I'm 20 haven't been on a date ever.

[KappaSigKGB]

I'm wondering how many people are in my boat. I'm 20 years old and never have dated anyone, or for that matter gone on an "official date." I guess I'm just shy around girls or something, and the ones I get close to all end up being just friends. I wonder if I have been better off all this time though, because even though its stressful sometimes to be alone, i'm guessing that relationships cause a lot of stress too? Oh and no I'm not a creepy hideous dude, as you can see in the picture link below:

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[CASIGKAP]

You're definitely not hideous. Don't worry too much about it. Some of us are just more picky than everyone else. That was always my problem. I have always been just "one of the guys" but never really looked at like being girlfriend material. I went on my first date at 17 but my mom had me take a sister with me b/c she didn't trust the guy I went out with so it was really a lot like group dates. It's weird going to a movie with a guy & your 22 year old sister sitting next to you. Weird. Take your time. It will happen when it's meant to happen. In the meantime, you get the advantage of being a friend & learning to really understand women & what they like and want.

[XOMichelle]

Do you ask girls out that you like? Sometimes that will do the trick!

I know a surprising number of people like you, actually. They weren't social butterfly's in high school, and didn't date anyone then. Then, they got to college, became social butterflys, but went two years without really being interested in anyone. I know a girl who graduated who still claims to have never dated a boy yet (although there are two boys who claim to have dated her, but claims she was unaware of the fact). They are totally normal!!! Another friend of mine is a guy who gets stuck in the "friend zone" all the time. He's sweet, wonderful, has a really good job, and good looking (why don't I date him you ask? because we met when I dated his roommate). But, this guy meets women and becomes friends with them right away. Then, the girls get comfortable in the friend zone, and don't want to switch. I've tried to set him up, but the brotherly thing he's got going that is hard to crack.

[Peaches-n-Cream]

If you want to have a girlfriend, find a girl you like and ask her out. It's not as hard as it seems. Good luck!

[polarpi]

Originally posted by KappaSigKGB
I'm wondering how many people are in my boat. I'm 20 years old and never have dated anyone, or for that matter gone on an "official date."

You're not the only one in that boat....I'm 24 and have never dated anyone/gone on an "official date". Some of us just aren't ready for a dating relationship when we're younger....I was too focused on school and spending time with friends to worry much about dating when I was "younger". I'm trying to make up for lost time right now, however....

I've only had two genuine girlfriends, both of them came after I was a senior in high school. Don't worry about it, you've got plenty of time. Girl friends are better than girlfriends.

[AUDG]

Don't go overboard though and start asking out EVERY girl...it definately gets around when guys do that, and it's such a turn-off.

[DawnDZ]

I think this is normal, I wasn't allowed to date until I turned 18. I come from a strict roman catholic family. Proms were the only exception if you can count that. I think if you focus more on having fun and being yourself you'll find someone you like and who likes you. Don't worry about it. Your young and have plenty of time to date. Theres no hurry

[Lady Pi Phi]

Don't worry. You're not alone. And you're definitly not weird.

I NEVER dated in highschool and I didn't have any close guy friends. I was always with the girls. I was also extremely shy.

It wasn't until I went to university that I broke out of my shell.

I had my first real date at 20. I still get stuck in the friend zone with I guys I like, but I think that happens to everyone (at least at some point).

Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and make things happen.
I'm still shy, and sometimes I won't tell people that I like them or ask them out, but I am definitly a lot more courageous than I was in highschool.

[chideltjen]

Adding myself to this thread. I didn't actually have my first kiss until the end of my senior year of high school. I went to dances with guy friends if I could. Most of the time I went without a date. I had tons of crushes but no dates. I had my first "real" bf the summer before I went to college. I've had one long term relationship and a few casual dates here and there.

But I am not really looking for anything right now either. I am also "just one of the guys." I love my guy friends and prefer their company over my girls sometimes. Someday my prince will come... but I ain't waiting for him.

[Sister Havana]

I never dated in high school, ever. I was one of those girls who was lots of guys' friend but nobody's girlfriend. I never even really kissed a guy until freshman year of college. (There. I said it.) Although I have kind of made up for lost time, I have only had one relationship last more than a year, and even now I'm still kind of shy around guys...well, I talk to them but I am chicken to come out and tell them I'm interested.

Don't worry...you are hardly alone.

[Rudey]

Tuckermax.com has great advice on girls!

-Rudey

[rainbowbrightCS]

If i helps, I think your a cutie.

[DGqueen17]

If you ever come to my town.....I'll go on a date with you.

[smiley21]

i was one month from turning 19 when i went out on my first date. when i look back on it, i wish i waited 5 more months and went on my 'first date' with my second boyfriend