Alpha Xi Delta closes its doors

[localsororities]

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Where is the SISTERHOOD??

[AXO Alum]

The meeting began well, but Dickinson said it "took a quick,
brief nose dive when she [Sutton] asked them not to wear
their letters."

Excuse me? I don't care if you are a national big-wig...I am an initiated sister the same as you, and I'll wear the letters I worked for and cherish if I dang well please! Not that I would want to after all this...I hope that some A-Z-D sisters respond to this topic. I would love to hear how this will play out!

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[alphaxi_unlv]

I cannot believe half of what I just read one because I wasn't there and two because it would never happen.
As an active member of Alpha Xi Delta and a founding member at my university I know first hand how difficult it is to colonize a chapter.
It is not unreasonable to ask the alumni to take a step back. First they chose to let thier chapter close and re-colonize that means they are no longer active members of the sorority. On any other campus alumni are often invited to events (such as initiation) but they do not actively participate in the going ons of the chapter. Secondly we do not know the full reasons of why the chapter was asked to close in the first, I am sure their is more to it then is being released to the public.

Above and behond all of this Alpha Xi Delta was founded by ten wonderful women with great hopes for its future. In my personal experience as a Founding sister and an e-board member I know that every National officers strives to uphold the standards on which we where founded. Never would a National officer do anything to harm a sister. Whatever took place was in the best interest of that individual chapter as well as the National organization.

I have pride in my Sorority and I love all of my sisters Nation wide. I encourage everyone to take what they read with a grain of salt if you where not there than you do not know what went on.

Xi Love and remeber to realize your potential.

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[33girl]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by alphaxi_unlv:
[B]It is not unreasonable to ask the alumni to take a step back. First they chose to let thier chapter close and re-colonize that means they are no longer active members of the sorority. On any other campus alumni are often invited to events (such as initiation) but they do not actively participate in the going ons of the chapter. Secondly we do not know the full reasons of why the chapter was asked to close in the first, I am sure their is more to it then is being released to the public.[B]

They are no longer active members, but the minute they close that chapter they become alumnae and they are to receive the same rights and priveleges as other alumnae. One of these is wearing your letters. I don't care what the circumstances are - unless you have done something hideous enough to have your membership terminated, you are allowed to wear your letters any time you bloody well please. Also, if they didn't want the alums involved, they should have said that to begin with, not changed their minds halfway through.

[B]In my personal experience as a Founding sister and an e-board member I know that every National officers strives to uphold the standards on which we where founded. Never would a National officer do anything to harm a sister. Whatever took place was in the best interest of that individual chapter as well as the National organization.[B]

Your pride and trust in your national office and officers is great, and I hope that you are always able to maintain it. However, national officers are very human. They have faults and foibles just like everyone else. They sometimes make decisions that in their opinion are in the sorority's best interest, but it may not turn out that way in the end. Sororities are about PEOPLE first. When you stop caring about people and start turning it into a business, that is not in anyone's best interest.

Incidentally, my comments apply to ALL sororities and fraternities, not just AZD.

[Jae]

Maybe the newly-crowned alumnae were overweight and/or not attractive (hence the chapter operating at half the membership of other houses) and the advisors wanted to rush new, fresh, pretty faces in the house that wouldn't be deterred from joining "an ugly sorority" or one that no fraternities want to party with. Get mad if you want to, but this type of thing is happening with one of the sororities on my campus right now and is a real possibility.

[Hootie]

How shallow. Sisterhood shouldn't be based on appearence.

[AlphaChiGirl]

Sometimes it is, Hootie. Even at a school like Florida, with one of the largest Greek systems in the nation...I'm a Florida native (yeah), and my "prettiest" friends at UF are all ABCs or BBBs...it just happens like that. Not that it's right. What happened, however, is wrong.

localsororities, how did the AZD's measure up to other groups on campus? were they more or less active (socially and service-wise)? Just wondering.

[This message has been edited by AlphaChiGirl (edited December 12, 2000).]

[G8Ralphaxi]

Originally posted by Jae:
Maybe the newly-crowned alumnae were overweight and/or not attractive (hence the chapter operating at half the membership of other houses) and the advisors wanted to rush new, fresh, pretty faces in the house that wouldn't be deterred from joining "an ugly sorority" or one that no fraternities want to party with. Get mad if you want to, but this type of thing is happening with one of the sororities on my campus right now and is a real possibility.

I am one of the scandalous Alpha Xi Delta alumnae that is terrorizing UF. I was at the meeting that's mentioned in that newspaper article that Laura was so inspired to post. Please understand, we were *completely* willing to step back and let the group from nationals do their thing. The mess started when they started lying to us, constantly changing their mind about the role we would play and what we were allowed to do and saying one thing and doing another.

And as to the charge of whether we were an "ugly" sorority or not - our website is still up (I think because they haven't bothered to take it down yet) so judge for yourself.
http://grove.ufl.edu/~alphaxi

the pictures are all from the last year or so.

I'm so sick of all of this. It was one of the most heartbreaking things I've ever gone through or watched friends go through. Keep in mind, those of you who say that our nationals *must* have known best, that we *must* have been ugly, that we *must* have been unsocial, whatever, for all this to happen, this simple fact ...

You were not there. We were, and we know in our hearts what the truth is.

The Zeta Omicron Chapter of Alpha Xi Delta at the University of Floria exemplified sisterhood in the truest sense of the word. I have never felt such love and support from any group of people, save my family, in my entire life. Our National Organization chose not to give us the support we needed over the past couple years, and events spun out of our control. Even other Greeks at UF likely do not know anything more than rumors and exaggerations.

Our charter is gone but the sisterhood lives on!

TFJ to all who share this in their hearts.

G8Ralphaxi

[equeen]

G8Ralphaxi, my condolences. This has to be hard for you and your sisters. Do you have an email address that I may contact you at? Thanks!



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[Hootie]

G8Ralphaxi~
Thank you for clearing things up. I did not mean to say your chapter in particular was shallow. I was pointing out that the person's comments before mine were shallow (not to mention the comments that directly followed mine).
It is a sad day when a chapter is forced to close. Its even worse when it is the fault of the National Organization. I can understand and appreciate your words and so I hope that you can all continue your sisterhood outside of the walls of AXD.
Good luck and remember to keep your chins up!
LICO!
Amy

[UNFSigmaChi]

Hey whats up UF AxiD. I just read that they shut your chapter down over there...i go to north florida. Hey i got a friend thats a sister of yours named Jessica Harold. Tell her Kinny said hey for me ok? Thanks

[ThetaPrincess24]

When I was at UK, something similar like that happened to another chapter on UK's campus that recolonized the year i went through rush.

I wont mention the chapter, but the former members were given alum status. However, similar problems arose........rumor has it that the new alums were told they couldnt wear letters etc. and the new alums were mad. Drama went down, but in the end that chapter's recolonization effort was highly successful, and as far as i know everything else worked itself out and everyone is happy.

AXD recolonized for a second time at UK the year I came to EKU. As far as I know it went well, but I havent heard of any kind of drama that went with it, other than after the chapter closed, Sig Ep used it briefly as their house while their new house was built and did a lot of damage inside that had to be repaired which if i understood correctly, Sig Ep didnt pay for which if true is ashame.

[mmcat]

how sad...
the whole thing is nothing but sad...

[justme]

Originally posted by mmcat
how sad...
the whole thing is nothing but sad...

I agree that it sounds pretty sad but has anyone else noticed that this happened over three years ago? And it looks like only one side of the story is represented here.

Just my 2 cents.