Don't Want To Seem Fake!

[prettygyrl]

Okay hopefully this is an okay question to ask everyone. Anyway.......I have read a lot of greeks post that have said how an interest should really try and get to know the people in the org of their choice at their school. At the same time I have read how some greeks have to be extra careful because some people are only interested in their friendship because they are interested in the org that they belong to. I was wondering how does everyone handle a situation like this? I mean what is the proper way to approach someone? I would not want someone to think that I have only been talking to them because of their affiliation with the sorority. Then again I would not want to walk up to someone and say "Hi my name is.... and I am interested in your sorority" I mean that sounds kind of cheesy. How would some of you rather be approached? I have even heard that we should not let it be known what greek org we are interested in. Is that correct?I mean i could meet a girl and just kick it with her because she is cool (not because she is a part of xyz sorority) then when she find out I am interested she may assume I used her. How can an interest avoid a situation as such? I know its about fifty different questions I asked at once, but I would really appreciate a response.