First impressions -- am I too much?

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

Hi all. I've got a question about rush. We have something called "heart pals," which is a sister that is paired up with a PNM during recruitment and sticks with her for the whole party (usually the whole rush, but sometimes she's got a class later in the week or whatever.) The idea is that there's one sister who hears EVERYTHING the PNM says, and therefore gets a really through impression of her, and the PNM is never alone in a room of girls she doesn't know.

My question.... what would most put a PNM at ease? I was a heart pal last year -- I have a bit of a, shall we say, overwhelming personality -- and loved it. My sisters tease that I could talk to a brick wall (but on the bright side, I almost always endeded up getting information out of the PNM nobody else did.) But after reading so many posts about overwhelming sisters at rush parties, I was wondering --

What would make you most at ease, encourage you the most, make you feel the most comfortable, in a heart pal if you were a PNM?


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~ Jacquelyn