Aka Soror-dilemma need female and guy advice

glitzprincess08 · #1 04-05-2011, 11:29 PM

I am new to the site and I need the question answered. Fellow sorors or anyone please answer and if a guy can give his opinion also.

I dated this guy a few months ago and he was wonderful, just at times he was uptight about certain things. I would just close off and not express my opinions sometimes and he never opened up. I have a hard time expressing my feelings at times also and he was new to relationships. He is really into his studies and we are both scholars but I still like to hangout alot with my girls. The thing is we got together without really knowing each other and everything was moving so fast so I made a pass on him on my b-day. He wants to wait until marriage and I felt so bad because I was just horny. Now I am a virgin also. The next day he broke up with me stating everything was going to fast, he need to find his self, and he sorry he cant spend alot of time with me because of practice. Now yes this was an issue and the point we wasn't completely open was also but I still wanted him. It was winterbreak so we both went home but continued our regular conversation as friends. I had still had feelings for him but I just needed to leave it alone. First let me tell you he is a gentleman all the way, sat there when I was crying, comforted me whenever I needed and a devoted Christian. I am a Christian also but some time I slack in this area and need to get closer to god. I admired this about him. We came back to school and he asked me do you want to be friends or what are we doing because we are still talking obviously like nothing happened. So I was scared that if I told him yes I want to be his girl, He would be forced to agree with me even if he did not feel the same way just because he is nice. So I just said let's be friends. Now we still talk and he still call me sweetheart, babycakes and sweetie at times but I confused if he is just being his normal friendly self or if he still have feeling for me. So I still like him but we did have communication issues and basically I am wondering if I should tell him that I still have feelings for him. I'm scared of rejection and I am on leave from school because of an injury and if I do tell him it will be over the phone. So I won't be able to see his reaction, should I tell him or just leave it alone since we had a few problems but we didnt know each other that well when we were going out now I actually know him. What to do?

Drolefille · #2 04-05-2011, 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by glitzprincess08

I am new to the site and I need the question answered. Fellow sorors or anyone please answer and if a guy can give his opinion also.

I dated this guy a few months ago and he was wonderful, just at times he was uptight about certain things. I would just close off and not express my opinions sometimes and he never opened up. I have a hard time expressing my feelings at times also and he was new to relationships. He is really into his studies and we are both scholars but I still like to hangout alot with my girls. The thing is we got together without really knowing each other and everything was moving so fast so I made a pass on him on my b-day. He wants to wait until marriage and I felt so bad because I was just horny. Now I am a virgin also. The next day he broke up with me stating everything was going to fast, he need to find his self, and he sorry he cant spend alot of time with me because of practice. Now yes this was an issue and the point we wasn't completely open was also but I still wanted him. It was winterbreak so we both went home but continued our regular conversation as friends. I had still had feelings for him but I just needed to leave it alone. First let me tell you he is a gentleman all the way, sat there when I was crying, comforted me whenever I needed and a devoted Christian. I am a Christian also but some time I slack in this area and need to get closer to god. I admired this about him. We came back to school and he asked me do you want to be friends or what are we doing because we are still talking obviously like nothing happened. So I was scared that if I told him yes I want to be his girl, He would be forced to agree with me even if he did not feel the same way just because he is nice. So I just said let's be friends. Now we still talk and he still call me sweetheart, babycakes and sweetie at times but I confused if he is just being his normal friendly self or if he still have feeling for me. So I still like him but we did have communication issues and basically I am wondering if I should tell him that I still have feelings for him. I'm scared of rejection and I am on leave from school because of an injury and if I do tell him it will be over the phone. So I won't be able to see his reaction, should I tell him or just leave it alone since we had a few problems but we didnt know each other that well when we were going out now I actually know him. What to do?

qfping

Xidelt · #3 04-06-2011, 12:44 AM

Why is this girl calling on a specific GC member in 3 threads? Phone a friend!

glitzprincess08 · #4 04-06-2011, 12:47 AM

Excuse me because I can. I got some advice from them but I still wanted something else.

Drolefille · #5 04-06-2011, 01:09 AM

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Originally Posted by glitzprincess08

Excuse me because I can. I got some advice from them but I still wanted something else.

Not excused.

Detention until further notice.

christiangirl · #6 04-06-2011, 03:23 AM

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Originally Posted by glitzprincess08

I am new to the site and I need the question answered. Fellow sorors or anyone please answer and if a guy can give his opinion also.

I dated this guy a few months ago and he was wonderful, just at times he was uptight about certain things. I would just close off and not express my opinions sometimes and he never opened up. I have a hard time expressing my feelings at times also and he was new to relationships. He is really into his studies and we are both scholars but I still like to hangout alot with my girls. The thing is we got together without really knowing each other and everything was moving so fast so I made a pass on him on my b-day. He wants to wait until marriage and I felt so bad because I was just horny. Now I am a virgin also. The next day he broke up with me stating everything was going to fast, he need to find his self, and he sorry he cant spend alot of time with me because of practice. Now yes this was an issue and the point we wasn't completely open was also but I still wanted him. It was winterbreak so we both went home but continued our regular conversation as friends. I had still had feelings for him but I just needed to leave it alone. First let me tell you he is a gentleman all the way, sat there when I was crying, comforted me whenever I needed and a devoted Christian. I am a Christian also but some time I slack in this area and need to get closer to god. I admired this about him. We came back to school and he asked me do you want to be friends or what are we doing because we are still talking obviously like nothing happened. So I was scared that if I told him yes I want to be his girl, He would be forced to agree with me even if he did not feel the same way just because he is nice. So I just said let's be friends. Now we still talk and he still call me sweetheart, babycakes and sweetie at times but I confused if he is just being his normal friendly self or if he still have feeling for me. So I still like him but we did have communication issues and basically I am wondering if I should tell him that I still have feelings for him. I'm scared of rejection and I am on leave from school because of an injury and if I do tell him it will be over the phone. So I won't be able to see his reaction, should I tell him or just leave it alone since we had a few problems but we didnt know each other that well when we were going out now I actually know him. What to do?

That was fun. It was like a game.

I didn't even hit the punctuation errors or coherence.

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Originally Posted by glitzprincess08

Now I am a virgin also.

What were you before?

AlphaFrog · #7 04-06-2011, 05:27 AM

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Originally Posted by glitzprincess08

He is really into his studies and we are both scholars

agzg · #8 04-06-2011, 09:33 AM

katydidKD · #9 04-06-2011, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

hahahahhahahahahahah.

Drolefille · #10 04-06-2011, 08:42 PM

No I will not be your Greekchat friend. Who even uses that?

christiangirl · #11 04-06-2011, 10:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Who even uses that?

*takes ball and goes home*

Drolefille · #12 04-06-2011, 10:52 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

*takes ball and goes home*

Hey I'd use it if it seemed to have a point.

glitzprincess08 · #13 04-06-2011, 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

That was fun. It was like a game.

I didn't even hit the punctuation errors or coherence.

What were you before?

It was very nice of you to correct my errors. Although, I do not believe the diction was meant to be modified. I am pleased to know that I amused your simple mind. There is no need for me to make an good impression of my communication and writing skills on a site as foolish as this one.

knight_shadow · #14 04-06-2011, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by glitzprincess08

It was very nice of you to correct my errors. Although, I do not believe the diction was meant to be modified. I am pleased to know that I amused your simple mind. There is no need for me to make an good impression of my communication and writing skills on a site as foolish as this one.

Huh?

glitzprincess08 · #15 04-06-2011, 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Huh?

It is just a response to the obviously bored "christiangirl" comeback.