Dating Commandments

[ilovemyglo]

Okay so my friend and I are both single and having fun and we came up with rules for dating.
We don't want boyfriends, so this is our 10 Commandments if you will!

1.Thou shalt not blow off men unless they are obnoxious and drunk. They have friends that are cute and sometimes they become good friends even if they are not “HOT”.
2.Thou shalt not date any guy that one’s best friend totally disapproves of (i.e. Chris Sanders, Luke, etc.)
3.Thou shalt consult one another before going out to meet men so as not to show up in the same damn shirt!
4.Thou shall be courteous to men until they do something so as not to deserve it.
5.Thou shalt not cock block.
6.Thou shalt consult friends while wearing beer goggles before giving out phone number or going home so as not to make a Coyote Ugly mistake.
7.Thou shall continue to go out with friends on weekend and not put toys before friends (only exemption is if the term BOYFRIEND is used to describe the man in question).
8.Thou shall drunk dial.
9.Thou shall help friends out by introducing other men to them whenever possible so as to give them options as well. (Past booty calls are acceptable, past boyfriends not.)
10.Thou shall have fun, and if he makes you cry you must rid yourself of him immediately (unless they are tears of joy, excitement or during sex).

[James]

Thou shalt not kill thine own buzz . . .

When you are infatuated and feel yourself falling for the other person . . let yourself fall kids! If you are going to get hurt, wait for them to hurt you, don't start the process yourself with negative self-talk. Or worse kill a potentially good relationship because you are afraid of feeling! (A trick everyone has done).

[valkyrie]

Great rules, ilovemyglo! I love it!!!

I especially like "thou shall drunk dial" -- fun!!

And of course James writing drips wisdom! It's so easy at the start of what might or might not become a Relationship to freak out and get scared and stressed out with the "what ifs" -- what if this doesn't work out, what if he doesn't like me as much as I like him, etc. It's important to realize that if it's not going to work out, well, then, fine but you might as well enjoy it now! And who knows, maybe it'll end up being awesome.

[LeslieAGD]

What about "thou shall not date each others exs?"

[japhir]

Thou shalt not turn down a free drink from anyone, no matter how bad they look. (Reference non-hot rule above) The buyer may be there with hot friends.

[James]

Rule: The Quality of your relationship is determined by how you and your partner behave when you are not feeling loving or happy.

Any fricking moron will do nice things or behave well for you when they feel all lovey dovey or happy or whatever. How boring!

A true partner will do nice things and behave well even if they had a bad day, are in a bad mood, or just woke up so irritable they hate you for a few hours lol.

You can't make your partner be that way, but you can be that way yourself . . . which will make you awesome and deserving of better treatment .

[DeltAlum]

Originally posted by James
Any fricking moron will do nice things or behave well for you when they feel all lovey dovey or happy or whatever. How boring!

I nominate James for GC Chaplain. You can always count on him for sage advice.

[James]

Does that mean I have to be an example of old fasioned straight laced moral propriety? If so i may have to decline, unless I can have a raging private life lol .

Originally posted by DeltAlum

I nominate James for GC Chaplain. You can always count on him for sage advice.

[DeltAlum]

Originally posted by James
Does that mean I have to be an example of old fasioned straight laced moral propriety?

Hell no. I nominated you for Chaplain, not Saint.

[deltaphi94]

James and DeltAlum~ Thanks for making me smile. Ah, the words of wisdom and humor can do wonders.

[James]

Rule: Always argue or fight naked and touching.

A friend of mine went to a wedding once and while talking to the Priest that was the advice he gave her.

Fighting and arguing is often a failure of intimacy and a symptom of frustration.

If you find that your desire to fight diminishes with nudity and touching, it shows that your argument is probably more an example of a lack of intimacy and frustration then a legitimate problem.

Plus, it makes the don't argue in public rule most couples have a lot easier to enforce.

[James]

Thou Shalt not have make-up sex for at least 24 hours AFTER a fight.

Most people lack the relationship skills necessary to maintain passion in a relationship. Or else, they are staying too long in a dead relationship lol.

What people will do as a substitute because they crave drama is unconsciously pick fights. Then they have "make-up sex". The sex is better because it came from a passionate encounter (the fight) and there is greater intimacy because they just made-up. However, the make-up sex reinforces the whole fight cycle . .. boring but typical lol

[AXOLiz]

Those sound a lot like the rules my friend and I have about picking up men. Another one we have is:

Try one new thing - that doesn't involve picking up men - and travel to one new place every month.

We made a list of cool stuff we want to do, like fly a plane, try yoga, learn to give massages, take a wine tasting class, etc. We also made a list of the places we want to go. You end up doing something good for yourself, and a new experience gives you something to talk about with all the men you pick up. And we've met some really cool people while we're out traveling or trying something new. Plus, when you're single, you can road trip to Niagara for the weekend to play slots and take pictures with cardboard Mounties and flirt indiscriminately and not have to worry about anything but maximizing your own fun.

[shadokat]

AMEN to that sistah!

Originally posted by japhir
Thou shalt not turn down a free drink from anyone, no matter how bad they look. (Reference non-hot rule above) The buyer may be there with hot friends.