Question about status?

[rose1]

Hi:

I am hoping someone here maybe knows the answer to this question- I was initiated in AOII, but as a result of financial difficulties I had to de-activate (we couldn't afford the fees anymore) and take on a full time job in addition to school at the end of my junior year. Even in my disaffiliated state, I still think AOII is better than anything else out there and am proud to have been a part of it at one time. The ‘official’ people- chapter president, etc. all handled the difficult situation with an incredible amount of integrity and grace and were very kind to me at a time when I really needed it most.

I was too scared and ashamed of quitting to ask at the time, so I never got an explanation of what de-activation as an alumnae would mean. Am I now considered the same as someone who never initiated? Will my daughter be allowed to join if she wanted to in the future, or would she have a problem because of me? I never referred to myself as an AOII after the de-activation, I tried to be as respectful as possible and not present myself as something I was no longer a part of. But I am curious about what, officially, the status of someone who was active but de-activated means in the post-collegiate years. Could I ever be an alumnae?

I asked my pledge mom (we are still close friends) and she had no idea. Maybe someone here can help?

Thanks for reading.