A serious question: Have YOU been tested?

AKA2D '91 · #1 08-06-2003, 03:39 PM

If your friend, girlfriend/boyfriend, significant other, mate, person you sleep with (whatever name you give him or her) asked you to take a HIV test, would you?

Are there any instances where you would NOT take the test?

Is anyone willing to share if he or she HAS taken the test?

I thought about this while visiting the following DST thread...

http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showth...5&pagenumber=4

RedefinedDiva · #2 08-06-2003, 03:47 PM

I haven't taken one because I'm not sexually active. However, for a while now, especially with threads like the one from the Blvd., movies like "One Week," etc., I FULLY intend to start requesting RECENT test results from potential partners. If they can't produce one, then I will request that they take a test. We can go together. If they can't do it for me, then he can get to steppin'! I'm not trying to catch the Gangsta!

lil_sunshine · #3 08-06-2003, 03:49 PM

If I gotta do it, he's gotta do it too!!!!!!!!!! Simple as that.

exquizit · #4 08-06-2003, 03:55 PM

Well regulatah, you know where I live so it's a requirement ! I think it's the only intelligent choice to make. If you're grown enough to do the crankin, then be grown enough to take the test.

I feel both partners should be tested. I've been tested once a year since I had the brat in1993. This was obviously a time when I had unprotected sex and I always just wanted to be sure. I thanks God that every result has been a good one and I encourage people to be tested. It's almost painless and it's very good to know.

enlightenment06 · #5 08-06-2003, 04:09 PM

I've gotten tested before. It's a very reasonable demand to ask your partner to get tested, and to SEE the results for yourself (if it's printed). If you plan on having sex with someone it's good to ask them to get tested. Period. If they refuse then sex can't happen.

nikki1920 · #6 08-06-2003, 04:14 PM

Its simple. Get tested, get your results. Proceed with your life. End of story.

SkeeWee14 · #7 08-06-2003, 04:21 PM

My boyfriend and I just discussed going to take the test together. Not to accuse the other person of anything, but simply because we feel that it's the mature thing to do when you are sexually involved. I just took one back in May prior to having surgery and I believe that going together will only strengthen our relationship...unless he comes back positive. Then I'm going to be forced to open a barrel of whoop a$$ on that man! If that happens then all of y'all will know because I'm going to be on every news network across the country.

Bamboozled · #8 08-06-2003, 04:30 PM

I would take it if asked and would ask the same in return. If a man refused to take the test, I would have to bounce. To me, that means he has something to hide or that he has participated in behavior that could possibly lead him to test positive.

I take the test every year, not because I partake in risky behavior, but I just think it's the responsible thing to do. I don't go out of my way to get tested, but I get it done when I get my yearly exam. Hell, they're taking blood anyway, so they may as well test it.

CrimsonTide4 · #9 08-06-2003, 05:22 PM

I would not object at all. We are talking about lives here. Oddly enough, I asked him when was his last AIDS test this morning.

I had my first ever back in November. I am negative.

allsmiles_22 · #10 08-06-2003, 05:34 PM

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Originally posted by Bamboozled
I take the test every year, not because I partake in risky behavior, but I just think it's the responsible thing to do. I don't go out of my way to get tested, but I get it done when I get my yearly exam. Hell, they're taking blood anyway, so they may as well test it.

Ditto.

jll79 · #11 08-06-2003, 05:44 PM

My boyfriend and I go together to get tested for everything. We just went a few months ago....everything was clear.It is just something we do together to 'just make sure' we are OK. I think it is good for a lot of couples who are sexually active with one another to get tested. You have to take care of yourself and he has to take care of his. Like my mother always told me "You Never Know".

Lady2000 · #12 08-06-2003, 06:10 PM

I'm not sexually active so I haven't taken the test. Before I do become active I will ask that the person get tested mainly because I firmly believe you only get one body and I'm not taking any chances with the only one I'm gonna get! I don't see any instance where the test would not be needed. If we are going to get down, we are definitely going to have a "share session" before!

LADY_1908 · #13 08-06-2003, 07:51 PM

Tested before I got married and then again when I had my blood work done for my pregnancy.......tests came back clear.

AKA_Monet · #14 08-06-2003, 08:05 PM

Being tested in no issue to me. Because I do research with human blood products sometimes, I am requested to get tested for HIV as a part of my job. So, hey, free test!!! Why not.

As far as my husband goes, he got tested when I asked him to before we were married. He did not have a problem with it.

What would be interesting would be to ask all the ministers, priests, pastors, etc. to get tested... That is what my former pastor was requesting folks to do... Hmmmm....

DSTDiva · #15 08-07-2003, 12:29 AM

I have another question. After you get tested, how would you respond if your partner requests that you always use condoms? Whenever I become sexually active, I plan on requesting this of my partner, but I'm afraid that he might think that I'm too uptight. I'm just trying to be careful because condoms do break.