Did you choose the wrong sorority?

TriDeltaSallie · #1 07-27-2011, 10:02 PM

This is the flip side to the new "how did you know" thread. I don't know how many people will want to publicly answer such a question, but it is thought-provoking.

Did you choose the wrong sorority? Do you think you would have been happier in a different group? Even if you are committed to your own sorority, have you ever admitted to yourself that if you had it to do over again you would have switched the order on your preference card?

33girl · #2 07-27-2011, 10:04 PM

No.

IrishLake · #3 07-27-2011, 10:11 PM

Nope, not once.

HannahXO · #4 07-27-2011, 10:22 PM

I would switch the order on my preference card...only because I didn't put Chi Omega first originally, which, in retrospect, was bad judgement. Luckily I still ended up in Chi Omega and it is without a doubt the best fit for me.

AnchorAlum · #5 07-27-2011, 10:26 PM

Oh, HAIL no.

Actually, I knew after the first day. And it was completely unexpected, too. I had heard lots about some other houses among people in my hometown, but nothing about the house I pledged. I think it was because the chapter lots of girls from other parts of Florida.

*winter* · #6 07-27-2011, 11:00 PM

Being totally honest here...

I LOVED the close friends I met in GSS. I had great experiences and overall I consider it a great choice...

However...I always wonder what would have happened if I had gone through NPC recruitment. I signed up but chickened out since I was so shy. Who knows if I would have even got a bid? But sometimes I wonder.

So if you are debating on going through recruitment or not...I say go for it!

ElieM · #7 07-27-2011, 11:36 PM

yeah, I know I didn't choose the wrong sorority, but I do wonder if things might have been different

TAJ<3 · #8 07-28-2011, 01:23 AM

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Originally Posted by ElieM

yeah, I know I didn't choose the wrong sorority, but I do wonder if things might have been different

Same here. I love my ritual and it is so special to me, but I have considered transferring to a different school's chapter of my sorority.

KSUViolet06 · #9 07-28-2011, 12:51 PM

I did informal recruitment with one chapter. Never once did I wonder if I made a mistake by not checking out anyone else. In hindsight, it was crazy because I didn't have any other options to "fall back on", and I would have seriously been crushed if they didn't want me. Luckily, it worked out and I haven't looked back.

ThetaPrincess24 · #10 07-28-2011, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

This is the flip side to the new "how did you know" thread. I don't know how many people will want to publicly answer such a question, but it is thought-provoking.

Did you choose the wrong sorority? Do you think you would have been happier in a different group? Even if you are committed to your own sorority, have you ever admitted to yourself that if you had it to do over again you would have switched the order on your preference card?

No to all of the above.

KillarneyRose · #11 08-05-2011, 09:36 PM

I never for a second worried that I wasn't really meant to be a Delta Zeta. I felt at home there from day one and I was so awed by and touched by the Ritual that I can't imagine being part of another group.

I've even loved all the alumnae I've met since college! All in all, a perfect fit for me

PhoenixAzul · #12 07-28-2011, 01:27 PM

Nope, never. I knew Tau Delta was right for me, and the weirdness of my recruitment experience proved that (I was dropped from recruitment before preference, but still filled out a bid card, put TD first, and ended up with a bid*)

I *do* wonder what would have happened if I had gone to Bethany or Penn State or Ball State rather than Otterbein, if I would have participated in NPC recruitment, and if I had, if I would have ended up with a bid, and if a bid, to where?

*Note: This is a local campus, we do things different than the NPC, so PNM lurkers, don't take this as a "This can happen to me!" story.

WCsweet<3 · #13 07-28-2011, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

This is the flip side to the new "how did you know" thread. I don't know how many people will want to publicly answer such a question, but it is thought-provoking.

Did you choose the wrong sorority? Do you think you would have been happier in a different group? Even if you are committed to your own sorority, have you ever admitted to yourself that if you had it to do over again you would have switched the order on your preference card?

Sometimes I wonder. Mainly because I have ended up hanging out with more women who were in my other pref chapter. However, I have met most of them through my boyfriend, who I wouldn't have met/dated had I joined. He dated a girl in that chapter who was very active and president at one time.

I wouldn't be where I am without KD.

Drolefille · #14 07-28-2011, 07:08 PM

Consider your sample here, you're talking to collegiate sorority members and alumnae who are either active or are at least active enough to participate in a sorority website years after their collegiate membership.

COB or formal, it's not going to really reflect here because of your population.

TriDeltaSallie · #15 07-28-2011, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Consider your sample here, you're talking to collegiate sorority members and alumnae who are either active or are at least active enough to participate in a sorority website years after their collegiate membership.

COB or formal, it's not going to really reflect here because of your population.

Yes and no. COB doesn't necessarily only mean COB immediately after formal. Many chapters who struggle with numbers COB year round. I would guess there are many women who come to GC who went through informal or were COBed and didn't go through formal recruitment.

And I think you can love your sorority and still wonder if you made the right choice. When my own chapter closed, I wondered if I had made the right choice.