When the going gets tough...

SoTrue1920 · #1 01-25-2002, 09:55 PM

... the tough go shopping.

But seriously, what do you do when no matter what you've tried, no matter how you've tried to be open-minded and open-hearted, a person just flat out gets on your last nerve? What if this person is in your church organization, workplace, book club, or..dare I say it... chapter?

None of those situations apply to me, but I welcome any and all suggestions.

SigmaRhoyalty2K1 · #2 01-26-2002, 02:45 AM

I used to meditate! It may sound crazy but, something about all that quiet really calms my nerves! I need to start doing that again because my last nerve is wearing VERY THIN!

SigmaRhoyalty2K1

SoTrue1920 · #3 01-26-2002, 12:11 PM

That's not a bad idea, SigmaRhoyalty. Maybe I need to go back to my yoga classes.

twistedsister · #4 01-26-2002, 05:00 PM

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Originally posted by SoTrue1920
... the tough go shopping.

But seriously, what do you do when no matter what you've tried, no matter how you've tried to be open-minded and open-hearted, a person just flat out gets on your last nerve? What if this person is in your church organization, workplace, book club, or..dare I say it... chapter?

None of those situations apply to me, but I welcome any and all suggestions.

well...i personally feel that regardless of the connective association i have with an individual...if they don't play an edifying role in my life...there is no reason for them to be in it...i heard somone say once that you should never be "friends" with anyone you aren't equal with...some would disagree with that...that equality could be in mind, in stature, in goal, all three, one area, or whatever you feel is of most importance in your life...you have to come in contact with certain people...that doesn't mean you have to like it or prolong that contact unnecessarily...do what you gottah do...and bounce...i agree with the meditation/relaxation thing...it really works...i think it creates more stress to convince yourself that you HAVE to put up with EVERYBODY's bs...there are certain things you HAVE to deal with and other things that are just rediculous and need to be called as they are...for what they are...breathe...that's all i can really think of...

Special1920 · #5 01-26-2002, 05:33 PM

I would pray on it, but I would also get that person out of my life.
No pretense of friendshipwould Idisplay. Life is too short.

CkretCrush8 · #6 01-26-2002, 05:40 PM

Definitely P R A Y. Ask God to help me deal with, limit my contact, or remove the person from my life.

SoTrue1920 · #7 01-27-2002, 01:11 AM

twistedsister, you're right. It's not as if I really *have* to put up with the person in question for an extended period of time, I was just wondering if there was any other way to salvage our relationship, or at least make our interactions less painful for the both of us.

Thanks for the advice.

DOVE1920 · #8 01-27-2002, 04:16 PM

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Originally posted by CkretCrush8
Definitely P R A Y. Ask God to help me deal with, limit my contact, or remove the person from my life.

I agree! Lawd knows I don't need any more stressful people in my life.

PrettyKitty · #9 02-01-2002, 03:15 PM

Ignore, Ignore, Ignore