Stupid Me!!!!

preciousjeni · #1 02-25-2004, 04:23 AM

Warning: Long whiny message ahead...

Ok, I need some GC love here!! I just did something really stupid. I recently "separated" (didn't break up) from my boyfriend of three years for some sheisty stuff he was doing.

Anyway, after I told him I needed some space, he left me alone for a little while. Then, he got back in touch with me and poured his heart out, saying how sorry he was and how he can't stand being without me.

So, me and my stupid self started talking to him over the phone and he and I came to the decision that we would come out of separation and be completely together.

Various odd things have been going on since then, culminating in what happened this evening. He called me at midnight and said he needed me to pick him up from his brother's house (no, he doesn't have a car OR a driver's license...on the topic of what he doesn't have...let's see...no job, no money, no high school diploma or GED...etc).

I foolishly agreed because he seemed really upset. Well, I found out why that was!! He had just had a fight with his GIRLFRIEND. Wait, I thought that was me?? Well, it turns out that since he got out of prison (oh, I forgot to mention that part!) last December, AND while he was living with me, he was developing a relationship with a girl who lives next door to his brother. He would go to "his brother's house" every weekend, religiously. I thought nothing of it at the time, but now he confessed that it was to see this girl. Remember that he and I had/have been together for THREE YEARS. So, I'm confronted by this girl who tells me that they had a huge fight and she found out that he had just called me to pick him up.

So, I go INTO HER HOUSE and we're all three sitting there. She's fussing at him and I'm just staring at him completely bewildered. Then I basically threw up my hands and let him know that I'd had enough. I went to leave and he followed me to talk. He got in my car and let me know that he was "in love" with this girl that he'd known for TWO MONTHS but that he loved me more. I said he had to choose right then (though I wasn't going to be with him no matter what he said.)

Then, he got out of my car and went to patch things up with the OTHER GIRL!!!!!! So, his sister-in-law was standing in the door and broke it down for me. She called him "the playa of the year" and said that he was definitely in a relationship with this other girl and he'd been saying that he'd been broken up with me for a while. UNTRUE!!! I left the scene and now I'm really hurt, angry and messed up. Oh, one more thing, the other girl kept crying and saying to me, "He keeps calling me YOUR NAME!!! What's going on between you two??" So, I let her know that we've been in a relationship for three years. One last thing, tonight, he also admitted to cheating on me even BEFORE this incident! So, I'M THROUGH WITH HIS SHADY AZZ!!!!

By the way (again), this girl has two kids, is uneducated and lives in a sh**hole of a place. And here I am, going into grad school with my life together...what is his issue????

(That's not even the whole story, but this is getting waaay too long.)

Pardon my rant!!! It's probably not altogether appropriate to air out my dirty laundry here, but HEY, I'm sure you all have some great advice for me. Plus, I'd love to hear everyone bash this evil, evil man!!!!!

ETA: I forgot the best part! The girl KNEW that he was with me when they first started "dating" or sleeping together or whatever they were doing.

aggieAXO · #2 02-25-2004, 04:43 AM

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Originally posted by preciousjeni
By the way (again), this girl has two kids, is uneducated and lives in a sh**hole of a place. And here I am, going into grad school with my life together...what is his issue????

sounds like they are perfect for each other

kick him to the curb and don't look back!

preciousjeni · #3 02-25-2004, 05:43 AM

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Originally posted by aggieAXO
sounds like they are perfect for each other
kick him to the curb and don't look back!

LMAO!! You're telling me!!!!! I just have to be sure to put the blinders on so I don't catch a glimpse of him.

Rudey · #4 02-25-2004, 12:48 PM

Yeah ok so when will you and the entourage be appearing on Jerry Springer to tell your story?

-Rudey
--Fight Fight Fight

Sister Havana · #5 02-25-2004, 02:27 PM

BAD BAD EVIL LOSER BOY!

You are so much better off without him! If he wants you back, laugh in his face.

preciousjeni · #6 02-25-2004, 03:51 PM

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Originally posted by Hootie
LOSER. That's all I have to say about this guy. Seriously, you are much better off.

BTW - what'd he go to jail for?

It was actually prison...yes my friends, he's a felon. The charge was theft by receiving.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #7 02-25-2004, 04:39 PM

I have to agree with the rest. You are SO much better off without him and they are perfect for each other.

Besides, you will have PLENTY of opportunity in grad school to find a better one.....

AchtungBaby80 · #8 02-25-2004, 04:49 PM

I just don't know what to say! That really takes the cake. Cut your losses and leave it behind...he's the one who looks like the a**, not you.

_Opi_ · #9 02-25-2004, 04:58 PM

One of my friends went through a similar experience and that only advise I can give you is, DO NOT (under any circumstances) go back to him. Whether it be a couple of months or couple of years from now. My friend went back and forth, only to realize that she can never trust him again if she was to marry him (which she was actually comtemplating).

I heard time heals all wounds. So cheer up, cuz this loser is GONE!

chideltjen · #10 02-25-2004, 05:11 PM

hmmmm...

NEXT!!!!

seriously... get out of that.

kddani · #11 02-25-2004, 05:37 PM

the situation sucks, but honestly

WHAT WERE YOU DOING WITH HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE???????????

This is more than a "what did you ever see in him" kind of question. Seriously, what the hell did he EVER have to offer you?

Be glad. Good riddance to bad rubish.

preciousjeni · #12 02-25-2004, 05:48 PM

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Originally posted by kddani
the situation sucks, but honestly

WHAT WERE YOU DOING WITH HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE???????????

This is more than a "what did you ever see in him" kind of question. Seriously, what the hell did he EVER have to offer you?

Be glad. Good riddance to bad rubish.

The more I think about it, the more I believe I was...ummmm...whipped...I won't elaborate on that one!

damasa · #13 02-25-2004, 05:53 PM

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Originally posted by preciousjeni
The more I think about it, the more I believe I was...ummmm...whipped...I won't elaborate on that one!

You were giving the butt but we won't say anything....

cash78mere · #14 02-25-2004, 05:53 PM

be glad you're rid of that loser.

what a winner...a convicted felon

go find a real man

tnxbutterfly · #15 02-25-2004, 10:36 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by preciousjeni
Warning: Long whiny message ahead...

Ok, I need some GC love here!! I just did something really stupid. I recently "separated" (didn't break up) from my boyfriend of three years for some sheisty stuff he was doing.

Anyway, after I told him I needed some space, he left me alone for a little while. Then, he got back in touch with me and poured his heart out, saying how sorry he was and how he can't stand being without me.

So, me and my stupid self started talking to him over the phone and he and I came to the decision that we would come out of separation and be completely together.

Various odd things have been going on since then, culminating in what happened this evening. He called me at midnight and said he needed me to pick him up from his brother's house (no, he doesn't have a car OR a driver's license...on the topic of what he doesn't have...let's see...no job, no money, no high school diploma or GED...etc).

I foolishly agreed because he seemed really upset. Well, I found out why that was!! He had just had a fight with his GIRLFRIEND. Wait, I thought that was me?? Well, it turns out that since he got out of prison (oh, I forgot to mention that part!) last December, AND while he was living with me, he was developing a relationship with a girl who lives next door to his brother. He would go to "his brother's house" every weekend, religiously. I thought nothing of it at the time, but now he confessed that it was to see this girl. Remember that he and I had/have been together for THREE YEARS. So, I'm confronted by this girl who tells me that they had a huge fight and she found out that he had just called me to pick him up.

So, I go INTO HER HOUSE and we're all three sitting there. She's fussing at him and I'm just staring at him completely bewildered. Then I basically threw up my hands and let him know that I'd had enough. I went to leave and he followed me to talk. He got in my car and let me know that he was "in love" with this girl that he'd known for TWO MONTHS but that he loved me more. I said he had to choose right then (though I wasn't going to be with him no matter what he said.)

Then, he got out of my car and went to patch things up with the OTHER GIRL!!!!!! So, his sister-in-law was standing in the door and broke it down for me. She called him "the playa of the year" and said that he was definitely in a relationship with this other girl and he'd been saying that he'd been broken up with me for a while. UNTRUE!!! I left the scene and now I'm really hurt, angry and messed up. Oh, one more thing, the other girl kept crying and saying to me, "He keeps calling me YOUR NAME!!! What's going on between you two??" So, I let her know that we've been in a relationship for three years. One last thing, tonight, he also admitted to cheating on me even BEFORE this incident! So, I'M THROUGH WITH HIS SHADY AZZ!!!!

By the way (again), this girl has two kids, is uneducated and lives in a sh**hole of a place. And here I am, going into grad school with my life together...what is his issue????

(That's not even the whole story, but this is getting waaay too long.)

Pardon my rant!!! It's probably not altogether appropriate to air out my dirty laundry here, but HEY, I'm sure you all have some great advice for me. Plus, I'd love to hear everyone bash this evil, evil man!!!!!

ETA: I forgot the best part! The girl KNEW that he was with me when they first started "dating" or sleeping together or whatever they were doing.

Girlllllllll,

TOO MUCH DRAMA!!!

Kick him to the crub. Do not pass go. Change your locks. Change your name if you have to.

The point is your are a beautiful Theat Woman

You deserve so much better. And this went on for 3 yrs