Getting Over EX's

GreekLetterGirl · #1 04-03-2002, 02:36 PM

LeslieAGD · #2 04-03-2002, 03:12 PM

Getting over an ex just takes time...a lot of time usually. If you wanna talk, PM me. I know what it's like to not be able to get over an ex.

Peaches-n-Cream · #3 04-03-2002, 03:41 PM

It's so difficult getting over someone. I hope that you feel better about things.

GreekLetterGirl · #4 04-03-2002, 04:53 PM

Read this today and thought that it was soo true....

http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showth...62#post1750823

Honest advice about love...

James · #5 04-03-2002, 04:53 PM

Not to be unsympathetic . . . but is this the same EX that treated you badly before, that you broke up months ago with, still try and maintain conact with against all advice, and took to your formal the other night . . again against all advice? It doesn't sound like you really want to get over him . . .

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Originally posted by GreekLetterGirl
I am sorry I know that this has been asked before, but my ex and I had a HUMONGOUS falling out last night... I know that I am at fault for calling him drunk... but he sent me this horrid email this morning telling me that I am in need of joining a psycho club and that I need to know that "we" never happened and some other nasty stuff... any sugguestions.... I mean things where really looking better but I guess not......

pbpck · #6 04-03-2002, 05:07 PM

Ok, I was in a similar awful situation last spring. Honestly there are a few things that will help. First, you should find out what you
said in the alleged drunk dial.

If getting back together is not a plausable option...
-Hang out with your girlfriends who tell you what a superior jerk he is... that always made me feel better.
-Make resolutions for yourself with guys (I will always let the guy pick up the check on the first date, I will never yell at him before calmly trying to explain, I will not justify a guy's actions that are less than dignified)
-Distract yourself with your sorority involvement, excercise, focus on school.
-Take all your negative energy from the break up and change it to positive energy to invest in yourself and your friends. Praise yourself and build yourself up. Your too strong to let this idiot bring you down.
-And if all else fails....shopping and a bottle of Cabernet with your girls will solve any problem.

If you want to get back together...
-Initially give him some space
-Then apologize for what you said in the drunk dial (if apologies are needed) and ask for a casual coffee session to just clarify stuff.
-Tell him that more than anything you want to salvage a friendship and whatnot.
-If that goes decently then start hanging out in the same scenes again and be pleasant towards him but down fawn
-Hopefully things will fall back into place!

Good luck. We have all been there!

Tom Earp · #7 04-03-2002, 06:29 PM

Sweety, move to KC, I am lonely and am a nice guy!

Have a Fraternity Brother in a Law Firm, the board room where I was Mon. has sawesome veiw! Everything a little slower paced here! Well at times!

I can cook, Shrimp to night, maybe! Got left over Roast Beef Taters and Carrots to do! Maybe shrimp and Lobster tail tomarrow nite!

Sounds like the guy is a jerk or a dilitaunt!

If true get the hell out of it now!

Love is blind, but so is Justice!

One of my Bros Da Judge, mentor had a serious Heart attack, Mills Lane! Ring a bell?

You get near KC, let me know, I have a couch!

Remeber, I am becoming the TRUE DIRTY OLD MAN!

justamom · #8 04-03-2002, 07:31 PM

the411 post is an excellent post and a good place to start.

We all do some "stupid" things when we are hurt and angry. When we feel we LOVE someone-it seems like that is when we let the floodgate down.

You must get the pictures and the words out of your head. You must forgive yourself for what you may have said or done. Then, accept that this is a part of the past.

You know the drill-keep busy-distracted...don't let this consume every waking moment. Find a place where you can be alone and no one can hear you. Then, sweetie, cry like there is no tomorrow, curse yourself-him-anyone you've ever been hurt by and cry some more-loud and hard. It really does help and then you can honestly say-I have no tears left and I just can't cry anymore. You will still have moments where you cry-because it's like death in a way-you will never have that person with you again. You will get over this...in time.

"Though nothing can bring back the hour, of splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower, we will grieve not. Rather, find strength in what remains behind."

credit, where credit is due!
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow- Ode on Intimations of Immortality

Peaches-n-Cream · #9 04-04-2002, 01:41 AM

I posted this poem in another thread a while back. I hope that it helps. Take care!

"After a While" by Veronica A. Shoffstall

After a while you learn
the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn
that love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't always mean security.
And you begin to learn
that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of woman, not the grief of a child
and you learn
to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is
too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down
in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn...

LeslieAGD · #10 04-04-2002, 08:28 AM

Cream, that's an excellent poem!

Peaches-n-Cream · #11 04-04-2002, 06:06 PM

Thanks! I wish that I could take credit for it. I hope that it helps.

Tom Earp · #12 04-04-2002, 06:19 PM

I read some where many years back, of course, that for each male and female, there are on the average of 1,296 possible matches per person!

I have not met that many so there are a lot going out there going to waste!

I was crazy over a girl, not my ex wife! Thought about eating the end of a gun! Da, dumb idea!

There are to many nice and lovely people out here in the world to stay with an Ass Whole! (my opinion of course!)

You are smart, intelligent, and very nice looking! Go into the real world and find some one like me! I am a GREAT GUY! But maybe a little to mature!

BESTEST TO THE BESTEST!!!!!

What if I need a good Legal Fleagal, are you available!

Hang in Sweety, you have a lot of Good Freinds Here!

gamma_25 · #13 04-04-2002, 08:22 PM

hey there...well all i can say is that it's hard...it takes time to get over something so difficult...as long as your strong and u have friends who support u then you'll be fine...the pain will slowly go away and it's just going to take time...i know that when my first love dissed me...i fell hard...but i just thought to myself that sometimes its just going to happen and that i'm worth something big that he's just missing out on..and from there i moved on...it took a while to realize that time was going to heal my pain and that life was to move on...and when i least expected it i found my new love....KEVIN...hes been with me for almost a year and it's been great...with time things will happen for the better and don't think that it's not going to ok....= )