Black Men and White Women Is it a Problem?

[kaidi06]

Of what race is Kobe's fiance? Anyway, not to be racist or anything, I feel that some Black men feel that white women are easier to handle than Black women. Many men (particularly weak or insecure ones) don't want a strong woman who can question or even challenge them. They call it "attitude". And if you're making millions why should you have to put up with that from a woman. You're famous! You're above that! That's BS. Lik I said, that's the mentality of a coward. I want, in fact I need a woman to challenge me. I can't have a woman who's a pushover. I have a strong black woman who won't put up with any BS on my part. That's what I really like about her. Again, I'm not saying white women are pushovers, or that all black woman are strong. I'm just saying that alot of black men may have this mentality and that's why they choose white women over black women.

[harlemgirl]

I also noticed that celebrities do that. but personally I feel if their happy, so be it. we also don't see it from celebrities point of view dating celebrities can be a big step altogher and we don't know how it cause we don't live that life.I hope this makes sense

[ZetaAce]

I have to agree with HarlemGirl. To each his own. If they love each other, I don't really see where color matters. Hopefully they will get married and live happily ever after. (And if not, well the ring he gave her was 7 carats, she can sell it and still be happy! LOL! Just Kidding) I don't want the trend to stop. Love shouldn't have boundaries.

[Jae]

Just to let you know my point of view. I am an African-American male and I have dated 3 "white" women and 3 "black" women...my point? It makes no damn difference to me what her race is as long as I like her personality traits/qualities. I don't get why sisters have a fit over this. It would be one thing if I said I'd ONLY date white girls, but that is NOT the case (trust me, I have met some sisters that will only date white men, and that pisses me off). I have personally never met a brother who only dates white women, so sisters...get off it! If we find the qualities we like in a woman who is not black, so what?

If I am not mistaken, I believe Kobe's fiance' is non-white. I've heard that she is either latino or filipino. If anyone knows for sure, please inform.

[tickledpink]

As long as he loves her and she loves him, it really does not matter what color she is. I think what upsets many African American women are African American men that will only date Caucasion women based on stereotypes of what they believe we are or that use dating Caucasion women as a trophy, thus belittling our women.

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[Monique]

Not to be mean or called a racist or anything like that but I think blacks should stick to blacks and so on when it comes to the dating game. I agre with Kaidi06 100%. Some black men are afraid of a strong black women. My answer to that is.....get over it cause we ain't going no where. You either love it or you don't simple as that.

[ridiculous2000]

I believe that love does not have any boundaries whether if you are black, white, fat, or skinny. I believe that a person should be with someone that makes them happy. I definitely would not sacrifice my happiness because of my families or anyone's opinions. I think that if the girl makes Kobe happy then I hope they have a prosperous and happy marriage.

[awatters]

I find white women more attractive than other women– I'm white, so this seems obvious. White women aren't any "easier" than black women, it's just that white women often find black men attractive, but black women rarely find white men attractive. That's my theory.

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andrew watters
Theta Chi – ucla

thanks everyone for your posts, i agree that color shouldn't matter (although it still does) in our society. I too prefer black men over any other because i'm a black woman , but i do find some white men attractive however 99% of the time it is the brothers that are turning my head

Yeah, I could never understand why women of any race like to date or marry only within their own race. Whether it be African-American, Latino, Asian, or Middle-Eastern. I guess Andy's right. I suppose women in some races only find men in their respective race attractive.

[Sweet Deliverance]

Spice and Questionable, I have observed quite handsome men in most ethnicities outside of the Black realm. I am a Black woman, but if I see a good looking man, I'm going to "observe". I have never dated anyone outside my ethnicity and am currently dating a Black man, but I am not blind either.

For clarification, I prefer to use the term "ethnicity" instead of "race" because we are all a part of the HUMAN RACE.

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[Asia2000]

Sweet Del -- good point about race vs. ethnicity. Who knows what my race is since I am of so many ethnicities??

Anyhow, I am primarily Asian (did you guess?) and I have dated black men. I do personally feel some real hostility from black women over this. My black girlfriends that are real close to me could care less. Actually all my friends could care less because I really wouldn't surround myself with someone who would be so offended by that.

I hate to sound cliched but it seems like in this time race is a waste of time. Things are so mixed right now. It's interesting to see just how mixed and segregated the different ethnicities are becoming at the same time. Mixing up for diversity, but everyone wants to get back to their roots (me included) -- it's interesting to see how society is balancing this whole issue.

I actually see a lot of Asian men with black women. I say go for it. If you have something to offer each other, enjoy it. You only live once, right (well, maybe not, according to Buddah . . .anyway)

Asia

PS -- Kobe is marrying a Filipina?? Good taste!! (ok, I am biased)

[AKA2D '91]

Do what you feel when it comes to dating. However, the thing that I don't like about our black male celebrities is that they get their non-white wife, everything is fine, they have one or two children... then you hear "reports of abuse,etc." or like in Montell Williams' case, you get a disease and 'ole girl leaves. Then, you want to "come back" to the sympathetic, empathetic black community. Look at OJ, OoooooKKKKKK!

Look at Bryant Gumbel(News Anchor) and his affairs. Especially while he was married.