, I always had someone with which to have lunch or hang out in between classes and I always had a place to sleep!

Tom Earp · #3 04-18-2008, 12:20 PM

Living only 10 miles is a peice of cake

If you have a house to go over to so much the better.

If the Sorors live in a dorm area, I am sure there is always someone around to chat with.

The thing about having sisters, there is always someone to be with and enjoy!

Remember, it is not just for the 4-5 years you are an undergrad, it is something you will ahve for a life time!

33girl · #4 04-18-2008, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by lsucajun8

I've looked everywhere and i can't seem to find anything that really helps me with this......I'm going to be a freshman in the fall and I plan to go through recruitment. If I do end up joining a sorority I was just wondering if the living off of campus is a problem. I realie that many people communte everyday, but i am worrying about maybe having a strained or more difficult than usual relationshuip with the sorority that I join if I'm not living conveinent to the campus. Things like recruitment, big/little activities, socials, lunch/dinner, etc. I live about 20 miles(25 minutes, traffic) from the campus. Any advice would be really appreciated.

Are you going to be living with your parents? The reason I ask this is that many of the sororities require you to live in the house, unless you're living w/ your parents.

Any of the meetings, big/little activities, etc will be preplanned so you'll know when you have to be there and can plan in advance.

adpiucf · #5 04-18-2008, 12:48 PM

I lived off campus at one point, and it isn't a big deal. I spent most of my day on campus, and if I was going out with sisters or having a late night, I just crashed closer to campus at a sister's dorm.

You feel more connected to your university the closer you live to the school. Ideally, live in the sorority house at some point if you are able. It's a great experience. By living off-campus, you just need to make more of an effort to spend time on-campus. This isn't too hard. When you were in high school, you were on campus all day, and after school for activities, right? The benefits of living on or near campus are being able to run home in the middle of the day to change clothes, take a nap, etc., and they're conveniences, but you can certainly work around them when you have a commute to school.

When you go through recruitment, ask about live-in requirements. Not every sorority chapter has a mandatory live-in requirement, although some do. Some sororities may not even have houses. It just depends.

Good luck with recruitment! Like 33 said, all sororities give their members event calendars, so you know what is happening well in advance. There may be a few last-minute activities, but those are usually things like invitations to go out to dinner or watch a sports event at the school. So you may not be able to be as spontaneous as some people who live closer to school, but you're certainly not precluded from enjoying everything your campus has to offer!

Titchou · #6 04-18-2008, 01:20 PM

You don't say which school but it's possible that freshmen aren't allowed to live in the house so you may not have an issue at all. And I'm sure there will be many others who live off campus. It should not be a problem.

33girl · #7 04-18-2008, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Titchou

You don't say which school but it's possible that freshmen aren't allowed to live in the house so you may not have an issue at all. And I'm sure there will be many others who live off campus. It should not be a problem.

Even if she can't when she's a freshman though, it may be in the chapter bylaws that she does have to live in at some point.

violetpretty · #8 04-18-2008, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Titchou

You don't say which school but it's possible that freshmen aren't allowed to live in the house so you may not have an issue at all. And I'm sure there will be many others who live off campus. It should not be a problem.

The OP's username would suggest her school. Can any tigers weigh in on specifics?

OleMissGlitter · #9 04-18-2008, 02:22 PM

I would think you would be okay. However, if your sorority requires you to live in the house you will probably have to fulfill that requirement at some point. During the day you will have your sorority house to hang out at for lunch and dinner. Just let your parents know that there might be some nights (Big Sis/Lil Sis revealing, socials, meetings, etc) where you won't be home right after your classes are over. I have seen several "local" women join sororities at Ole Miss and they are fine because they submerge themselves in everything their sorority has to offer. Obviously, if LSU is not requiring you to live on campus since you are considered a "local" or they don't require freshmen to live on campus, then you should be fine. I think whether you live on campus or off campus, it's all about really getting into your sorority and what your chapter has to offer you. I have seen girls who live in a house who aren't that involved but girls who live off campus are very involved. Since you are so close to LSU, I would think that you could find a few sorority members and ask them about living requirements

aoiicutiepie14 · #10 04-18-2008, 06:53 PM

My first semester I was fortunate enough to live near the AOII house because I was staying in the dorms. However, I had a lot of pledge sisters that did commute but still were able to maintain a strong relationship with women in the house. During long breaks between classes they were always hanging out at the house or sometimes they would sleepover if chapter ran late. If you put the effort in then you can still have a strong bond with your sisters.

FSUZeta · #11 04-18-2008, 07:29 PM

you need to understand that you will be expected to be at the house at certain times-you won't be cut any slack just because you do not live on campus. however, it is the rare event that would happen spontaneously and you will know about mandatory things ahead of time.

if your house serves meals, usually even local girls are expected to pay for at least a few meals a week. all of that will be explained to you during your new member meetings-sometimes even during recruitment. frankly it is nice to be able to go to the house for lunches every day because it is a great way to meet your new sisters and your pledge sisters too, and that's why you joined that particular sorority-because you liked the girls and wanted to become their friend.

lsucajun8 · #12 04-18-2008, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Are you going to be living with your parents? The reason I ask this is that many of the sororities require you to live in the house, unless you're living w/ your parents.

Any of the meetings, big/little activities, etc will be preplanned so you'll know when you have to be there and can plan in advance.

Yes, I'm living with my parents, for the first year at least.

lsucajun8 · #13 04-18-2008, 07:55 PM

thanks. I think I remember, i may be wrong, someone in a sorority telling me that most have at least a one year requirement, but not until later. Also, does anyone else have problems with over protective mothers do skate around when doing sorority stuff? My mom is getting a little better, but I still do not think that she realizes how different that it is going to be for me in college.

Titchou · #14 04-18-2008, 09:15 PM

I don't know about other groups, but in Delta Gamma you do not have to live in the house as long as you live in your own home...even if the chapter has a live in requirement, you are excused.

Benzgirl · #15 04-18-2008, 09:30 PM

Our chapter was very similar, but it's not sorority-wide. As long as you were living with a relative, you were not subject to the housing rule.

Joining a sorority is perfect for you. You will have somewhere to hang out between classes and many houses have meal arrangements for lunch. On the days where you have chapter, just bring your change of clothes to the house

We had several commuter girls in my chapter, and I remember two girls (biological sisters) that drove over 30 minutes. They were constantly at the house and living at home did not get in the way of their activities. In fact, both were very active.