I have no idea what to call this thread.

[MTSUGURL]

Everything I could think of to call this thread sounded really bitchy.

Most of you know that last year I pledged a service sorority on our campus, and disaffiliated because of problems in the group. I joined Phi Chi this year because I was looking for a sisterhood where the girls really cared about each other and were involved in each other and on campus, as well as wanting to be a part of a group without the problems the other group had. (Problems that are not typical of every GLO.)

Today when I checked the website guestbook, someone in this group had posted something really hateful about me. They have tried continuously to cause problems for me in Phi Chi, and it hasn't worked, but it is damn annoying. I'm tired of having to explain things to my sisters that really should never be brought up. When I joined Phi Chi, I told them that I had been affiliated with this group because I thought they should know. Without going into detail, I told them the general reasons I disaffiliated. I felt they also had the right to know this, but I didn't give specifics, names, or any info that should stay within the other chapter. Long story short, they heard what I told Phi Chi, I told them that I said it, and now they're trying to cause problems.

How do I stop this crap?

[PhiPsiRuss]

You have two choices:
Ignore this person or fight back.

I would fight back, and I would do so in a dignified and ethical way. First, the post probably has the IP address. Have your ISP trace it and issue a warning. Follow this path to get your harasser of the net.

[Little E]

Do what you've been doing, be honest with your chapter. Ignore the other comments. You should document the incidents, (yea i'm an RA), and keep them well recorded. if it is on the web print it out. But also, keep notes of phone call, convos - w/time, date- pretty much any interaction with the hostile party. if you feel strongly, perhaps write a letter to the people who are harassing you and keep a copy, asking them to refrain from spreading your business. Talk to someone on your campus to find out about harassment issues and for goodness sake, do not get into a b*tch fight with them, walk away. Be clear and tell them you don't appreciate it.

i dunno if you want to go as far as some type of school restraining order, but most schools have them. Do what you feel comfortable with, but DO NOT antagonize the situation. Don't talk to them etc. be the grown up.

i dunno if this is what you wanted to hear, or i'm totally off base, which is possible after my stupid paper on NATO. grrrr
good luck!!! and keep your head up!!

[Moxie]

your Phi Chi sisters should trust you and know you well enough by now to ignore stupid comments left on internet guestbooks, of all things. just ignore it if you can, try to laugh at it with your new sisters! they are probably just jealous that you found TRUE friends