Bad seeds

Dreamerchick · #1 07-28-2001, 03:48 AM

I was at a lil' gathering/ kick back the other day that my friend from a fraternity was throwing. I was hanging out in his room with him and one of his fraternity brothers talking and having a good time when we hear people come in the house from downstairs, so my friend that was throwing the gathering answered it. It ends up being his "twin" from a sorority that I am interested in (not blood twins, but twin in greek terms whatever that means). She makes her way upstairs to check who was there... and she looked into the room that I was in with that other fraternity dude was in (the door was wide open) and walked away after 1 sec saying "No one important." Even though she practically made it known that she does not like the guy I was in the room with at ALL.. I thought that was REALLY rude and uncalled for and totally pissed me off!

Makes me think twice about this sorority because of one bad seed even though I like some of the other girls that I have met.

Anyone else have related stories? Or even met a bad seed before you rushed and didn't join that soro because of a bad seed?

Thrillhouse · #2 07-28-2001, 04:38 AM

One person does not reflect a whole organization. Maybe she was trying to find someone in particular but that person wasn't there. The situation doesn't sound like anything that was meant to be rude per se. Even if there was a person that acted rude sometimes, there are always plenty of others in a soroity that aren't rude.

Tom Earp · #3 07-28-2001, 03:57 PM

Very well said EX, as there are BUTT WIPES in all organizations! One MORON doest not mean they all are whether he, she, or it!

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SSS1365 · #4 07-30-2001, 08:59 AM

Honestly, I was not interested in a particular sorority because of the way they treated a friend of mine, who was a sister, when she had to transfer schools. She transferred because of financial reasons and was too embarrassed to tell them, so they started making up stuff... they said she was pregnant (which was not true, in fact she was still a virgin). And when she came to visit, they totally ignored her. I didn't want to join a sorority whose members would treat their own sisters that way.

ilovemyglo · #5 07-30-2001, 10:08 AM

When rushing there were two houses that I knew I DID NOT want to be a part of. I had hung out with a fraternity the year before I rushed a lot and about six members of one sorority and two from another were always there. They were rude to all the girl that came over to the point that they told me I was not welcome there (the brothers told me to ignore them!). They would talk about all the girls behind their backs and make up rumors about everyone (including that I was sleeping around in bathrooms which was totally FALSE those guys were only my friends). SO when I went through rush I met a really nice girl at the house I despised the most. I told her that although I thought she was very sweet and would represent any org very well, some of her sisters showed me what I knew I did not want to become and I asked her to not invite me back to the second round of parties. She looked really puzzled and when I explained that my boyfriend was in the same fraternity as those six women she said that was too bad cause she really liked me and not everyone there was like that. However too many of them were for me to be comfortable there.
So sometimes it may just take a few people to turn you off to a wholeorg.

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CRMSNTiDEGRL717 · #6 07-31-2001, 02:57 AM

To answer the question about bad seeds effecting my rush from meeting before hand, I will say yes. There is a sorority at UA who has a girl in there that went to my VERY TEENY TINY HS. I was at a spring sorority rush thingy of theirs and she was TERRIBLY rude to me. I'm not going to go into details unless someone wants them, b/c I don't feel like typing it all. B/c of her, I don't want to be a part of them. That is just my opinion.
Hootie--- for me personally I could care less if the impression you make on me(as a rushee)is you might get loud and obnoxious when you're out having a good time. What matters to me is how you treat people. If you gave me the choice between a group of girls who get sloppy drunk every night(but are still kind)and a group of girls who are snots w/o reason, I would pick the sloppy drunk girls. Everyone understand what I'm trying to say? If not I'll try and explain better later. Goodnight everyone

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[This message has been edited by CRMSNTiDEGRL717 (edited July 31, 2001).]

#7 07-31-2001, 11:24 AM

I would actually like more details Crimson, because I hope it wasn't my house that was rude to you. If you want to email me privately, OTW can put you in touch.

#8 08-01-2001, 12:51 AM

Yes, please let me know!!! I'd be happy to help!

CRMSNTiDEGRL717 · #9 08-01-2001, 12:52 AM

Wine&blue--- Yes, I will e-mail you

For the record it wasn't your house

OTW--- can ya put us in touch??????

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Dianne · #10 08-01-2001, 01:17 PM

When I rushed, the vice president of one of the houses had stolen my boyfriend from me a year earlier, and they were still dating. And this guy was like my first love and we dated like FOREVER...so the fact that she was in that sorority really turned me off. Still, I tried to have an open mind about it, and a lot of the sisters are really nice girls. Of course, I was cut from that sorority b/c the boyfriend-stealer didn't want me around. I wasn't exactly devastated, but I am still friends with some of the girls in that sorority.

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KSig RC · #11 08-01-2001, 05:12 PM

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Originally posted by Dreamerchick:
Anyone else have related stories? Or even met a bad seed before you rushed and didn't join that soro because of a bad seed?

Here's an interesting twist (that, and few dudes have posted recently):

Sometimes, we get stuff like this from sororities, or from 'perception' problems. Let me explain: we've had potential rushees get bad information from sorority girls, or just random girls (usually 'friends' with another house), or ex-pledges of our house or other houses . . . the rumor mill is ridiculous, but equally so is the game of first impressions.

We've had guys tell us, "XYZ girls say you're the best house" or "ABC says that you guys have the second-best exchanges" or "IJK says that you guys are geeks" or drug use or grades or drinking or rich or poor or all-white or really diverse . . . either way, in some situations behavior can be taken out of context. I'd still give them another chance - saying "no one important" could just be an extremely poor choice of words, if he/she was just desperately looking for 2 people who had her keys. See what I'm saying? Opinions, tact, behavior, all of these are subjective and relative - so pool the group behavior together, and allow yourself to make the decision on that. One person's poor choice of words, or discomfort with being a rush-er, may not reflect on their abilities to be your sister/brother.

Wow - hope that makes sense.

#12 08-02-2001, 03:06 AM

Liz,

I just sent ya an email.

CRMSNTiDEGRL717 · #13 08-02-2001, 02:56 PM

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Originally posted by OohTeenyWahine:
Liz,

I just sent ya an email.

OTW--- THANKS

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AlphaSigLana · #14 08-02-2001, 06:41 PM

I say give them them another chance. I know that their are times that I have gotten to drunk and embarressed my house, but I think we all make mistakes. You also don't know for sure what the girl meant by that comment. But it's your choice, but I would feel bad if a little thing I did stopped a girl from joining my house. Feel free to email me and I will tell you an unfortunate incident.

33girl · #15 08-02-2001, 09:31 PM

Sororities are, indeed, just like family. Yes there are going to be sisters that aren't your faves - but just like your crazy Aunt Olga, they're family. So you put up with them and come to find out that because of that family bond, you would protect them against any threat from outside and they would protect you. Sure there are sisters from my chapter I don't absolutely adore, but if any of them were in trouble I would help them and I know they would do the same for me.

Sometimes people are just having bad days, this girl might see you at a rush party next week and be nice as pie. Even if she's not, if you really like the rest of the girls don't let one person ruin what could be something great for you.