Rushing as a Twin?

nervousnelly · #1 07-07-2009, 02:07 AM

Ok well this fall I will be rushing and am very excited! .............. I super NERVOUS for RUSH...hints my screen name lol. The thing I worry about is rushing with my twin sister. She is my best friend and I can't see myself in a sorority without her by my side. We both are very athletic and major academic achievers. Throughout high school we were both in the top 10% of our class......... Our GPA's are very close and we both have over a 4.0 on a 4.0 scale (because of weighted honors courses) We have similar personalities, are very easy going, and make conversation with strangers easily. My question for you ladies is based on all this information do you think we have a good chance at getting bids from the same sorority? Does anyone have experience with rushing with twins or if you're a twin yourself that went through rush? I can't see myself for the next four years without my sister by my side. Any information or experiences you have will help tremendously to ease my anxiety and tension about RUSH! Thanks!

AlphaFrog · #2 07-07-2009, 05:11 AM

As long as you don't wear pink tights with sequins up the back, you'll be fine.

[Was that bad of me? Yes, very bad.]

Seriously, college is a time when a lot of twins start to come into their own and gain their own identity. It doesn't mean you love your sister any less. If you both follow your hearts, you'll be much happier and probably have better rush results than if you try and stick together. That may mean you both end up in the same sorority, or maybe different sororities, or maybe one or both of you find out it's not for you. It can't hurt to try, though.

FSUZeta · #3 07-07-2009, 07:52 AM

there was a recent rush story posted where twins rushed-maybe you can do a search and read it. i would share the thread title with you but i can't remember it.

two of my pledge sisters were twins-they decided before rush began that they would not share their opinions of the chapters with each other and not tell how they ranked the houses each day. they ended up liking the same chapter. then too, i have known other twins who joined different sororities and lived in their houses, but they were still there to support each other when needed.

maybe if you and your sister make some decisions up front-i.e., you will tell each other everything during recruitment, or you will keep your opinions and rankings to yourself, it will be a little easier for you both. good luck!

DaffyKD · #4 07-07-2009, 09:04 AM

I met a woman the other day who has twin daughters in college. They are starting their senior year and until now, have NEVER been separate. They take the same classes, share their books, and had lived together the first 3 years at the college. One of the sisters is a member of a sorority and the other one did not want to join (I can't remember if the mother mentioned if at sister went through recruitment or not). In fall, the sister who belongs to a sorority is planning to move into the house while her sister will be sharing a place with 3 friends. According to this woman, the girls are very happy to have something that sets them apart instead of having every detail of their lives the same.

DaffyKD

jennyj87 · #5 07-07-2009, 09:05 AM

So much goes into rush I don't believe that we can really tell you what the chances are. We have a set of twins in our sorority, and it just worked out that way. A couple of our girls have twins at other schools who are in different sorories but they share that greek link.
Good luck and let us know!

BlueCarnation · #6 07-07-2009, 10:45 AM

We had a twin in our house, and her twin was in another chapter. I always got them confused, except when they were wearing their letters!

They had never been apart before college, both preferenced at the same houses, and just ended up in separate houses. They said it was the best thing they ever did, and they ended up living together their senior year--and had twice as many friends as everyone else! There were also twins in my rush group who ended up in the same house. I think it just depends. Go, have fun and keep an open mind, and it should all work out. Good luck!

Zillini · #7 07-07-2009, 10:47 AM

I have had experience with twins from the sorority side. Honestly if you have your heart set on pledging the same Chapter, you're choices may be limited. Different people will be recruiting you. One active/Chapter might fall in love with one twin, but not the other. Or vice versa, one twin might love a Chapter, but the other twin doesn't. Then again, a Chapter may love both and you two may love them. You never know.

My advice to all twins is to inform the Chapters if they are a "package deal" or if they are willing to pledge different Chapters. What you both are willing to accept or not accept may factor into the Chapters' decisions to extend invitations and bids. If you don't tell them you are only interested in pledging together you run a higher risk of it not happening. Or if you don't tell them you are willing to split up, they may assume you won't.

Ultimately the decision is up to the two of you whether you say anything or not. Keep in mind though that in the end no Chapter can guarantee a bid -- not for twins, not for legacies, not for anyone.

littleowl33 · #8 07-07-2009, 12:56 PM

This is all good advice. I've seen a two sets of twins go through recruitment at my school: one pair did not pledge anywhere (I believe they dropped out together - they were rushing as sophomores and faced heavy cuts) and one pair ended up in Theta together (I believe they were Theta legacies). From my experience, many chapters (at JHU and elsewhere) consider twins, especially identical twins, as a "package deal" whether or not they want to be considered that way.

KSUViolet06 · #9 07-07-2009, 01:55 PM

We can't really say what your chances are. Membership Selection is private info and it involves alot more than just grades and ACT scores. There is alot that goes into it.

However, I will say that you could be setting yourselves up for a potential disappointment if you guys are ONLY interested in being in the SAME SORORITY.

If you're a "package deal", it is going to affect where you get invited back because some chapters may only be interested in ONE of you.

Also, consider what happens if one of you likes a chapter and the other doesn't? Is one of you ok with potentially ending up in a chapter you don't like just so the 2 of you can be together?

Where I went to school, the "package deal" thing tended to work out if the twins liked all the same chapters. But it caused a problem if Twin A didn't like the same chapters as Twin B. Or Twin A didn't get invited back to the same chapters as Twin B.

What would you do then?

For what it's worth, I know a set of twins who used college and recruitment as their first opportunity to establish their own identities, by pledging different chapters.

If you want to pledge the same chapter, that's fine too. But just be aware that it will affect your recruitment result if you're a "package deal."

OleMissGlitter · #10 07-07-2009, 02:13 PM

I know here at Ole Miss we have had plenty of twins who join the same sorority or they each do their own thing. So just be yourself. You'll figure it out!

em_adpi · #11 07-07-2009, 03:06 PM

In my own chapter, we have a set of twins. Elsewhere, I know of a set of twins who rushed and went two different sororities (and have both sets of letters on the car they share).

While I don't have a twin myself, I think recruitment is the perfect opportunity to branch out on your own. See where both of you end up - it could be the same place, it could be two entirely different houses. Just make sure you do what's best for you in the end; don't try to be in the same house because you could end up unhappy.

CougarGrad · #12 07-07-2009, 03:10 PM

Two of my best college friends are twins. They went through rush at the same time, in different rush groups, and when pref night came, each one had 3 parties to attend- but only one sorority had invited both of the girls back. The twins accepted bids to that particular sorority, so they ended up twins AND sorority sisters, but it was totally unplanned.

Nobody can tell you what the chances are that you and your sister may get bids to the same chapter. It all depends on your school, the chapters there, the entire rush experience. Don't be nervous about whether the two of you will end up in the same place because it could affect your rush experience. You've gotten some really great advice in this thread- take it for what it's worth, and have a wonderful time.

texas*princess · #13 07-07-2009, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

We can't really say what your chances are.

However, I will say that you could be setting yourselves up for a potential disappointment if you guys are ONLY interested in being in the SAME SORORITY.

If you're a "package deal", it is going to affect where you get invited back because some chapters may only be interested in ONE of you.

Also, consider what happens if one of you likes a chapter and the other doesn't? Is one of you ok with potentially ending up in a chapter you don't like just so the 2 of you can be together?

Where I went to school, the "package deal" thing tended to work out if the twins liked all the same chapters. But it caused a problem if Twin A didn't like the same chapters as Twin B. Or Twin A didn't get invited back to the same chapters as Twin B.

What would you do then?

For what it's worth, I know a set of twins who used college and recruitment as their first opportunity to establish their own identities, by pledging different chapters.

100% agree with everything you said here!

I also know of a set of sisters (not twins - born a year apart) that rushed together. They were very very very close. They both pledged different chapters and are still close as sisters.

KSUViolet06 · #14 07-07-2009, 03:16 PM

I found some threads about twins and recruitment that you might be interested in:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ighlight=twins
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ighlight=twins

ASTalumna06 · #15 07-07-2009, 04:25 PM

I obviously only know a few details about your situation and how close the bond you have with your sister really is, but I will give you these general pieces of advice:

You're going to college. There are a myriad of opportunities presented to you. Every person is interested in different things, and 99.9% of the time, people can find at least one thing that will make them happy outside of class. Find what makes you happy (on your own) and take advantage of all that college has to offer.

Be yourself! Don't get caught up on what some people might think of you (whether it be sorority chapters or anyone else), because for every person who shoots you down, there will be five more who will become friends.

Joining a sorority is for life. Having a (biological) sister is for life. You can choose the former, but not the latter. You obviously love your sister, and you know that no matter what, she'll be there forever. If you join a sorority, it will be too. Make sure that if you're accepting a bid, that you're not sacrificing your own happiness for your sister.. or anyone else for that matter. And don't let her do that for you, either.

If you do end up being sorority sisters, that'd be wonderful, and I'm sure you'll have the time of your life.

If you don't, that'd be wonderful, and I'm sure you'll have the time of your life.

Remember that it's not the end of the world. Maybe it will be the perfect opportunity for the two of you to find yourselves, so to speak.

Have fun