Stressed

Hootie · #1 03-23-2001, 01:36 AM

I'm stressed with school and grades. I'm beginning to think I'm OVERLY involved and my time committments are starting to have me worried...I'm low on dough but working as much as I can

. My bills are starting to scare me

! My ex owes me money and I'm trying to get it back

...not to mention his and my 2 year would-be anniversary is coming up in a week or so, and I'm starting to feel teary about him all over

(we broke up 6 months ago). URG! I just feel like the whole world is handing me lemons but there's no sugar for the lemonaid!
WHAT TO DO!?!?! I'm so stressed ladies! I've got about a billion and one problems right now and I'm running low on fuel! How do you all deal with your stress and problems when they start to pile up so high you never think you'll see tomorrow?!?!
I'm just wondering if anyone has ever felt the same way as me!

Hootie

#2 03-23-2001, 01:45 AM

Hi Hootie...

Unfortunately, you just explained the story of my life!!! My BF is gone every other two months on patrol with the Coast Guard, and when that happens it's like every day's a challenge.

But I think I've been in every situation you talked about, and thankfully I have sisters who are willing to put up with my rant-fests. However, stress usually makes me chain smoke until I feel better

(btw, I am not an advocate for cigarettes being stress relief--that's just me!).

Sometimes when things get REALLY bad I'll pick up a book of inspirational quotes and stories, and most of the time it helps calm down enough so I can get some sleep. The Chicken Soup for the Soul series really does wonders for me!

MaryMayXO · #3 03-23-2001, 02:00 AM

Hey Amy! I know exactly where you're coming from!! Stressed about grades and school? Thats been the story of my life this past semester. I am FOUR classes away from graduation and one class is really hard, which may keep me from graduating on time. I need it to graduate, so I am sticking with it and hoping to pull off a decent grade. ICK....and then comes the stress with finding a job after graduation. MORE STRESS, let me tell ya! I have been sending out my resume for awhile and I JUST got an interview. And BILLS!! I hate credit cards. I have bills up to my neck and that stresses me out sooo much!! I guess I just try to handle it by just taking things as they come...and trusting, that with God's help, things will always work out in the end.

I am sorry about your ex!! That sucks that he hasn't paid you back yet!

Make sure all your sisters take you to a bar or something the night of your would be anniversary!! Make it an all girls night...that's ALWAYS fun! That's what I did when I was in a similar situation. Thanks to all my girls the night went smoothly!
Just take things day by day, and I am sure you'll be fine! Things can only get better...and you know that your sisters are here for ya!! If you ever need to vent, you know where to find me on instant messenger!! : ) Take care of yourself and God Bless!!

Love in Chi O FOREVER!!
May

Allie_XO · #4 03-23-2001, 09:39 AM

I heard something the other day that I thought was cute: If life gives you lemonaide, trade them for limes and make margaritas.

I'm sorry about all the stress! I hope everybody recovers! I kinda know how it is, but things are actually looking up for me. I'm a little sad more than stressed though... I'm single and I don't even have a crush! I want to crush on somebody, but there just isn't anyone worthy.

hehe! Oh, well. I just got a job that I start next week. The job is going to suck, but the pay is going to be great and I am so broke right now!!!

I am one of those anoying people who likes stress. Well, not exactly, but I function best under stress and I hate to waste time, so if I have a lot to do, then I feel OK.

Whenever I feel TOTALLY overwhelmed by stress, I just take a break. I don't think about it for like 24 hrs. Usually I just sit around and watch TV and eat lots of fattening food. Or, (oh my gosh this is SOO cheesy) I go some night and look at the stars. Then I think about how BIG the entire universe is and that the light from some of these stars left before the dinosaurs were around and how time is SOOO infinite..... I don't know, but it makes my problems seem pretty small and insignificant. It make things so much easier when you put it in perspective. OK, well, I hope everyone feels de-stressed soon!

Allie

#5 03-23-2001, 12:38 PM

Hootie- I'm sure we all wish we could be there right now and help you but keep on "venting" with us and your friends - it is good to just let it out!

I don't know what it is about college men but they really break your heart! I wish I had a cure for ya - but if I did- I'd use it for myself too! For the money- I bet after college I owed more than you- I was sooo in debt but just make the minimum payment so your credit report stays good and when you graduate - you'll be able to pay it off!

I hope you feel better - I hate to see ya stressed!

Miami1839 · #6 03-23-2001, 02:26 PM

Hi Hootie,

I'm sorry to here your stressed. I just thought I'd share with you my experience with stress and maybe you might benefit from it. Of course every job has its stresses but I have found that stress or fear can be your best friend sometimes and you can channel it in a positive way. If that makes sense. From my experience as a psychiatric counselor working with teenage boys the best thing to do when your stress is to do what your doing now. Talking or writing about your stress is one of the best things you can do. Because if you internalize stress it can be bad on your body eventually and if you take out on someone else that can also be a bad thing too. So I think that your sisters and OTW gave you some great advice. Lean on your sisters, friends and family for support. Whatever you do, get it out, thats the best policy. I agree reading can be very soothing when things seem hectic. Sometimes you just need to take time out for yourself too and treat yourself. Especially with how everyone is in society with the pressure of competition and being on the go. Everyone needs to have that quality time to yourself. Just remember we're all here for ya.

Another thing. I had a really long recovery in 99 for my cornea transplant. About 8 months and the one thing I'd try to do when I was down and out and really stressed is remember those out there that are less fortunate. Like those that have heart or kidney transplants and they dont work out after a tough fight. Because I was lucky that the cornea is an organ not surrounded by blood which means a less of a chance of rejection. 95 percent success rate and of course my case was successful

But there are others with more major organ transplants that have more of a up hill battle. So I just try to think of others. Even when its hard. Also, I'm pretty bad with relationships and always find the girls I dig want nothing more than to be friends. Which sucks because I'm a softie.

Kevin

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Miami1839 · #7 03-23-2001, 03:31 PM

Hey Amy,

Thanks.

I'm 29(turned 29 last month) but I look mid twenties. Yeah, we'll see. I hope your right

Miami1839 · #8 03-23-2001, 03:51 PM

Amy,

Cool

I'm up for it

my email is scrappy25@hotmail.com lol

Kevin

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Miami1839 · #9 03-23-2001, 03:54 PM

Thats too funny. I just noticed that lol

cutehootie · #10 03-23-2001, 04:28 PM

Am sorry you are stressed, hootie. When I feel overwhelmed and want to crawl in a hole I take just one of the things bothering me (usually one I can acomplish) and get it out of the way. That way I feel a little more empowered and less helpless.

Last night I went to Magnificat, a women's Catholic prayer group. One of the messages is that we are not alone, we are women in community. While in prayer I looked around and saw women of different ages, races, and finances. It never fails to lift me when I feel bonded with others if only in prayer. Gawsh, in Chi Omega we are all about community and love.

Its OK to be where you are today and to feel what you feel. But dont forget that you arent alone. When you want somebody just reach out. Your Chi Omega sisters and probablly many others are here.

Hey! If that fails go out and let the air out of your ex's tires...lol...even better put shrimp in his hub caps.

cutehootie · #11 03-23-2001, 11:39 PM

Just read my post again and I hope it didnt seem like I was preaching. One part of what you are going through I can identify with--I have waaaay too much going on--everything is rush rush. Thats why I went to Magnificat last night to get centered again. Each of us have our own ways of coping.

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Hootie · #12 03-25-2001, 12:12 AM

i just wanted to thank you all for your ideas and words of encouragement. i'm still stressed out a little but i feel much better now that i've discussed it with a few of you and know that i'm not the only one who gets frazzled.
i try to make everything run perfectly and sometimes i need to remember i can't control the outcome of every situation...no matter how hard i try.
so thanks, and i hope to chat with you all soon.
amy

Hootie · #13 03-26-2001, 03:48 PM

Okay, I have to vent again. I'm not a negative person (honestly) but this really ticks me off.
So this PIKE comes up to me this afternoon and he told me he met my exboyfriend last night. He said that they are going to RUSH him next semester. I was like, are you kidding

I told him how he owed me money and he said that wasn't his problem. I know right and well that my ex cannot afford college, let alone a fraternity. It makes me more mad that he's considering joining after he once told me that he would never join a fraternity that didn't have a house...and he wouldn't join a fraternity that was a fish. I'm debating on telling this guy that...but I want to look like the BIGGER person. I'm just a little bitter (who wouldn't be) but I don't think I could survive seeing my ex's face on my campus and in a fraternity where my sisters are close to.
Any advice?!?! Suggestions?!?! Ideas!?!?!

Hootie · #14 03-26-2001, 04:23 PM

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Originally posted by amycat412:
Vent Vent Vent to us but stay out of it with him and the PIKES. You do not want to look or be petty. Be the bigger person, let it seem as if its rolling off your back and move on.

Its unfortunate that he owes you money. We all learn the hard way that you should not lend money to friends unless you're prepared to not get it back. On the same note, never borrow from friends unless you KNOW you can pay it back immediately--like if you just need a float until payday. It is a recipie for disaster.

Amy

I think you're right. I'm just reacting to this news irrationally right now. I'm sure, knowing his luck (which isn't much) he'll not even make it onto the campus and party hard with the PIKES all summer and then never enroll in classes.
Thanks.