Junior rushing for second time and super freaked out

[BlueEyes20]

Hi! This is my first time writing on here-it seemed like a good place to go for advice so here it goes..
I go to a smaller southern school that doesnt have the most competetive greek life, but i'm sure its more so than some schools. I didnt rush as a freshman because of my boyfriend, which was stupid. I regret is all the time..anyways, as a sophomore I decided to go through rush even though I knew it would hurt my chances somewhat. I have a 4.0 and am in honor societies and things of that nature. I tried to dress well, had a pretty good tan, got my hair highlighted and the works. I tried really hard...after the whole experience I blamed it on this pair of plaid shorts, but I'm sure it must have been something else (or at least I hope haha). Anyways, recruitment was split up into like 4 days I beleive; the sororities "released" you after each day or you "released" them or whatever. I got cut from everything except for two houses. There are only like 9 or so houses on campus so I was crushed...to make it worse, one of the houses I wasn't released from also happened to be the sorority of the girl who my boyfriend had just cheated on me with (only like a month or so before). Needless to say she glared me up and down and whispered about me...I adored the girls I did talk to in that house, but I felt like they were aware of the fact that I was on the verge of tears (although with a smile on my face somehow). This girl ended up getting kicked out permanently about a month later, so I guess I had bad timing on that one. The other house I didnt like, but for stupid reasons. They had an "easy" reputation and were called "reject" and all these other caddy, cruel names. I'm not a judgemental person...but for some reason I let these stereotypes make me wary and uncomfortable joining, which was dumb I think in hindsight... So, the next round I was left with these two houses..and then the next day the house with the girl who my boyfriend cheated on me with dropped me so I was left with the one that I had heard a lot of negative things about.. I left rush sobbing and honestly didnt feel like myself for weeks after. My self esteem was shot...I felt like I wasnt good enough.. I went through rush feeling so confident only to be crushed and it was so hard for me. I really wish I knew what went wrong.

Anyways, I'm a sophomore now...still have a 4.0 and the same decent extracurriculars.. I want to rush this upcoming fall (as a junior). I don't want to miss out on this..I'm super girly and love to meet new people. I really want to experience this and think I would get a lot out of it/have a lot to offer a chapter. I'm afraid that I'll get cut from every house that cut me during the first round (I heard that this was policy at some schools). I'd still rush if so, but it would be nice to have this information beforehand so I would be prepared. I was going to do informal in the spring, but I missed the dates and started trying to figure out if it was possible about a month into school (which ended up being too late). If anyone has any advice...like maybe what you know about policies on upperclassmen rushing or about whether or not girls who are cut once are always cut..I'd really appreciate it!!
Thanks so much xoxoxo