Rude remarks...

UofIL AXO · #1 12-20-2001, 02:22 PM

Sorry to talk about things not so in tune with the holiday spirit .... but...

There's something I constantly experience and just irks me everytime. When I meet a new personal down at school or talking to people who work with me in the summer and go to my school ... obviously they ask you if you're in a house and 3 out of 10 times I get ... "Well, a girl your house did THIS" or "I had an AXO in my math class and she was a snot" or "Yeah I went to high school with an AXO and I hated her" or "Ohhhhh ... a face house ... well I wouldn't want to be part of anything superficial." AHHHHH! I think the worst one of all is a girl who's friends with my boyfriend who while she was dropping me off at the house said "oh my don't we have nice cars in the driveway, bunch of daddy's little girls??? you suburban girls are all the same"

Does anyone else experience this?????? I would never think to say things like this!!!!!!!! Where do these people come from?

I'm a nice girl!!! I love my sisters!! Don't insult me!

CutiePie2000 · #2 12-20-2001, 04:26 PM

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Originally posted by UofIL AXO
Sorry to talk about things not so in tune with the holiday spirit .... but...

There's something I constantly experience and just irks me everytime. When I meet a new persol down at school or talking to people who work with me in the summer and go to my school ... obviously they ask you if you're in a house and 3 out of 10 times I get ... "Well, a girl your house did THIS" or "I had an AXO in my math class and she was a snot" or "Yeah I went to high school with an AXO and I hated her" or "Ohhhhh ... a face house ... well I wouldn't want to be part of anything superficial." AHHHHH! I think the worst one of all is a girl who's friends with my boyfriend who while she was dropping me off at the house said "oh my don't we have nice cars in the driveway, bunch of daddy's little girls??? you suburban girls are all the same"

Does anyone else experience this?????? I would never think to say things like this!!!!!!!! Where do these people come from?

I'm a nice girl!!! I love my sisters!! Don't insult me!

UofIL AXO , I'm sorry to hear that you're having these experiences. Let's call it what it is:

PREJUDICE; that is "to pre-judge".

When you are told something like that, it makes want to just counter with
"Well, a person with green eyes last night cut me off in traffic, so all green-eyed drivers must be aggressive and have no regard for the rules of the road" or:
"A guy in a red shirt was rude to me, therefore all people in red must be rude".

If you counter with something like that, maybe people will see really how stupid and unfounded their remarks are.

Then again....

Peaches-n-Cream · #3 12-20-2001, 04:40 PM

There are people who will always say negative things which really says more about them than it could ever say about you or your sorority. They are jealous or insecure or feel threatened and as you have probably heard before "Misery loves company." Don't let those remarks affect you so much. If you feel confident enough, when someone makes an insulting remark, you can say almost exactly what you wrote. "I'm a nice girl!!! I love my sisters!! When you say that, you insult me!" They will stop if they care about you. Actually a lot of the time, people don't realize when they hurt other people so unless you tell them, they won't stop. I hope that this helps!

UofIL AXO · #4 12-20-2001, 04:42 PM

The thing that bugs me is alot of people who say this are in other HOUSES on campus!! I sometimes wonder if greek unity is an oxymoron.

lovelyivy84 · #5 12-20-2001, 05:26 PM

Just out of curiosity, how did you respond??

Sometimes people say things like that to you because they think that they can get away with it, you know?

I hope you gave as good as you got.

Quote:

Originally posted by UofIL AXO
Sorry to talk about things not so in tune with the holiday spirit .... but...

There's something I constantly experience and just irks me everytime. When I meet a new personal down at school or talking to people who work with me in the summer and go to my school ... obviously they ask you if you're in a house and 3 out of 10 times I get ... "Well, a girl your house did THIS" or "I had an AXO in my math class and she was a snot" or "Yeah I went to high school with an AXO and I hated her" or "Ohhhhh ... a face house ... well I wouldn't want to be part of anything superficial." AHHHHH! I think the worst one of all is a girl who's friends with my boyfriend who while she was dropping me off at the house said "oh my don't we have nice cars in the driveway, bunch of daddy's little girls??? you suburban girls are all the same"

Does anyone else experience this?????? I would never think to say things like this!!!!!!!! Where do these people come from?

I'm a nice girl!!! I love my sisters!! Don't insult me!

KappaStargirl · #6 12-20-2001, 05:34 PM

One night at dinner with a bunch of my fellow percussionists, a guy in my studio started going off about how frat guys were all drinkers, sorority girls were all rich and had to buy their friends, etc, and I let him go on and I smiled gently and said "Wow, Justin, you are absolutely incredible! With every word that comes out of your mouth, you sound more and more ignorant."

He shut up real fast and everyone at the table laughed at him.

AchtungBaby80 · #7 12-20-2001, 05:57 PM

Good answer.

I think everybody in a Greek organizations runs into this kind of thing at least once or twice...at least, where I'm from they do. And yes, I'm a little tired of being asked why I have to buy my friends, but I expected that before I even rushed. Sad, but...

UofIL AXO · #8 12-20-2001, 06:45 PM

The few times that it has happened I've usually been too shocked to really say anything to great. I usually mumble, well I never knew about that or well, I live with her and I think she's a great person. In the moment I never can think of those witty comments ...

UofIL AXO · #9 12-20-2001, 06:46 PM

Actually come to think of it, what do they want to get out of telling ME that??? Am I supposed to feel bad or apologize? hmmm.!

LauraKD · #10 12-22-2001, 01:05 PM

UofIL AXO,
I know what you mean. I am from Champaign area, but go to school at Eastern Illinois. I have noticed that the U of I sometimes seems to have very prejudiced notions about certain sororities- and that's totally not right. If it makes you feel any better, I went to high school with a AXO and she was great!!

dzsaigirl · #11 12-22-2001, 01:29 PM

First of all, think about the kind of person who would say things like that to you. If it were your biological sister, do you think they would say something like "Whoa, I heard that your sister is a total skank"...I think not. They #1 do not think what they are saying is offensive to you, #2 don't have the good sense to "not say anything at all" when they can't say something good. People will always try to stereotype that which they don't know about, so our job is to try to debunk stereotypes by being good representatives of our organizations. Whether you are in the mall, at a party or even driving your car (that sticker or license plate frame gives you away) people will see who you are and you should do your best to give them every reason to think you are wonderful.

Harmony · #12 12-23-2001, 09:00 PM

My sorority blocked seats at a football game this year and one of the girls brought along a few friends who were up from home. Some of them had too much to drink and one of the guys was just being absolutely obnoxious in general. He innappropriatly propositioned one of my sisters and when she refused he turned to her and called her a "rich sorority b!%@h." She turned around and slapped him. Now whether that was actually the "right " thing to do, it was funny, and he did deserve it...although I don't reccomend defending yourself like that on a regular basis. He was a gentleman the rest of his stay.

MisplacedGam · #13 12-26-2001, 02:15 AM

I get this ALOT! My absolute favorite is: "well all your sisters are snobs, but you are not like them, are you sure you are a gam?" I HATE THAT!!!! yes I am nice, so mabye not everyone is, its a shame that we can make an opinion about one organization based on a comment that someone made....maybe one of my sisters was having a bad day? I am sorry, I love my organization, but I do not feel it is my personal obligation to make everyone's day better! sure I am nice, but I am not going to walk around waving and smiling at everyone, and if I don't, why does that make me a bad person? anywho, thats just my humble opinion
tori

ErikaXO · #14 12-26-2001, 10:51 PM

I used to get that a lot....I still do actually from people who know I was in a sorority. This guy at work used to sing this song, "Chi Ho, Chi Ho, it's off to bed we go, my daddy's rich and I'm a bitch Chi Ho, Chi Ho Chi Ho Chi Ho...." I always used to just smile really sweetly at those kinds of comments and say "Yes, it's a tough life but someone has to live it" or that sort of thing.

Peaches-n-Cream · #15 12-27-2001, 01:09 AM

Erika, that's terrible and at work no less. How very rude! Sounds like he didn't get the memo about sexual harrassment. Here's a response, "Chi O, Chi O, it's off to court we go..."