HORRENDOUS BEAT DOWN

[prettygyrl]

I thought i would take the time to share this with everyone......Yesterday at work I had a very sad conversation with a woman who happen to walk up as me and a few of my co-workers were discussing something pertaining to a sorority(which will remain nameless) anyway.......this woman went on to tell us how she hated the sorority because just this past semester her daughter was pledging and she suffered a beatdown that had her hospitalized for a short time! She said that what she really could not understand is why her daughter was more angry at her for insisting that she drop out of the line than she was at the girls who beat her up. She said her daughter claimed she did not want to be "paper"(how i hate that term) and that the beating was necessary and that everyone got one hers just affected her more! I was really saddened by this! I went on to tell the lady that although I was not greek, it is something that i am going to pursue beacuse it is really a positive thing. I explained to her that although the sorority that we spoke of was not my sorority of choice, I did know many women who were a part of the sorority and that they have NEVER taken part in such things and that they are also doing great things for their surrounding community and more. I told her that unfortunately different chapters do things in different ways and she must understand that alot of ths type of behavior goes unreported(as in her daughters case). I told her that I think they should report what happened because working torward the end of this type of treatment must be a joint effort and people can stop what is not known. If it is reported, I told her maybe it will decrease (if not completley eliminate) the next line of pledgees from having to deal with this. At the end of the convo I think that she understood what i meant. I also told her to tell her daughter that she should still wear her letters proudly and be active in her sorority. She should pay no attention to those who may insist that she is "paper"(i hate that term) Because after all its not about how you obtain your letters(unless you obtain them under false pretenses) it is what you do with them once you have them!..............Anyway I just want to tell all the prospectives out there! It is not worth it! I mean it is very important to me that I obtain membership in the sorority of my choice but I will not take a beat down from no one! I do not see any correlation in beating me up and love, loyalty and sisterhood! I have no problem with pledging. It may be a good experience for some. If it involves a beating then that is when it becomes a bad thing. When a parent beats a child that is not love! When a man beats a woman that is not love!(or vice versa) So if a woman beats me up one day and expects me to believe that she loves me the next and that now we are bonding.......I beleive that is bullshit! I do not know about yall but I really do not think I if got beat up by someone, or a group of people, that it would make me feel closer to them. So prospectives do not lose sight of your goal if you ever run into this problem then please report it. It is not about being a tattle tale it is about doing the RIGHT thing! Do not accept beatdowns. If you are truly pursuing your choice of a greek org for the right reasons then you will know that you can love your org, support them, and be active for a lifetime, and no beatdown is going to help you do it any better! IF THERE ARE ANY GREEKS OUT THERE WHO HAVE GONE THROUGH A PLEDGE PROCESS WHERE THEY WERE HIT.........I JUST WANT TO APOLOGIZE TO YOU ON BEHALF OF THE HUMAN RACE! ALTHOUGH WE HAVE INTELLIGENT, GREAT MINDS, WE STILL MAKE BAD DECSIONS, AND TAKE PART IN SOME AWFUL THINGS AT TIMES. I AM SORRY IF ANYONE EVER DEALT WITH THAT. I HOPE THAT ANYONE WHO HAS REALIZES THAT THEY DID NOT DESERVE IT AND NO ONE ELSE DOES EITHER! SO HOPEFULLY THE ONES THAT HAVE RECEIVED IT DO NOT DISH IT OUT. WE HAVE TO BREAK THE CYLCLE AT SOME POINT!