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Old 12-09-2007, 03:01 PM
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Dropping out.

My friend is thinking about dropping out of her sorority. Is there anyone here that has quit her sorority and would be willing to talk about it?
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Old 12-09-2007, 03:08 PM
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My friend is thinking about dropping out of her sorority. Is there anyone here that has quit her sorority and would be willing to talk about it?
Why is always a "friend"?

Friends don't let "friends" do dumb things.
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Old 12-09-2007, 03:25 PM
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Old 12-09-2007, 03:46 PM
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Tell her to think carefully. Once she resigns, she can't go back. Is she a senior? Sometimes chapters have concessions for seniors. Some sororities have an inactive status...or a 5th year status. It's a HUGE decision. Think...think...think.
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Old 12-09-2007, 03:49 PM
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My friend is thinking about dropping out of her sorority. Is there anyone here that has quit her sorority and would be willing to talk about it?
The answer is no, but my first question to "friend" would be "why"?
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Old 12-09-2007, 04:09 PM
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I would wager that most who drop out of their sorority would not then be hanging around and posting on a message board aimed at promoting Greek Life. Just saying...

If she is getting nothing out of her membership after making a concerted effort to get the to source of her unhappiness, then she should drop out. If she is an initiated sister, this is the end of the line. She can't join another sorority ever again.

On the other hand, if she hasn't sat down to figure out why she is unhappy, this is a good time to figure it out. Is it a sister she doesn't see eye-to-eye with? A group of people? Is she stressed out because of school, work or family? Is there a boy involved? Or is it financial? Has she isolated herself because she's been busy with school and she's frustrated that no one has called her up to see how she is? Did the chapter vote a certain way on an issue she doesn't approve of?

Is the source of her unhappiness truly significant enough for her to cut ties with an organization that once made her so happy? Think big picture.

If she can't bear the thought of confronting her unhappiness or the potential person causing it, she can certainly avoid it by quitting the sorority. But this will only provide a temporary band-aid to the problem if she can't speak up for herself and voice what is wrong.

If the problem is just that no one is making an effort to spend time with her, she needs to pick up a phone and make some effort herself. Sisterhood does not equal friendship. Membership in the same organization does not require anyone to go out of their way to like or help you. Friendship is a two-way street and sometimes, you need to put yourself out there in order to be noticed and heard.

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Old 12-09-2007, 04:12 PM
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My friend is thinking about dropping out of her sorority. Is there anyone here that has quit her sorority and would be willing to talk about it?
Tell her to drop it.
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Old 12-09-2007, 04:12 PM
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Recruitment dropout,
No 'nitiation day for you.
Recruitment dropout,
Missed your letters and flunked rit'rul!
Well at least you could have taken time, to rush and pledge when you grow up,
After spending all that dough to not have your dumb ass to show up!

Baby get moving (Baby get movin),
Why don't you have another try?
What are you proving (What are you provin)?
You've got COB but do not cry.

If you go for your fav'rite house, you could join one that's cool.
Girl please 'n stop go home and go back to high school!
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Old 12-09-2007, 04:13 PM
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Old 12-09-2007, 10:12 PM
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Recruitment dropout,
No 'nitiation day for you.
Recruitment dropout,
Missed your letters and flunked rit'rul!
Well at least you could have taken time, to rush and pledge when you grow up,
After spending all that dough to not have your dumb ass to show up!

Baby get moving (Baby get movin),
Why don't you have another try?
What are you proving (What are you provin)?
You've got COB but do not cry.

If you go for your fav'rite house, you could join one that's cool.
Girl please 'n stop go home and go back to high school!

I love it!!
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Old 12-10-2007, 12:15 AM
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is this to the tune of "Beauty School Drop Out"?
Made my day!
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Old 12-10-2007, 03:08 PM
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Why on earth would people who quit their sorority be posting on a message for fraternity and sorority members?

I'd just make sure she knows that quitting is a permanent step. Once she does it, she really can't go back. Also, she has to return her sorority items and letters. Depending on the chapter and its attitudes, some girls might even stop talking to her.
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