What do you do to recover?

MTSUGURL · #1 03-10-2003, 05:32 PM

What do you do to recover fromn a break up?

I, like many many other girls, cut or dye my hair when I am dumped or dump a guy. Why do we do this? I think it's to prove that we have control, and it's a major change that's only temporary.

I have a friend that has a bonfire to burn all the stuff she gets from her ex's after they break up. Call me crazy, but I like keeping clothes, jewelry, etc...

Dionysus · #2 03-10-2003, 05:35 PM

Send him threats. What's funny people tend to believe my threats.

Really, I only "broke up" once. What made me recover was when my ex saw me w/ my new BETTER man.

CrimsonTide4 · #3 03-10-2003, 05:38 PM

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Originally posted by Dionysus
Send him threats.

LOL, you have issues.

I have never done any of that til Rico. With him

I burned all the letters he ever wrote me as well as picture of us.

BURN BABY BURN!!

Usually I just play sad music, maybe watch Waiting to Exhale or at least listen to the soundtrack.

Peaches-n-Cream · #4 03-10-2003, 05:44 PM

Apparently, flushing his things down the toilet can be cathartic.

Honestly, do things that you enjoy for yourself. If you like movies, working out, shopping, reading, dancing, etc. then do those things. Also, surround yourself with loving, gentle, and supportive people.

ZTAngel · #5 03-10-2003, 07:01 PM

I go out and party with my friends. I try to keep myself as busy as possible to keep my mind off of it.

nucutiepie · #6 03-10-2003, 07:52 PM

I cut and/or dye my hair.

For some reason I find that throwing a party to celebrate my being single again helps too!

aephi alum · #7 03-10-2003, 08:09 PM

Stuff I've done after breakups:

Partied with my friends and copious amounts of ice cream and/or alcohol
Rearranged the furniture in my room
Gone for long runs alone (bad idea if you're in Boston in February... brrr)
Cut him out of my pictures (not literally - I used Photoshop

)
Thrown myself into my studies and other activities - kept busy

... and, in the due course of time, moved on.

ADPiViolets · #8 03-10-2003, 08:19 PM

I've trained myself to focus primarily on his negatives (which were actually quite a bit!) This way, I find it easier to give over them.

FiReKraCkEr · #9 03-10-2003, 11:14 PM

The thing is is that I tend to never get over exes....well the ones who break up with me. I cry, eat chocolate, and sulk all day. And when I see them around, I walk the other way so they won't see me get emotional.

Hmmmm, I only have one ex who broke up with me so.....yeah, I'm still not over him.

The ones I break up with....I go out and have fun. Simple as that.

chideltjen · #10 03-11-2003, 01:00 AM

a really bad habit i have... but it helps. I go shopping. Every time i am down about something... usually men... i go buy myself a new outfit or at least the material to make myself a new outfit. It helps... but doesn't do much for the bank account.

throwing out pictures helps. taking down things that he gave you that are plastered all over your room.
my last breakup I couldn't eat so i dunno if i could sit and eat ice cream all day.

watch chick flicks... even tho i don't care for them myself.

hang with friends... Jose and JD

(Really I am)

CrimsonTide4 · #11 03-11-2003, 01:09 AM

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Originally posted by chideltjen
watch chick flicks... even tho i don't care for them myself.

Legally Blonde is a good one.

MTSUGURL · #12 03-11-2003, 02:12 AM

Oh yeah - 2 more things:

Chocolate chip cookie dough and either the movie While You Were Sleeping or Boys and Girls.

sigmagrrl · #13 03-17-2003, 09:59 AM

I just have to recommend one thing: DON'T SEE HIM FOR BENEFITS. Actually, DON'T SEE HIM PERIOD. This is what made ( hell, it's still making ) my break up harder. I work with the dufus and he sits literally 6 feet from me, right across from me, staring into my face all day! ARGH! It's hard, especially when the phone rings and he lights up and he start whispering. I DIE! UGH....

AlphaSigLana · #14 03-17-2003, 12:44 PM

KDATUTC I'm so glad that I am not the only one who gets really depressed and cries all the time.
I usually get rid of stuff my exes gave me and throw out the photos. But I don't have anything from my last ex except pics and I can't bring myself to throw them out.
I did go running for a few days after the latest breakup. I also actually drove to Boulder-- and I hate driving the highway(because I have a fear of changing lanes and getting lost by taking the wrong exit). so i have never driven to Boulder, but I did it and I didn't get lost. So, now that I've done it, I have nothing to be afraid of.

James · #15 03-17-2003, 01:01 PM

Sex with someone else is key. . . if you are more prudish. Sex play with someone else. Hook-up. Makes you feel desirable and sexy as well as releases sexual frustration.

In lieu of that, frequent "self-release" with the aid of a power tool. I am actually not kidding. If you can lower the sexual frustration problem you lower the "getting over it" time.