Backstabing brother

PsiU1833 · #1 06-16-2001, 02:19 PM

lets say one of ur brothers backstabs u by going out with this girl that he knew u really liked and were sorta seeing. He goes behind ur back and then finaly asks u if its all right. what would u do?

KillarneyRose · #2 06-16-2001, 02:50 PM

Hope I'm not treading into guy territory here, but I figure that I can just tell you how I would feel if it were my sister doing the backstabbing.

Honestly, if I were in your situation I would be more upset with the girl in question than with your brother (although, of course, I wouldn't be feeling too kindly toward him at the moment either). Remember, he couldn't take her out without her permission.

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gammazetagrl · #3 06-17-2001, 02:37 AM

I feel the same way as KillarneyRose. If I were the brother who got backstabbed, i would be mad at the girl as well because if she knew i was already kinda seeing her and then went behind my back with my other brother...but of course, i would try to get their sides of the stories first. maybe the girl didn't think that we were really "seeing each other" or something --that happened to me in real life, my ex and i had one of those "so where do we exactly stand?" talks because we still kinda flirted/saw each other people at the very very early stages of us "seeing each other" but until we talked about it that's when it became official.

then of course, if worse comes to worse, the girl has to make an ultimatum. of course, whatever she chooses i wouldn't put it against my brother because a brother is still a brother, and the cardinal rule is never neglect your male/female (what more a brother/sister!)friends once u find a girl/boyfriend....because relationships come and go, but brother/sisterhood is forever.

shadokat · #4 06-18-2001, 09:52 AM

I don't know about guys, but I know girls in my crowd have an unwritten rule that you do not go after guys that another has stated feelings for. I'd be really pissed, and I don't know if I'd talk to him for quite a while.

lambda_chi_alpha_IDZ_816 · #5 06-19-2001, 03:11 AM

Bro's before ho's man (no offense to the ladies) a brother should always respect the wishes of another when it comes to ladies. Girls come and go, but brotherhood lasts forever.

mgdzkm433 · #6 06-19-2001, 09:53 AM

Coming from a female here, I think dating and sorority/fraternity stuff is different. In a situation over a girl, in my opinion you're just two guys--you just HAPPEN to be fraternity brothers. Were you FRIENDS with this brother? I loved my sorority and my sisters, but I wasn't FRIENDS with all my sisters. If you and this guy were friends, not just brothers, than I might be upset, but otherwise--I dont' see a problem. Of course, I agree with everyone else too--I'd be mad at the girl!

UNFSigmaChi · #7 06-19-2001, 10:00 AM

Its ok...he's probably a TKE. I went to another sig party who hosted with TKE and they were starting fights amoungst their own brothers...wonderful TKE chapter! But when you blanket bid thats what happens....sorry zntke i couldn't resist. This is fun.

gammazetagrl · #8 06-19-2001, 10:06 AM

Im sorry UNFSigmaChi but the way you bash TKEs is starting to bug me. You seem to do it as a joke but if it's done in multiple posts in other topics where organizations' names don't even matter it's not funny anymore, just plain five minutes ago. Maybe the TKEs in your area aren't all that but in my campus they are and in fact, there are some stuff about the Sigma Chis here that I could dare mention but rather not.

SigmaChiCard · #9 06-19-2001, 10:07 AM

mad at the girl?

If you're kinda seeing her
then you're kinda not
and things might not work out
that's acceptable

but when it's your boy that's imposing
and causing the 'not work out' part to come along much quicker and more inevitable, that sucks - and it should never be the case

I'd say the relationship chance is fucked for you...to be honest...but let him know what's up...let him know you don't appreciate it at all...he ruined your chances with a girl you were seeing..and ask him what he'd do in the same sity...let him know you're mad at him...but past that, I wouldn't really do anything

PsiU1833 · #10 06-20-2001, 12:26 AM

im a Psi U not a TKE (thankgod......j/k), but anyways me and the brother in question r friends like i am with ALL my brothers and the girl isnt the thing that got me its the fact that he waited to tell me he was taking her out and not bothering to tell me before and ask if it was alright. so he was doing it behind my back and thats something that never would expect from any of my brothers.

SLOTheta · #11 06-23-2001, 03:46 AM

Guys are just totally clueless sometimes when it comes to girls...your brother might not have known how serious you were with this girl, if you were serious at all. If he did know you were seeing her, that's his bad, but if he didn't know, he didn't know.

There have been several times in my house that two girls have liked the same guy, or liked a guy that another sister once dated, but had no idea...and it's not like the guy is going to let her in...they don't take relationships seriously, and see 'dating' as nothing to comment about, unless they were girl friend/boyfriend, whereas, girls, we are serious about everything!!!

I wouldn't hold anything against your bro, girls come and go, don't let the little things get between you guys.