Age vs. Dating advantage?

[James]

I moved this from the sex and he city topic . .. 'cause I was curious .

I was wondering . . . one of the topics in sex and the city, and also mentioned in Bridgette Jone's Diary (yes I snuck in and saw it disguised as a girl . . . to avoid being stoned . . . I must say I look fetching as a girl in a black cocktail dress ) was that women have all the advantage in dating until about age 25 and then the pendulum (sp?)gradually swings back towards men . . . until its mostly on our side after 30 . . .

Any insights, thoughts or experiences in that area?

[amycat412]

I disagree. I don't think either sex has the advantage at any particular age. Its hard for all of us, none of us know what the other is thinking, etc.

I think the advantage you may be referring to could be that after 30, so many people are married and societally, women are percieved as wanting to get married more than men, so the media assumes women over 30 are freaking out if they are single.

I am single. I am 32. I LOVE it. Wouldn't have it any other way right now! Norush to get married and have kids here. I like that I can grab a suitcase and my passport and take off at a moments notice, etc.

ALSO, I think in general it gets harder for women (men too probably) as we get into our 30's and our sense of self is so defined. In early and mid 20's when you're figuring it all out, I dated all different types and put up with a lot more than I will now. Now I know what I want, and so, put up with a lot less. The field narrows because people are married and we know what we want.

Anyway, those are my thoughts.

[mgdzkm433]

I'm not sure I can answer the question without sounding a bit--I don't know--bratty.

I'm 23. I was 21 when I met my fiance. By the time I was 21, I was through with the club scene. I was tired of all the guys my own age. I wanted something more. Frankly, and this is no offense to the guys here, I didn't click with ANYONE my own age because they were--immature. I realize not ALL younger men are immature, but for me, I just didn't find a young man that was 'datable' material. When my fiance and I met, he was 28. That gave us 7 years difference. We clicked on a MUCH better level. Now I'm 23 and he's 30. Neither of us really had the upper hand in dating because we were both in that 'ideal' dating age, but I would DEFINATLY say that I was MUCH more prepared to date than the men the same age as me--at least the ones I met.

But from another perspective, I dont think there is an ideal age for women really, unless you figure the older men are looking for younger women . . . but I don't necessarily think that's true--but that's the only viewpoint I can see where you aren't at an advantage as a older woman. (not that 26+ is OLD, just a bit older than me).

[Miami1839]

I know this is an old topic but just wanted to put it on top again Mikki, I can definitely relate as far as meeting someone whos mature. I never clicked with anyone in school and clubs were fun. But clubs werent all that in term of meeting anyone seriously. However, my parents did first meet at the Bayou in DC back in the late 60s. ha ha. Age really doesnt matter to me. I mean if two people click then I dont think it should matter. Honesty, Maturity, and Trust are what matters most to me. Of course I wont date someone who is in there 50s or under 18(jail bait LOL) for that matter. No Bill Clinton type of stuff for me LOL

-Kevin