i dont know what to do...

kandy36 · #1 08-10-2004, 06:03 PM

ok normally im the girl that doesnt have issues about relationships and stuff and thats bc i dont like being in any hehe. but recently i found this guy who is absolutely amazing and were so into eachother and were practically going out. i knew that i had to give him time and not rush into a relationship but now hes saying that he does want to be with me but cant bc of the distance..ok keep in mind that my school is a 1/2 hr away from his house. and then he says i dont wanna have to break up with u come january for baseball and i was like are u kidding me. im so understanding..i had boyfriends that i never saw bc they pledged fraternities. i dont know what to do and how to take it. and he was hangin out with my ex boyfriend last nite(which happens to be an aquaintance of his) and i havent talked to him since. whatever shall i do??

winneythepooh7 · #2 08-10-2004, 06:18 PM

but now hes saying that he does want to be with me but cant bc of the distance..ok keep in mind that my school is a 1/2 hr away from his house. and then he says i dont wanna have to break up with u come january for baseball and i was like are u kidding me.

I think the fact that he uses such a lousy excuse is a cop-out. It also seems like he is playing games trying to keep you around for his convenience. I think you are probably a much better person then that and can find someone who is much better for you. I would cut the ties now before you get even more attached

cuaphi · #3 08-10-2004, 06:54 PM

I'm gonna have to borrow the line from Sex and the City:

"He's not that into you."

I'm sorry but that really sounds like what's going on here. Who knows why and I'm sure you're awesome but for whatever reason he's decided not to pursue the relationship. Sometimes it's just about chemistry and timing and things that are totally out of your control.

wrigley · #4 08-10-2004, 09:06 PM

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Originally posted by cuaphi
I'm gonna have to borrow the line from Sex and the City:

"He's not that into you."

I'm sorry but that really sounds like what's going on here. Who knows why and I'm sure you're awesome but for whatever reason he's decided not to pursue the relationship. Sometimes it's just about chemistry and timing and things that are totally out of your control.

co-sign

Move on. Do you really want a guy who's going to bail like that? You deserve a guy who wants to be with you and makes the time. He's not the right guy if he keeps making excuses as to why getting together is not a good thing.

Kevin · #5 08-10-2004, 10:36 PM

1/2 hour!?

WTF.

I lived in the burbs and went to school downtown (about 1/2 hour) ALL of my friends were at least a 1/2 hour drive in HS. Now that I live downtown and went to college in the suburbs, all of my college buddies (except the few that are down here now) are at least 1/2 hours away. It ain't that far.

It's an excuse not to go out -- and a shitty one at that. You're into him. But it doesn't sound to me like he's very much into you.

Optimist Prime · #6 08-10-2004, 11:31 PM

Date a frat guy at your own school.

kandy36 · #7 08-10-2004, 11:36 PM

hey guys u guys are thinking the same way i am bc seriously like he calls me all of the time and is like i really do like u and everything and he wants to take things day by day. and im like ok bc im not the type that lets people do that kind of stuff to me. im glad u guys helped me clear whats up in my head bc i wanted outside opinions and u guys really do kick ass.

oh i also came to find out that me and him didnt talk last nite bc one of his family members died so i told him ill be here as a friend but nothing more.

valkyrie · #8 08-10-2004, 11:36 PM

I think Luda needs to get some hoes in different area codes and kick him to the curb -- cuaphi is right on.

kandy36 · #9 08-10-2004, 11:36 PM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
I think Luda needs to get some hoes in different area codes and kick him to the curb -- cuaphi is right on.

haha sooo true!!! exactly the reason why i got my nickname and trust me im movin on so fast that ill have all my hoes back hehe

valkyrie · #10 08-10-2004, 11:41 PM

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Originally posted by kandy36
haha sooo true!!! exactly the reason why i got my nickname and trust me im movin on so fast that ill have all my hoes back hehe

Excellent!

#11 08-11-2004, 01:55 AM

Cue for music: Why Can't We Be Friends

kandy36 · #12 08-18-2004, 08:41 PM

so i figured id update my lovely greeks about this whole situation. well basically i talked to him for a while last nite and he was like giving me all this grief about not being with him and all this other stuff and i was like look, u made the decision..were gonna be friends. me and him havent hung out in a week but i would love to see how he acts when we do hang out.

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