what does dg mean to you?

sarahDG · #1 09-25-2002, 02:09 AM

hi--
i have to say that i am very disenchanted with delta gamma at this point...in fact i am fairly close to regretting the day i ever accepted my bid. i just went through what (i hope) is the hardest year of my life, and i have survived...but i have lost all of my sisters. i put in a year and a half of dedicated service to my chapter through holding office and countless other things (i've even gotten member of the year the past two years), and now i guess none of that matters. i made a mistake, i will admit that. but now, instead of supporting me or even just staying nuetral, my chapter has turned completely against me...leaving me with no option but to sit alone and cry. i got an email from my pleadge mom today...who for the past year and a half has been my closest, most trusted friend. and the email told me to do her a favor and not persue our friendship. i am torn between incredible sadness and anger. and i am torn because for the year and a half that things were good, they were great. but once i am revealed to be human, i am deserted. i am sorry to post such a depressing message, but as i said before, i have no one else. i keep going back to the oath of friendship and our rituals...and, well, i guess they really don't matter.

DeeGeeAndi · #2 09-25-2002, 11:54 PM

I wish that I had a true answer for you. But doesn't Delta Gamma mean that, you can come post something on our message board and another DG, though she may not be at your school, will tell you that - in your time of need - she will be there for you. I dont know the circumstances that surround you, but i do know that if you need someone to turn to, someone to talk to... i'll be there. - PopRoxCutie - aim - if you need some other way to get ahold of me... let me know...

itb

andrea

bentonfrazer · #3 09-26-2002, 08:47 PM

You are a true Hannah, please try to remember that. It's times like these when you have to remember that you will not be left in the storm alone.
ITB!
shelly a.

CutiePie2000 · #4 09-27-2002, 06:31 PM

Sarah,

I am sorry to hear that your experience with Delta Gamma has not been a pleasant one. As you are part of a new chapter, there must be an Chapter Advisor or Advisors that you could speak to (i.e. someone is in an alumna). I would strongly advise you to speak with her and tell her how you are feeling, and that you are unhappy, hurt and feeling deserted. Delta Gamma sisters are supposed to be there for you, and while we here on GC cannot be there geographically for you, I think you will find that DGs here on GC are willing to listen.

Your college years are supposed to be some of the happiest of your life, and from how things sound, your life sounds to be a far cry from that. You need to speak to someone who has life experience and can help to advise you in your predicament.

Good Luck and I will be crossing my fingers for a positive outcome.

sarahDG · #5 09-29-2002, 04:23 AM

i have to tell you that i literally have tears in my eyes. it is just so incredible to me that people i have never met, never had the opportunity to help in anyway would be so supportive as opposed to the people i have done so much for over the past few years. it really is amazing. i have always found myself believing in the good of people...no matter what...and this is why.
that said, i feel like you guys might deserve a bit more background. i have struggled with many issues over the past few years, not the least of which is depression. last year in the fall, i was a missing person for 40 hours...and still have recollection of that time. i never really dealt with things properly after that and just tried to cover up by pretending that everything was fine, when really it wasn't (i still have nightmares about that). well, so i dealt...even thought the three girls with whom i was living up till that point (my dearest friends) decided that it would be best for them to severe contact with me during this hard time. then in june, i was living with a girl from my chapter...and, long story short, i charged $250 to her credit cards. i have since apologized to her about 50 times, gone through intensive treatment and tried to fix things in any way i possibly could.
before the summer, i had decided to take this semester off (i am ahead in credits, haven't liked any of my class thus far, and have no major). well, another long story short, i am no longer allowed on my campus...i can be arrested and prosecuted. i have been asked to not contact anyone...or i might be sued (and yes, this is a direct result of the actions of a "sister"). the girl from whom i stole is truly a horrible person (you wouldn't believe stories if i told them)...and she decided that it would be fun to blame all of the problems she's had in any area for the past three years on me (note: i have only known her for a year and a half). and well, 112 of the 115 girls in my chapter have decided that it's easier to listen to her and not talk to me...not even ask me about anything.
i went to campus this evening to see a good friend of mine who was sick. his frat was having a party, so he wasn't allowed to leave, so i went to see him. i knew i wasn't supposed to. what i didn't count on though was getting looks of hate from a few girls i saw from my chapter (even my own little sis)...and then having them call the police to have me escorted off campus.
it's just hard...i have been through sooooo much and done soooo much to improve myself, and well, i still have to deal with this. i am thinking of transferring, and i cannot even tell anyone about that because knowing what has been going on, there is a high possibility that someone will make a call or bribe someone to make my life even more of a mess.
it has just seemed like every time i get something under control, something else falls apart.
but thank goodness for you!!! you have no idea how much it means to have your support. i am eternally grateful! thank you!

bentonfrazer · #6 09-29-2002, 01:35 PM

It sounded like you needed to get that off your shoulders. I want to tell you that being a DG is a wonderful lifelong expirence. I have seen some of my sisters take the wayward path. At the time when they left, i was left in awe. I thought "How could my sisters, do this to their own?". At the time I felt that these people were out on a mission to destroy DG and our chapter. AS I reflect upon their actions I feel sorry for them; moreover I could kick myself for not seeing their actions as a cry for help. I love all of my DG sisters because of the bond and the secrets we share. I also know that we are all human, and we make mistakes. I know that nothing I say will change what happened in the past. But you should know that you also need to do what makes you happy. If that means tranfering to another schoool, then that's what you are going to have to do. Sometimes people also need time. I know that what I am saying is cliche; sometimes old problem solutions are the best solutions. I am always willing to talk to you sistah! Keep me posted on the outcome...
"Do Good"
shelly a.

sbhill2 · #7 09-29-2002, 09:36 PM

Sarah- I am so sorry to hear that is what a sister has been through. You have plenty of sisters here that you can turn to in need even though the sisters of your chapter seem to have turned against you. I hope that in your time off, your sisters will take the time to realize what it will be like to lose a sister like you. Sounds like you are trying hard to get your life back in order but I think its hard when there is little support behind you. I am sorry they have turned against you to the extent that they have because sisters are supposed to be there for each other day in day out for a lifetime. Best of luck to you and you know that your sisters here on GC are with you.

sarahDG · #8 10-04-2002, 02:14 AM

i love my GC sisters!!!

sarahDG · #9 10-07-2002, 12:52 AM

hi all--
so, i am supposed to be sleeping since i haven't slept well the past couple nights...and i have to wake up early, but i cannot sleep, so i thought i'd check my email. and what did i find? an email from a girl in my chapter (or my used to be chapter or whatever). it was basically a hi, how are you?, i miss seeing you email, but it seriously made me tear up. i was asked (by my atc) not to make contact with anyone from the chapter unless they contacted me first...so i have been sticking to that. when i emailed the chapter (100 girls) to tell them what was going on a couple months ago, i told them that i was leaving things up to them...and i got responses from 3 girls. so i assumed that meant the other 97 weren't talking to me. but then i get an email like this...and it just feels so good to be able to add someone to the "sisters who still care" list...that and you guys are keeping me going. so i wanted to share this tid-bit with you and say thanks again

sarah