Promise Rings

SparkliiQTMTSU · #1 10-03-2003, 10:30 PM

Ok so has anyone ever had one of these. I told the bf that I wanted one, since I know that I'm not getting the engagement ring anytime soon even though hes already asked me to marry him. I know it will be awhile before he can afford the ring he wants to get me though. I think hes pickier than I am when it comes to the ring Im going to have on my finger!! But yeah I asked for a promise ring...God only knows if Im actually going to get one! I just think theyre cute and a sweet gesture. What do you think??

Nichole

James · #2 10-03-2003, 10:32 PM

I thought it was against the Rules to propose without a handy ring?

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Originally posted by SparkliiQTMTSU
Ok so has anyone ever had one of these. I told the bf that I wanted one, since I know that I'm not getting the engagement ring anytime soon even though hes already asked me to marry him. I know it will be awhile before he can afford the ring he wants to get me though. I think hes pickier than I am when it comes to the ring Im going to have on my finger!! But yeah I asked for a promise ring...God only knows if Im actually going to get one! I just think theyre cute and a sweet gesture. What do you think??

Nichole

KappaTarzan · #3 10-03-2003, 11:44 PM

promise rings are a fabulous idea before you can afford an engagement ring/ before you are ready to be engaged. they are kind of a step between "boyfriend/girlfriend" and "fiance/fiancee"... i had one before my engagement ring!

SparkliiQTMTSU · #4 10-04-2003, 12:05 AM

So its not bad that I kinda asked for one...lol I feel bad that I mentioned it, but I don't know since I know that he cant afford what he wants for me, I figured I should have something on my finger maybe lol. geez I sound too much like one of those girls now..I mean I dont need a ring I love him and he knows it and I know he loves me but dangit I think maybe I should have one lol

Nichole

KappaTarzan · #5 10-04-2003, 12:12 AM

GIRL if he has allready asked to you marry him you deserve a little something to show for it! promise rings are inexpensive, $50 or less if you don't want a diamond.

if all else fails, get a claddaugh ring (or however you spell it. not gonna lie, i'm not even a tiny bit irish). they are cute and show that you are taken if you wear them heart facing in.

Hootie · #6 10-04-2003, 12:27 AM

I had a promise ring when I was 20...well first I had a friendship ring my boyfriend totally surprised me with and then a promise ring I picked out.

He wanted to give me a pearl promise ring cuz that's sorta tradition in small towns. I wanted a diamond one because of it durability. So I picked it out, he put it on layaway and it cost him about $149 with my discount.

Now that I'm like 23, I don't think I'll get a promise ring. I just think it's kinda juvenile at my age (no offense). But if a guy were to get me a ring of any kind (other than an engagement ring) I'd accept it as a gift. I just wouldn't want it to be considered a promise ring.

Munchkin03 · #7 10-04-2003, 08:50 AM

We wear matching claddaghs, and have for just about 2 years (after having dated for a year and a half). Not exactly promise rings (it just seems like something 18 and 19 year olds do, and we were far from 19 at that point!), and we'll probably wear them after upgrading to platinum solitaire and bands.

I didn't ask for one--he asked me if I wanted one, and then I asked him.

There's just so much I want to do (ie, get out of graduate school, be able to pay rent in NYC without my parents' support) that a claddagh suits me just fine. Not in a hurry at all.

MereMere21 · #8 10-04-2003, 09:44 AM

I always had the rule they if they can't afford the diamond, they can't afford to ask you to marry them.

Ha then I met my husband

poor a** broke as a joke. We just wore matching James Avery silver bands for the longest time before we got married. For both of them it was $100 max if I remember correctly. We still wear them every now and then if we don't want to wear our good jewelry (like if we are going to Six Flags or something like that where we could lose them). I also wore mine when my fingers swelled up like sausages the last pregnancy!

rainbowbrightCS · #9 10-04-2003, 09:57 AM

my ex bought me a ring, it was alittle like a promise ring. HE took me to Kay's and picked it out, he made me promise not to look at the price, just find one I like. I did, and even with the Christmas time discount it was over $400!.
and the thing is my best friend got one that year also, and she was asked her BF what would happen if they break up, he said for her to keep it and wear it if she wanted to. Then my boyfriend said they same thing. So I have not seen him in like 2 years, but I still have and wear the ring. It is so pretty. I love sapphires and diamond!.

Christia

Jadey28 · #10 10-04-2003, 11:40 AM

I agree with Hootie and Munchkin03. While promise rings are a nice gesture, they sound juvenile to me. (I'm also 23). Is your boyfriend Greek? I ask because my boyfriend is and I want him to lavalier me before he gives me an engagement ring. This hasn't happened yet, and I'm not sure it will, but I think it's a good idea.

One more thing....I noticed that you are only 19.....don't rush your future with him. People change and grow as they enter their 20's and get older. I know I surely did. You never know what might happen. There are a lot of people out there that have survived, but there are just as many who didn't last throughout those changes.

AchtungBaby80 · #11 10-04-2003, 12:07 PM

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Originally posted by KappaTarzan
if all else fails, get a claddaugh ring (or however you spell it. not gonna lie, i'm not even a tiny bit irish). they are cute and show that you are taken if you wear them heart facing in.

I like the claddaugh ring idea...they're very pretty, and you can get them in all price ranges. (I got mine, a heavy silver one, for about...oh, $25?) Wear it on your right ring finger with the heart pointing inward if you're going steady, but you can also switch it to the left ring finger to signal that you're very serious. I think it's a better idea than a promise ring...sorry, but I think it does sound kind of like high school.

James · #12 10-04-2003, 12:33 PM

Ok, someone should post a link to such a ring so guys can know what to look for on her finger to signify she is taken.

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Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
I like the claddaugh ring idea...they're very pretty, and you can get them in all price ranges. (I got mine, a heavy silver one, for about...oh, $25?) Wear it on your right ring finger with the heart pointing inward if you're going steady, but you can also switch it to the left ring finger to signal that you're very serious. I think it's a better idea than a promise ring...sorry, but I think it does sound kind of like high school.

SparkliiQTMTSU · #13 10-04-2003, 01:06 PM

I guess it seems juvinille but I kinda like some of the ones Ive seen. I have alot of Celtic rings being scottish and all so one more wouldnt hurt lol. I actually have one of those rings with the hands and the heart my mom got it for me years ago. I know that Im only 19 of course I do have alot of friends that have been married for a few years and theyre doing well but we werent planning on marrying for a few years. But we are 5 years apart too. I know that he doesnt want to wait until hes 30 to get married. I dont know though.

Nichole

dzandiloo · #14 10-04-2003, 02:33 PM

Claddagh Ring Ettiquette

1--On the right hand, crown in heart out, the wearer is free as the birds in the sky. If you want her, go a courtin'.
2--On the right hand, crown out heart in, the lass is spoken for, so lay off.
3--On the left hand, place of choice, heart in crown out, she is happily married for evermore.

They are available in gold, and with stones in the center of the heart as well. The James Avery version is probably the most easily available one in Texas.

ETA: For those who don't know what the Claddagh Ring Story is, here's a link:
http://www.potgold.com/claddagh.htm

etahannah · #15 10-04-2003, 02:50 PM

okay....so my best friend is a guy and we are NOT dating. but for my birthday he got me this gorgous ring. it has three sapphires set in white gold. the middle stone is probably a half caret and the other two stones are probably a little less than a third. it is soooooo pretty. i wear it on my middle finger on my left hand and EVERYONE asks about it. their respones to it are great!! i usually get "you two are getting married and you just dont know it yet!!"
at first he said it was a "friendship ring" but it has kinda turned into a "past, present, future promise we will always be friends" ring. maybe one day i can tell you guys more. but that is my little promise ring story to add to this disscussion (by the way....he lives with me too!!

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***dances a best friend dance***