I was right! And there's proof!

jojapeach · #1 02-11-2004, 06:56 PM

Have you ever made a difficult decision and wondered if it was really the right decision, but then, something happens that confirms that you were on point all along?

To make my long story short, I broke up with someone, and it took a year and a half later for my feelings to go away. We remained friendly, but doubt began to creep upone me when he began to show signs that he might really treasure me. Then, I found out that he had some deep financial issues that confirmed that we could never work. (I'm more conservative when it comes to entertainment versus responsibilities, but he can spend money on PlayStation games and movies before paying the rent. You do the math.) Since his spending habits always concerned me, I knew that if we ever married, we could have wound up in divorce court because of money. I've saved a lot of heartache and time, huh?

What about you?

NinjaPoodle · #2 02-12-2004, 02:45 PM

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Originally posted by jojapeach
I've saved a lot of heartache and time, huh?

Yes you did!

rho4life · #3 02-12-2004, 06:02 PM

It's not always easy to make the right choice, but you are stronger for doing it. Your sorors are here to support you!

R4L

jojapeach · #4 02-13-2004, 12:31 AM

SoRHOrs NP and R4L, thanks for the love.

But no one else has had any kind of experience where they seriously rejoiced after waffling over a decision? I just wanted to spark some convo...especially after starting my first thread.

Am I on my way to GC greatness now? j/k

BlueReign · #5 02-13-2004, 11:18 AM

Soror,

I was in a similar situation a number of years ago. It was one of the best decisions I ever made

TRSimon · #6 02-13-2004, 02:14 PM

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Originally posted by jojapeach
SoRHOrs NP and R4L, thanks for the love.

But no one else has had any kind of experience where they seriously rejoiced after waffling over a decision? I just wanted to spark some convo...especially after starting my first thread.

Am I on my way to GC greatness now? j/k

Yeah, sure ya are!!!

SummerChild · #7 02-15-2004, 12:47 PM

Jojapeach,
This thread is so on point. I felt that a guy that I had been dating wasn't quite right - either he was a liar or concealing info. I stopped dating him based on my instincts. Yesterday, he showed me his true character so yes, I have proof now.

SC

ActionJackson4 · #8 02-15-2004, 02:03 PM

I have a good question for my sorors....

Do any of you date a fellow greek? And those of you who do, do you have a hard time making "time" for each other?

Let me explain. Any advice is welcomed and very much appreciated.

I've been dating a greek for over 3 months now. We've had some wonderful times, I can honestly say i'm in love, and i know he feels the same. BUT... he's recently been VERY INVOLVED in his fraternity, and I'll be honest, I feel like i've been put off to the side. I realize that in order to make this work I have to realize he'll be extremely busy at the beginning of every semester until he graduates, busy throughout the rest of the semester with his fraternity's functions, and busy throughout the summer planning for the upcoming semester.

I love my organization very much, and when it comes to my chapter, they understand my obligations to work. I don't know what it is, but i've never had to make a decision between love and SGRho.

Do any of you share this feeling or experience? I've been very supportive. And... patient.

And jojapeach.. you did the right thing.. financial problems this early can indicate major problems in the future! Way to be strong girl!

bluethunder · #9 02-29-2004, 05:14 PM

this is my take on the "dating greek" situation:

yes, i, too, have been involved in a relationship with a fraternity man and it was AWESOME simply because there were some things that we could talk about that we genuinely knew the other understood completely because we had both "been there and done that"; he understood the late nights to do stuff for the chapter, all the nights out hanging with my sorors, and so on because he was also doing very similar things... that was in undergrad...
now we all now grad chapter is different because while we are sisters, many alumnae members have husbands and children and careers to look after... it's understood that we all have obligations that need to be met outside of SIGMA.

long story made short, i will share with you what an older soror told me a little while ago:
everyone knows that when it comes to being with my chapter, hands down, my little alumnae butt is there first, i'm the last to leave, and i hardly EVER miss an event... the last social event we had, a soror called me out... she said, "didn't i hear you say you had a date tonight?" i replied, "yes, that was him that called a few minutes ago." she said, "girl, you better get out of here! it's getting late and we appreciate you coming, but, child, you don't want to mess up a good thing!"

to put it simply: there is never chosing between love and the Sorority. you put your priorities together and follow them. i love SIGMA, but i will NOT jeopardize my educational, professional, or even romantic obligations for the sorority-- and since i have my priorities straight, i will never have to "choose" one or the other. they are all important. i will sacrifice for SIGMA, no question. but i will not let my man go lacking('cause i got one, y'all!) or anything else that means something to me just so i can "be out" for the blue and gold.
tell that your man what our soror told me: "don't mess up a good thing." holla at your boy in a constructive fashion and remind him that while the organization is important, it's not a full time job and he needs to balance his relationship with you just as he balances everything else.

deuika · #10 03-15-2004, 01:06 AM

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Originally posted by jojapeach
Have you ever made a difficult decision and wondered if it was really the right decision, but then, something happens that confirms that you were on point all along?

What about you?

Oh YES. This happened last month actually. I was dating someone who wanted "more" out of the relationship than I was willing to give. I quickly dismissed him, but afterwords I wondered if I had made the right decision. I am usually not one to doubt any decision I make, but I really couldn't shake this one. So anywho, I saw him about a week ago hugged up with some loose chick I knew from high school. Of course I SMDH and thanked my lucky stars. God never gives me bad advice.