Going through rush alone :( what should I do?

luckygirl · #1 09-20-2011, 04:36 PM

i dont have anyone to go to the events with. my only two friends right now dont want to rush. i really want to though and have signed up and been accepted to go through recruitment. i am nervous of going to the events though because i will be arriving alone and dont know who to go to..ill feel awkward..the first event is this friday and its in a campus building where all the sororities are in this one huge room and the rushees will go socialize and talk to them and get to know what their sorority is all about. its gonna be so scary showing up alone..i do know some girls who are rushing and i might try and find them. but they are all really close best friends ..and also im not even sure if they like me bc last semester me and one of those girls had this guy problem going on and the other stepped in and basically told me to back off and so i dont even think im on good standing grounds with them now even though that was so long ago. should i still talk to them when i see them? what if they kinda give me the cold shoulder and arent friendly? what should i say to them? they are trying for the sorority that i rlly want too. (one of the only ones that will accept my lower gpa)

KD4Me · #2 09-20-2011, 05:05 PM

I know that it is hard to walk into a room full of people by yourself, but if none of your friends are going through recruitment, it's just something that you're going to have to do, if you want to participate. It is likely that there will be some sort of registration table or greeters at the door who will be welcoming people. If it's an event where sorority women and PNMs mingle, the sorority women will be looking for PNMs to talk to, so you won't likely be by yourself for long. I wouldn't bother with contacting the friends you mentioned - the point it to meet sorority women and learn about their organizations, not to stick with other non-affiliated women. Good luck! Remember that if you "fake" confidence well, no one can tell that you're faking.

33girl · #3 09-20-2011, 05:32 PM

Listen to me: YOU. ARE. LUCKY. (duh, that's your name)

-You don't have to worry about you and your friends not liking the same groups.

-You don't have to worry about one of you getting cut and one of you getting invited back.

-You won't have to fake your feelings in front of your friends - you can vent to them if you want.

-You can borrow clothes from them big time because they don't have to worry about what they're wearing in rush.

Don't try to hang out with a group of girls who you're unsure of. It'll just make you look desperate and that's the LAST thing the sororities want in a member.

You're going to have people talking to you from the minute you walk in. No one in a sorority is going to care if you come in by yourself. (In fact, they might be relieved. It sucks when a girl who you really want to join comes walking in attached at the hip to a girl you don't like.)

luckygirl · #4 09-20-2011, 07:21 PM

how can i be confident walking in a room with SOOO many girls all talking to each other?? and i mean im a pretty girl and everything but wont sororities not be interested in me bc i dont know many ppl?

luckygirl · #5 09-20-2011, 07:21 PM

also....i dont know what everyones wearing to this!

Leslie Anne · #6 09-20-2011, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by luckygirl

how can i be confident walking in a room with SOOO many girls all talking to each other?? and i mean im a pretty girl and everything but wont sororities not be interested in me bc i dont know many ppl?

No. No one cares how many people you know. Seriously, it's not an issue at all.

Katmandu · #7 09-20-2011, 07:57 PM

Do not worry that you are rushing alone. You are NOT the only girl in the room who did not come with a posse. Coming without a posse is a GOOD THING as 33Girl said. She is wise...listen to her.

Enter the room armed with genuine interest in finding out about the different sororities. What do you want to know? Do you want to know about sisterhood events? Philanthropy? Socials? Campus activities? Ask questions, show interest, forget yourself and think about the women who want to get to know YOU. They are as interested in getting to know you as you are in getting to know them. Some of the sorority women are introverted, some of them are studious, some of them rushed withoout their friends. Although they seem intimidating, they were once in your position.

Re: clothing. Call the greek life office or look at the Greek life web site to see if they have recommendations for clothing. Get out of your comfort zone, get to know women in your dorm or classes who are also rushing and ASK them about what they are wearing. Make an effort to get to know them. You may find that if you reach out, you are no longer rushing alone.

Good luck.

luckygirl · #8 09-20-2011, 08:06 PM

im also confused with how rush works....like what happens??? after this event that im talking about and i meet the sororities..what next?

KSUViolet06 · #9 09-20-2011, 08:15 PM

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=54403

This thread can give you a GENERAL idea of how it works, but every campus is a little different. So you should contact your school's Greek Life Office or your assigned Rho Chi, SRC, RHo Gamma, with your questions. They will be able to tell you better than we can.

luckygirl · #10 09-20-2011, 08:33 PM

omggggg im freaking out im so scared. maybe i should have a couple drinks before i go to get the edge off? like when i walk in the room where do i even go.....omg im just gonna see a huge blur of girls and not know where to go ahhhh i hate being aloneee. thats the whole reason why i wanna be in a sorority!

agzg · #11 09-20-2011, 08:34 PM

... not sure if trolling.

Always AlphaGam · #12 09-20-2011, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by luckygirl

omggggg im freaking out im so scared. maybe i should have a couple drinks before i go to get the edge off? like when i walk in the room where do i even go.....omg im just gonna see a huge blur of girls and not know where to go ahhhh i hate being aloneee. thats the whole reason why i wanna be in a sorority!

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Originally Posted by agzg

... not sure if trolling.

After that last gem I'm convinced it is one.

luckygirl · #13 09-20-2011, 08:36 PM

im really not trolling i promise. im being so real right now im so scared

KSUViolet06 · #14 09-20-2011, 09:26 PM

^^^Generally speaking, when you walk into a recruitment party, a member of the chapter is going to be there to greet you and introduce herself. So it's not like you're just going to walk in and be faced with a large group and have to figure out what to do. The events are designed to eliminate that.

luckygirl · #15 09-20-2011, 09:31 PM

idk im not picturing it that way bc itll be so many ppl. should i go later so i can stalk the girls that go in the building to see what they are wearing then put on my outfit then go in. sorry dont mean to be creepy but gotta do what i gotta do. im also scared about those girls that dont like me if theyll tell the sororities..dont give that girl a bid