Everyone: if you had the chance to go through rush again...

fabulous229 · #1 07-19-2002, 04:55 PM

If you all had the chance to go through rush again, knowing what you know now, what would you do different?? If you wouldn't change anything, why not?

Dionysus · #2 07-19-2002, 05:21 PM

That would be it. Instead taking the easy way out, doing the COB thing, I should've went through formal rush. We only have a few sororities, I should've rushed for all of them to get the "feel". That would've cut down a lot of confusion and doubts and "what ifs" about the other sororities I was interested in at that time.

FuzzieAlum · #3 07-19-2002, 05:23 PM

Wow, what an interesting question.

I am a different person than I was when I rushed, even though it was only 8 years ago. I'm sure I'd weigh things very differently. I guess I'm more at peace with society's rules - I wouldn't assume a chapter was full of mindless conformists just because they dressed better during rush, for example. And I'd pay more attention to whether a chapter excelled in various areas - I don't mean which is most popular, but a chapter that could point with pride to its achievements.

However, in the end, would I end up someplace different? I don't know. Well, technically, yes, because my chapter is now closed, so joining it wouldn't be an option.

And the chapters have changed, too, so the chapter I rejected before for being full of sweet but uninteresting girls is now producing the top campus leaders.

But if we had a magical time machine that could transport me back in time to my formal rush, keeping me who I am while turning me back into a freshman - well ... would I retain the foreknowledge I have now? Knowing my chapter would shrink and close? Knowing that several of my favorite people from my second choice chapter depledged and went elsewhere? Knowing that, I would stay where I am now, because I have a strong belief in my sorority's unique ideals and outlook, and I'm in this for life. But if I didn't know any of that, and was looking forward to those four years of college with a blank slate, I very might well have chosen differently. And no matter where I joined, I'm sure I'd look back later and see strengths of the other chapters I missed at the time, and weaknesses in my own chapter I had not anticipated.

AOII_Luv · #4 07-19-2002, 05:31 PM

I would also have gone through formal recruitment. My freshman year was when AOII recolonized and it was an interview process. I totally love where I am, but it makes me wonder where I might have ended up if I had gone through the formal recruitment process.

aephi alum · #5 07-19-2002, 05:36 PM

Interesting question.

I cut two sororities immediately at the beginning of formal rush. I would have given them more of a chance.

I would have done a lot more research into sororities in general and the specific chapters before rushing. GC wasn't around back then - I wish it had been!

I would have shown up to see who invited me to pref before making the decision to drop out of rush. It would have been interesting to see if I had been invited back and where. Now I'll never know.

In the end, though, I probably would still have gone where I did.

nauadpi · #6 07-19-2002, 05:46 PM

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Originally posted by AOII_Luv
I would also have gone through formal recruitment. My freshman year was when AOII recolonized and it was an interview process. I totally love where I am, but it makes me wonder where I might have ended up if I had gone through the formal recruitment process.

I completly agree with you here. I went through cob to join ADPi and I think it would have been a good idea to go through formal recruitment.

sweetie adpi · #7 07-19-2002, 11:16 PM

i would have gone through in the first place!!

... at the time, i NEVER would have joined a sorority if it weren't for cob, but now... now the fact that i never went through formal recruitment is a regret of mine... just to have had that experience would be a good thing. though at the time, i probably would have just dropped out before invites went out...

AGDPrincess70 · #8 07-20-2002, 12:31 AM

I would have gone through when I wanted to, which was fall semester of my first year. But I had made a lot of friends who were very anti-greek and so, I didn't go through because I didn't want them to be upset. I pretended to hate sororities and fraternities as much as they did, even though i wanted to be a part of a sorority so bad. So during winter semester my soph year, I said f*ck it and went to a COB, which turned out to be the best decision I ever made. I wish I could have met all of the sororities, but after meeting girls from other sororities, I realized that I wouldn't have been happy any place else.

Betarulz! · #9 07-20-2002, 12:51 AM

I would have toured SigEp and SAE.

Having Summer rush meant that I basically toured the houses after my Orientation day, the houses I ended up touring ended up being the ones I considered.

At the time, being as naive as I was, I didn't know which houses were frats and which were sororities, so I ended up usually going only to houses that either had an open door or people out front (or the ones that I had heard others talk about)...not realizing that at Nebraska, the sororities are on the opposite side of the streets as the fraternities. Or that I could have checked the web to find out for sure.

I also would have turned my rush application in way earlier.

I know now that I wouldn't have joined either of the two houses I skipped, but one of them may have slipped in to a distant second at one point.

Peaches-n-Cream · #10 07-20-2002, 01:39 AM

Unfortunately, they didn't have formal rush the semester that I rushed and pledged. The main reason I would have gone through formal rush is to meet other people in the other sororities. Without a doubt, the result would have been the same!

ZHLyreGirl · #11 07-20-2002, 01:44 AM

After thinking about it for a bit I realize i wouldn't have changed anything about my rush experience. I think going into it knowing i could drop out if i totally hated it, was calming. there wasn't any pressure from anyone really. And i accually did it just wanted to meet different people and see all the houses. Have an AWSOME Rho Chi helped too! The first day i knew right where i wanted to end up, and although opinions changed slightly, on bid day I had that feeling that this is where i was supposed to go and knew i would have a great time

YEA ALPHA CHI!!

ZHLyreGirl · #12 07-20-2002, 01:46 AM

After thinking about it for a bit I realize i wouldn't have changed anything about my rush experience. I think going into it knowing i could drop out if i totally hated it, was calming. there wasn't any pressure from anyone really. And i accually did it just wanting to meet different people and see all the houses. Having an AWSOME Rho Chi helped too! The first day i knew right where i wanted to end up, and although opinions changed slightly, on bid day I had that feeling that this is where i was supposed to go and knew i would have a great time

YEA ALPHA CHI!!

ZHLyreGirl · #13 07-20-2002, 01:46 AM

opps sorry bout that

PSUSigKap · #14 07-20-2002, 02:08 AM

looking back i probably would have chosen different topics to talk about. i was a little freshman who didn't know any better. i went to high school overseas where drinking was allowed at 16, so i'd been drinking for a while. i'm not like out of control or anything, but my experiances got brought up a couple places where i think it hurt me. ultimately i think i still would've ended up sigma kappa, because of my strong family legacy (5 + me) but i think i would have had a different pref nite if i'd talked about something else.

theta sig agd · #15 07-20-2002, 04:56 AM

Looking back I am glad things went the way they did. I went through formal rush and though i didnt put all the effort I should have into, I just dont think I would have fit in anywhere.

Then AGD came to campus. To tell you the truth I didnt think I was going to try it either due to not fitting in to the other groups on campus. But I was walking into the Student Center in sweats, t shirt and cap (a lazy day!) and was met by this AWESOME Alpha GAm. She totally didnt care how I looked that day and told me all about the new sorority on campus. So I thought about it and decided to give it a try. Since then I have never looked back!!