Ok, first of all, I totally resent the fact that I have been demoted from being your sexual surrogate. I think me and ilovemyglo did an excellent job and don't deserve to be dropped from your fantasy-relationship roster.
No offense to Ksigkid (who is engaged, sorry to cock block you buddy) and Sugar and Spice.,
Ok, now to your problem.
People are often neurotic about their relationships. People are even more neurotic at the beginning. When I say neurotic I mean that thoughts about the relationship can cause stress and anxiety.
Stress and anxiety can cause feelings of urgency that are irrational.
What ksigkid and sugar and spice are probably feeling is a sense of urgency when things go a little askew.
That sense of urgewncy leads to odd thoughts like: is something wrong? Did I/she do something wrong? Feel somehow different?
Its relationship hypochondria. You exist in a state of anxiety wondering what is wrong till you from each other and realize all is good.
The ups and downs at the beginning of a relationship can be killer. Notice how each day influences how you feel?
How it can be radically different every twenty four hours based either on your last experience with the other person or some miscommunication?
So here is my specific thought: Chill.
Instead of calling a thousand times, if you miss her call and say: " Hey this Ksigkid, I'm sorry I missed you, I really want to talk to you and spend some time with you, so call me back a soon as you get this .. . ." Or something like that.
Then maybe call back a second time later and leave a message. " Hey I was thinking maybe we could do _______ this later/tomorrow. Call me back and tell me what you think.
Now here is a general thought: Start anchoring your relationship.
In a long term relationship people are a little less neurotic because there is an expectation that even if everyone is busy today, you willl definitely be seeing eachother later.
What you want to do is start making dates several days ahead. Like say its Tuesday, you ask her if she wants to see a movie or dinner or some such on Friday at 8:00pm.
Make it clear to her that you want to see her before then if you both can also. The cool thing about it is that if something goes wrong, like a miscommunication on a Thursday, it seems less important because you know you have a future date already planned.
Always leave your last planned date, with another planned date scheduled. That way you stop living day to day and change it to at leat week to week.
Some final thoughts: She is just as neurotic and uncertain at the beginning as you are and she wants to like you and be liked as much as you want these things.
So stop making it so hard by showing inferior relationship skills. she's only human not a freaking mind reader.
Also, stop not making a move when she comes over. Are you gay? Do you want her to think you are gay? You don't want to get into the habit of not-hooking up and you don't want to somehow devolve into some kind of friend mode either.
Dude, she is SLEEPING in your bed. Does she need to hit you in the face with a freaking two-by-four that says, "Take me, touch me, I'm sexually interested in you?"
OH. Wait. She already has by coming over so much.
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