Is cheating at the bachelor party ok?

[James]

I have been to a bunch of bachelor parties so far and at every single one of them the guy has "cheated". Whether its been sex, or merely oral sex. Usually by strippers or straight out prostitutes.

These are all nice guys that their girls would all swear up and down would never do anything like that.

So my questions are:

1. Are bachelor parties somehow exempt from the normal rules of cheating?

2. Do girls realize that cheating goes on at these parties and don't care as long as they don't know for sure?

3. If you found out later, maybe after you were married, would it matter? Would you leave him?

[AGDee]

1. This is why a lot of women have a difficult time with bachelor parties.

2. They almost always find out eventually and it causes problems in the relationship.

3. Depends on the couple I guess.

I'm really curious whether the guys who cheat at the bachelor party would be ok with their women doing the exact same thing at HER bachelorette party?

[AlphaFrog]

For me, it would be over. Period. (And if it was with a prostitute, he be out that much faster)

[Lindz928]

Originally posted by James


So my questions are:

1. Are bachelor parties somehow exempt from the normal rules of cheating? NO!

2. Do girls realize that cheating goes on at these parties and don't care as long as they don't know for sure? NO!!!

3. If you found out later, maybe after you were married, would it matter? Would you leave him? YES it would matter. I would definitely consider leaving him. Cheating is cheating, and I don't think I could ever forgive that.

[WCUgirl]

NO!

I echo what Dee said about this is why women have issues related to the premise behind batchelor parties.

James, what your friends are doing is just plain crappy. If I ever found out that Mr. AXiD670 had any kind of sexual contact with any females present at his batchelor party, he'd be gone. I don't care how long ago that was.

[JennRN]

Originally posted by James
I have been to a bunch of bachelor parties so far and at every single one of them the guy has "cheated". Whether its been sex, or merely oral sex. Usually by strippers or straight out prostitutes.

These are all nice guys that their girls would all swear up and down would never do anything like that.

So my questions are:

1. Are bachelor parties somehow exempt from the normal rules of cheating?

2. Do girls realize that cheating goes on at these parties and don't care as long as they don't know for sure?

3. If you found out later, maybe after you were married, would it matter? Would you leave him?

1) NO!

2) NO! I would hope that this isn't going on at the party!

3) WHEN I found out later-and I say when, not if, because somehow, you always find out-I would be outta there. Wth the best lawyer $$ can buy, and half of my husbands stuff.

[AOIIBrandi]

1. No

2. I realize that it happens at a lot of them, and I do care. Women know it happens, that's why we have so many issues with men going to them. Why is this such a hard concept for men to grasp? Would they want us doing it to them? At the point where the bachelor party takes place aren't you supposed to be commited to the person you are marrying?

3. I know it would matter. I want to say yes I would leave and take half his money with me, but I guess you can never really know until faced with the situation.

[a.e.B.O.T.]

what about if he is totally honest about it? I mean, hes about to make a vow to not do it for the rest of his life, let him make sure he is buying the right kind of pie I say!

[AOIIBrandi]

Originally posted by a.e.B.O.T.
what about if he is totally honest about it? I mean, hes about to make a vow to not do it for the rest of his life, let him make sure he is buying the right kind of pie I say!

Shouldn't he have thought about that before he went and made the commitment to marry the woman? Most (not all) guys buy the ring and propose on their timeline, not the woman's.

[WCUgirl]

Men,

Do you want your bride-to-be to put some strange man's junk in her mouth two days before you get married?

It works both ways.

"Well, I just wanted to see if there were BIGGER options!"

[rhochi2002]

1. Are bachelor parties somehow exempt from the normal rules of cheating? no no no

2. Do girls realize that cheating goes on at these parties and don't care as long as they don't know for sure? ditto to what everyone has said. When I get married, I will make if very clear that if is going to happen then he should call off the wedding. They have the choice to purpose, and they do it when they are "ready". If he can't respect his future wife enough to keep it in his pants then he shouldn't get married!!

3. If you found out later, maybe after you were married, would it matter? Yes!! Would you leave him? It depends on when you find out. If you find out on your sixty year anniversy then it might not matter.

[wrigley]

1. Are bachelor parties somehow exempt from the normal rules of cheating?
Not at all. It's even worse because he should know better what he can loose if he screws it up.

2. Do girls realize that cheating goes on at these parties and don't care as long as they don't know for sure?
I don't know of any woman who'd approved of their signifcant other or spouse allowed to have some kind of get out of jail free card for cheating since it's a bachelor party. If he needs to still sow his oats, then he's not ready for the walk down the aisle. Let alone marriage.

3. If you found out later, maybe after you were married, would it matter? Would you leave him?
Yes, because he broke a convenant he made before God and me. I would leave him and find a lawyer to sue him for everything I could get. Actually I have a very stupid male cousin who pulled this crap after he was married and his wife dropped him like a bad habit. His kids are paying the price because he "HAD" to have some. It's never worth it in the end.

And for a.e.B.O.T.. How would it feel to know that you passed your wife an std or worse because you had any form of sex stripper/hooker who lied to her agency about her test results? Have you considered the other possibility of having said stripper/hooker coming out of the woodwork years later and suing you for child support if she got pregnant?

[ADqtPiMel]

What the hell? No.

[33girl]

Originally posted by wrigley
And for a.e.B.O.T.. How would it feel to know that you passed your wife an std or worse because you had any form of sex stripper/hooker who lied to her agency about her test results?

Katharine Hepburn actually tells a story in her autobiography about her parents who were very big on "social hygiene" issues before anyone knew how these things were carried, etc. A couple went to get their blood tests, were both fine, then a couple months later the wife died. It turns out the hubby slept w/ a hooker at the bachelor party and got VD and passed it to the wife and she died of complications from it.

But at any rate, no the bachelor party is not exempt.

[honeychile]

1. Are bachelor parties somehow exempt from the normal rules of cheating?
Absolutely not! It sounds like you guys have been hanging out with some guys who really aren't ready to get married yet.

2. Do girls realize that cheating goes on at these parties and don't care as long as they don't know for sure?
Cheating is cheating. Period. And if she doesn't care, she's not ready to get married!

3. If you found out later, maybe after you were married, would it matter? Would you leave him?
The truth ALWAYS comes out! People think it doesn't, but it's just a matter of how the injured party decides to take it. I'm against prostitution in all forms, which any man with whom I've been involved knows - most clearly! That said, I don't know about the second part. I'm a facillitator at a divorce recovery seminar, and if I had a nickel for every woman who wishes she hadn't left her cheating husband, I could retire. Never having been in that position, I don't know how I'd react - but he'd darn straight have to have every STD test imaginable before he so much as held my hand!