Legacies out there?

gphi2k · #1 02-22-2001, 02:36 PM

Hi,
I'm just curious to know who out there is a legacy. And how much influence did that have in your selection to join a specific house? Did it cause any pressure or did it make your decisions easier?
I ask this because I have a close friend who decided not to rush at all because her sister had been in a soror at the school two years prior and she knew there would be undue pressure from both her sister and the soror if she did not join. So she ended up chosing to not go Greek at all.
Just curious to know other people's experiences.

Leslie

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PenguinTrax · #2 02-22-2001, 03:22 PM

My mom is a Sigma Delta Tau, but like IowaHawkeye, there was no SDT chapter at my school, so I went with the best group for me - ZTA.

Barb

#3 02-22-2001, 03:22 PM

I was a Chi O @ ISU, my mom a Sigma Kappa there, my grandmother and one aunt - Alpha Omicron Pi at ISU and another aunt - ZTA there too (yes- I got one hell of an alumni scholarship)

. My other grandmother was a Chi O at Michigan State.
I felt no pressure at all from anyone to join their sorority and no one was mad at me for my choice; I think they were all happy I went greek.

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lifesaver · #4 02-22-2001, 04:17 PM

I was a sigma Chi Legacy (father) and a double ATO Legacy (moms brother and dads brother). My mom was an ADPi as well as my grandmother. I went lambda Chi because I didn't like the Sigma Chi chapter at my school, and the ATo chapter was really small. (I liked the guys there and am still friends with a few of them). One of my fav. posessions are my uncles' graduation mugs with their coa's on them. I wish I could find something of my fathers from his undergrad days.

My family was PI$$ED that I didn't go legacy. My grandmother mostly. She thought it was disrespectful. she got over it and a year later, my sister was married to a brother I introduced her to. Still maried and expecting their first child

Allie_XO · #5 02-22-2001, 04:36 PM

I've posted about this on the XO board, so I'm just going to Copy/Paste. I'm so lazy!

My grandmother and aunt were Kappa Kappa Gammas and my great-grandmother was an Alpha Delta Pi. My mom pledged Kappa at Alabama, but flunked out before she got initiated

! There is no Kappa chapter here, so there was no pressure - but if there had been I probably would have been disowned if I hadn't pledged Kappa.

And FYI - my grandfather (and all of his brothers and his father) was a Kappa Sigma. If he were still alive he would be so proud that I was a XO. My great grandfather on my grandmother's side (and I think his father too) were Sigma Nus.

I have a question about that. My grandfather, the Kappa Sig, left that in his will, if I (since I'm the only female grandchild) pledged Chi Omega, that I should get his pin. I didn't know this because my family didn't want it to influence my choice. So, can I wear his pin? Or should I just keep it as a rememberance? Just wondering.

Well, that is my entire Greek history.

Allie

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matthewg · #6 02-22-2001, 04:49 PM

My father was at a certain chapter of my fraternity, so are two of my brothers and myself. On my mother's side, her father was in our fraternity, her oncle, her brother and several cousins - all in my fraternity, but different chapters at different schools all over Germany.
My father never influenced me actively, but through him I know what lifelong brotherhood means and that's why I ended up joining the same fraternity though a different chapter.

I never regretted it!

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Tom Earp · #7 02-22-2001, 05:16 PM

lifesaver it is good to see another Brother on this site. We have a Brother whose son was rushed and thought he was a sure bet as he was a legacy. They dropped the ball and he went SPE. Even though you may be a legacy, that House may be not right for you!!
The main thing is to find people you will be compfortable with and whom you want to be Brothers and Sisters for the rest of your life.
Fraternity/Soroity names stay the same but the people in them change all the time. I do not regret any of the time since I became a LXA and never will!!

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USFSDTAlum · #8 02-22-2001, 07:21 PM

My mom was in a local when she went to school so she was always pro greek but knew i would join a national, and my sister was a DZ, but when i transfered to USF i wanted to come to tampa, Not particulary USF (it just worked out for the best that I love my school and kick myself for wasting 2 years up north) and there is no DZ chapter here, so I went with the best(for me).

KSig RC · #9 02-22-2001, 08:24 PM

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Originally posted by Allie_XO:

I have a question about that. My grandfather, the Kappa Sig, left that in his will, if I (since I'm the only female grandchild) pledged Chi Omega, that I should get his pin. I didn't know this because my family didn't want it to influence my choice. So, can I wear his pin? Or should I just keep it as a rememberance? Just wondering.

Generally, our badge is only worn by initiated members - but w/ our connection w/ XO and the fact that it was willed to you from your grandfather, it's an amazing heirloom to have, and also very meaningful and powerful i'm sure. we don't 'pin' (aka 'drop') w/ the actual badge at our chapter, but i suppose something similar to that scenario could be seen for you to wear it - but i guess from my standpoint normally only brothers wear the badge. i guess that doesn't help much - but it's a pretty phat story about how you ended up with it in the first place . . .

Rob

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AOX81 · #10 02-23-2001, 12:19 PM

I myself was not a legacy, nobody in my family ever went to college before. But my sorority is local and we have had many girls who were legacy to other organizations join ours. My ex-roommate was a legacy to another sorority because of her sister. Her sister was at a different school which made a lot of difference. She said that she would have considered joining her sisters sorority if she had been at the same school, but the girls at our school weren't her type. Her sister was not upset at all and totally understands the decision she made.

My sorority has been around 12 years and we have had 7 or 8 legacies.

I think that it is wonderful for those who choose to join a sorority or fraternity because they are a legacy, but I think that they should not feel obligated to do so.

Widgetgirl · #11 10-18-2008, 03:36 PM

Every female in my entire family was an Alpha Chi Omega (at various schools). I had pledge ribbons in my baby book! I went to Louisiana Tech University in 1982. At that time, my mother was the president of the Shreveport alumni group and was at the Alpha Chi Omega house in Ruston while I was going through rush. They all told me how wonderful my mother was (which I very much appreciated), but the other sororities seemed to like me for ME.

I'll never forget the day that I had to call home and tell my mother that I had pledged Sigma Kappa. I know that I broke her heart (sounds silly, huh? It's not--not in my family, anyway), but when I came home to visit and brought her that "Sigma Kappa Mom" coffee mug, she drank out of it the very next morning.

sceniczip · #12 10-19-2008, 10:32 PM

my mom was a ZTA which we don't have at my school but even if we did she never would have tried to influence my decision, I probably would have given ZTA a lot of consideration because of my mom, however. But I ended up with the best sorority at my school

not that I'm biased lol.

AndrewPiChi · #13 10-20-2008, 10:34 AM

Three generations of All Male Chapter Alpha Phi Omega

Grandfather: pledged 1954 Kappa Beta Brooklyn Polytech
Uncle: pledged 1974 Pi Chi Duquesne University
Me: Pledged 2007 Pi Chi Duquesne University

als463 · #14 10-22-2008, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by KSig RC

Generally, our badge is only worn by initiated members - but w/ our connection w/ XO and the fact that it was willed to you from your grandfather, it's an amazing heirloom to have, and also very meaningful and powerful i'm sure. we don't 'pin' (aka 'drop') w/ the actual badge at our chapter, but i suppose something similar to that scenario could be seen for you to wear it - but i guess from my standpoint normally only brothers wear the badge. i guess that doesn't help much - but it's a pretty phat story about how you ended up with it in the first place . . .

Rob

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Not to sound stupid but, I was wondering if Chi Omega and Kappa Sigma have some kind of connection? For instance, because of certain members who were brothers of Kappa Alpha and later male counterparts of Phi Mu-essentially, they are considered (depending upon where you go) our brother fraternity (even though NPCs don't really have any-it's just a thought that some chapters have). I thought it was interesting the dialogue between you two and I wondered.

BlondieCat · #15 10-22-2008, 12:18 PM

Grandmother, Aunt, and Mom and now me!!- Kappa Kappa Gamma
Grandfather & Brother- Sigma Chi
Cousin- Alpha Chi Omega

My family claims otherwise but I probably would have been shot had I not gone Kappa. It definitely made an impact on my choice, but I think if I really didn't like the Kappas at my school I would have chosen different. Luckily I loved them!