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Old 12-31-2009, 02:09 AM
PinkSugar PinkSugar is offline
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Conversation skills for Spring 2010 Recruitment!

Hello all! Here is my story, in September I made the mistake of visiting just one house out of 4 for informal recruitment and did not get a bid. I have a friend who knows some girls of the house and when I was brought up, the fact that I am shy played a big role in not getting a bid. I have signed up for formal recruitment where I am required to visit all 4 houses and of course I will be some what embarassed to re visit the house that turned me down. So, I need tips on how to hold a great conversation and to not be nervous when re-visiting the first house. Thanks for reading!
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Old 12-31-2009, 02:27 AM
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Good thread to read:

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Old 12-31-2009, 10:37 AM
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PinkSugar - First, try to get over your feelings of embarrassment about visiting the house that did not give you a bid last fall. If you are shy, it is very likely that the girls just didn't feel like they knew you well enough to extend a bid, or perhaps they only had a few spots and filled them with girls who were more outgoing because they felt like they meshed better with them.

As for conversational skills, spend some time thinking about topics that might be discussed at recruitment parties. For instance, why did you choose this school/major/to go through recruitment, etc. You don't want to sound like you have rehearsed, but thinking about it ahead of time will help you formulate answers to questions that you might be asked. Also, think of things that you might ask the sorority members if there's a lull in the conversation, or to show that you're interested in their group. Example: What do you enjoy about working with your philanthropy? What's it like to live in the house? Why did you join XYZ?

Lastly, if you're shy, work on getting over it right now. Between now and the beginning of recruitment, work on making eye contact with people and saying hello when you pass on the street. If you're around a group of people you don't know, make the first move to say hello and introduce yourself. Doing those things will help you develop some confidence about talking to new people.

Good luck and keep us posted!
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Old 12-31-2009, 01:30 PM
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Hello all! Here is my story, in September I made the mistake of visiting just one house out of 4 for informal recruitment and did not get a bid. I have a friend who knows some girls of the house and when I was brought up, the fact that I am shy played a big role in not getting a bid. I have signed up for formal recruitment where I am required to visit all 4 houses and of course I will be some what embarassed to re visit the house that turned me down. So, I need tips on how to hold a great conversation and to not be nervous when re-visiting the first house. Thanks for reading!
The fact that you only went to one house most likely played a far bigger role in your not getting a bid. To be blunt, you should be more embarrassed about visiting the houses you didn't give a chance than the one that didn't bid you. If anyone is going to feel kind of weird, it's the sisters, not you.

Also: don't listen to what a "friend of a sister" says. She was not in the room with the sorority when they discussed you and voted on you. Don't get hung up on the "I'm shy" thing when there's a possibility this was just something the sister pulled out of her rear end to get your mutual friend to leave her alone about it.
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Old 01-12-2010, 07:44 PM
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Honestly, I think a good tip (something I should have done) is just to chill out. Talk to the girls like they're your friends, but talk about getting to know you type stuff. I just think overeager is so apparently fake. It's bad because they don't get to know your personality
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Old 01-16-2010, 01:39 PM
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Thanks for the advice, recruitment starts tomorrow, yay!
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