Do Sisterfriends of OUR Sorority really want help? - Page 9

Dancerella1908 · #**121** 01-11-2002, 09:17 AM

Soror SteelTrap she is 36 years old.

Steeltrap · #**122** 01-11-2002, 11:39 AM

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Originally posted by Dancerella1908
Soror SteelTrap she is 36 years old.

Whoa. I was 36 when I became a Soror. I was very shhhhh about my desires.

lovelyivy84 · #**123** 01-11-2002, 11:52 AM

Well that young lady you wrote about needed a very DIFFERENT kind of help.

You should let her know that they have medications for things like that now. Delusions CAN be dangerous, lol.

IntricateDesign · #**124** 01-13-2002, 05:28 AM

First, let me say that I can speak for ME and only ME. I am a SF that is VERY interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. I truly appreciate ALL help that has been given to me. I feel that as SF's, we need to research with what God gave us. We (for the most part) were blessed with two hands, two feet, a mind, and COMMON SENSE. Common sense...hmmm...well, some of us have and some of us never will!!!

We must use these gifts given to us to research & study.

Never have I expected to be handed any help or information...and definitely not on a platter for that matter. Nor do I expect anyone to help me because I feel it is not their obligation. If anyone should be obligated to do anything, it's me. I should feel obligated to get off my a$$ and work for what it is that I want. Do we work hours at our jobs only to have our paychecks given to someone who's sat on their a$$???? So why should some SF's be handed "paychecks" if they've sat on their a$$e$ expecting the ladies of AKA do the work????

I learned a very valuable saying that proved to be very true and helpful while I was basic training. It is also helpful when it comes to discretion. "It is better to be seen than to be heard."

skeeliteful · #**125** 01-13-2002, 11:34 AM

I wasn't going to post my thoughts on this but the inspiration hit me to share from my experience. When I was interested, I did some bold, idiotic things. I won't mention them, but trust me regret them now. I just went about things the wrong way. When I went to rush for the first time, I was not accepted. When I look back, I can honestly say that I was not ready. The second time I went to rush, I was selected. Let me tell you why...I stopped thinking that I knew everything (which was hard) and I LEARNED TO BE HUMBLE!!! When I put it in God's hands and said if it's in His will for me to be an AKA, then I'll be an AKA.

Trust me and my soror's when we tell you that everything is not for you to know right now. I've been a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. since December 5, 1999 and I STILL don't know everything there is to know about our sisterhood. So going on the internet and expecting the answers to be right there......it's not gonna happen. The road to Alpha Kappa Alpha is a life-long journey. Becoming a member is just a foot step on the path.

AKA2D '91 · #**126** 01-13-2002, 01:27 PM

Say that, Soror!

HumbleHeart · #**127** 05-15-2002, 03:59 PM

I have frequented greekchat and read through many a posts and still have questions I would like answered, as trivial or "stupid" as it may seem to someone else. The stupidest (is that a word:-) question in my opinion is the one that is never asked.

Since you really don't entertain membership-related questions what are we as sisterfriends to do? Not to say the other conversations aren't engaging, or that I only want to pump you for information. I know the obvious answer is to ask the member that we know or have a relationship with.....however, for me I feel that is is a little difficult and I am in a bit of a different situation.

So I truly am looking for guidance, recommendations and constructive criticism, and just another perspective.

prayerfull · #**128** 05-15-2002, 04:29 PM

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Originally posted by HumbleHeart
Since you really don't entertain membership-related questions what are we as sisterfreinds to do?

Oh..OK HumbleHeart we are so sorry that you are having such a struggle.

In that case, below is information regarding all of our history, rituals, procedures and rules. On behalf of my sorors here on GC, we are so sorry that this information hasn't been provided to you sooner. If you need further information about particular events, rushes and membership on your campus, I'm sure that my sorors here on GC can certainly answer all of your questions. Afterall, all of my sorors, internationally, have psychic connections - - 'ya know - - it's part of something we do in our rituals!!!

PPPPsssssssssyyyyyyyccccccchhhhhhheeeeeeee!

Come on now...what are you thinking? What should you do? Get up and do your own research. AKA is not a hand-out.

Everything that you, as a "interest" needs to know is available via our international website - at www.aka1908.com

If it's not there, you don't need to know it. If you are ever granted with the honor of being extended an invitation to membership, further information will be extended to you - on an "as you need to know" basis.

HumbleHeart · #**129** 05-15-2002, 05:00 PM

Clearly, I didn't ask for anything from anyone. I merely posted an opinion to a post. No disrespect intended, but did you read that much into my post to think that I wanted that kind of information?

Did I say I was struggling? Did I say I wanted any of "information regarding all of our history, rituals, procedures and rules. On behalf of my sorors here on GC, we are so sorry that this information hasn't been provided to you sooner. If you need further information about particular events, rushes and membership on your campus, I'm sure that my sorors here on GC can certainly answer all of your questions. After all, all of my sorors, internationally, have psychic connections - - 'ya know - - it's part of something we do in our rituals!!!"

I merely mentioned "membership-related" and you truly jumped the gun. I have read and researched information to the extent that information is available about Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. Maybe I shouldn't have said membership-related, so much as it maybe more proper protocol or etiquette and respect. True enough, each chapter, and individual may be different, which is why I said guidance, constructive criticism, or a different perspective. Moreover, if your perception was that I was needing some bit of "help" connecting on the undergraduate level, not so, this is a graduate membership pursuit.

Your is definitely a different perspective and not one that I expected from my post. So as not to any further confusion, I'll just ask my question and maybe someone will answer it....

The graduate chapter where I live is quite large. I have probably been formally introduced to somwhere between a quarter and a third of the women. However, I am unsure as to what proper etiquette dictates in this circumstance. Should I wait to be introduced or take it upon myself to complete introductions? The otherside to this, is because women have constantly seen me at events, some of the members have approached me. But, is it "bad" that I am not approaching many/any women? Is this something members notice? I dont want to seem standoffish or as if I think I am a shoe-in. Thsi is definitely not the case.

Steeltrap · #**130** 05-15-2002, 05:05 PM

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Originally posted by HumbleHeart
Clearly, I didn't ask for anything from anyone. I merely posted an opinion to a post. No disrespect intended, but did you read that much into my post to think that I wanted that kind of information?

Did I say I was struggling? Did I say I wanted any of "information regarding all of our history, rituals, procedures and rules. On behalf of my sorors here on GC, we are so sorry that this information hasn't been provided to you sooner. If you need further information about particular events, rushes and membership on your campus, I'm sure that my sorors here on GC can certainly answer all of your questions. After all, all of my sorors, internationally, have psychic connections - - 'ya know - - it's part of something we do in our rituals!!!"

I merely mentioned "membership-related" and you truly jumped the gun. I have read and researched information to the extent that information is available about Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. Maybe I shouldn't have said membership, so much as it maybe more proper protocol or etiquette and respect. true enough, each chapter, and individual may be different, which is why I said guidance, constructive criticism, or a different perspective.

Your is definitely a different perspective and not one that I expected from my post.

May I ask this: did your reading and research include peeping some of the users' guides that our moderators have been generous enough to provide for visitors to the Alpha Kappa Alpha forum here on GreekChat?

AKA_Monet · #**131** 05-15-2002, 05:29 PM

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Originally posted by HumbleHeart
I have read and researched information to the extent that information is available about Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. Maybe I shouldn't have said membership-related, so much as it maybe more proper protocol or etiquette and respect. True enough, each chapter, and individual may be different, which is why I said guidance, constructive criticism, or a different perspective. Moreover, if your perception was that I was needing some bit of "help" connecting on the undergraduate level, not so, this is a graduate membership pursuit.

Your is definitely a different perspective and not one that I expected from my post. So as not to any further confusion, I'll just ask my question and maybe someone will answer it....

The graduate chapter where I live is quite large. I have probably been formally introduced to somwhere between a quarter and a third of the women. However, I am unsure as to what proper etiquette dictates in this circumstance. Should I wait to be introduced or take it upon myself to complete introductions? The otherside to this, is because women have seen my, some of the members have approached me. But, is it "bad" that I am not approaching many/any women? Is this something members notice? I dont want to seem standoffish or as if I think I am a shoe-in. Thsi is definitely not the case.

Lemme put it to you this way, since I personally have worked with both my Sorors Prayerfull and Steeltrap:

Firstly, are you a Godly woman? If you following in His footsteps, then why do you have worries?

How do you handle corporate communications in front of large groups of unknown people? Do you debate logically and fairly? Or do you take it personally? Do you present yourself in a mature matter at all times? How do you handle yourself in a corporate interactions?

The fact is, whereever you go, whatever you do is under close scrutiny... You must learn on the job or as you go. You must be aggressive in your pursuits, and mindful of your respect to your superiors... This idea is irrespective if you are interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. or trying to obtain an expensive corporate account...

So your behavior must show the utmost of womanliness, always... That is a fact--even in your written communications, even in chat rooms... All the D4 sororities compare notes, often... And your fear should lie where your presentation of yourself has come into play... And that comes from home training and your mother/grandmother telling you it... And sometimes you can learn it on your own and be successful in the D4 Sorority world, but I skerioussssly doubt it...

AKA2D '91 · #**132** 05-15-2002, 06:28 PM

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Originally posted by prayerfull

Oh..OK HumbleHeart we are so sorry that you are having such a struggle.

In that case, below is information regarding all of our history, rituals, procedures and rules. On behalf of my sorors here on GC, we are so sorry that this information hasn't been provided to you sooner. If you need further information about particular events, rushes and membership on your campus, I'm sure that my sorors here on GC can certainly answer all of your questions. Afterall, all of my sorors, internationally, have psychic connections - - 'ya know - - it's part of something we do in our rituals!!!

PPPPsssssssssyyyyyyyccccccchhhhhhheeeeeeee!

Come on now...what are you thinking? What should you do? Get up and do your own research. AKA is not a hand-out.

Everything that you, as a "interest" needs to know is available via our international website - at www.aka1908.com

If it's not there, you don't need to know it. If you are ever granted with the honor of being extended an invitation to membership, further information will be extended to you - on an "as you need to know" basis.

hmmmmmmm. you know, I would have replied like this 'back in the day.

The next generation of GC, perhaps?

Riley · #**133** 05-16-2002, 09:58 AM

[QUOTE]Originally posted by AKA_Monet
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How do you handle corporate communications in front of large groups of unknown people? Do you debate logically and fairly? Or do you take it personally? Do you present yourself in a mature matter at all times? How do you handle yourself in a corporate interactions?

As a sisterfriend I have to agree with AKA_Monet. If you were at a corporate event how would you handle yourself. As prospective members we of couruse are under close observation at all time when we participate in events. As a better guide think of this, how would you want the members to remember youwhen you walk out of the room...and then next time they see you. First inpressions are lasting ones!!

De6 · #**134** 06-27-2003, 01:09 PM

Although,I am surrounded by people from different organizations that help me, any extra help is greatly needed and more importantly, greatly appreciated. If someone from an organization corrects me on a mistake I made, I apologize and thank them for the help. After all, they are at the place I am trying to get to. I am young and very eager to learn about different organizations. But, from my many experiences with different organizations I have learned to be HUMBLE. I would hate for my eagerness to destroy my chances of getting in. So, once again, any help that is offered to me is RECEIVED.

encouraged1 · #**135** 06-27-2003, 04:14 PM

It's been a long time since I've posted on this board but I just wanted to add my 2 cents. As a sisterfriend I don't feel the need to ask anyone questions about membership anymore.

Everything I need to know I have learned from AKA1908.com and reading newsletters on the web of the different regions of AKA. (Especially, of the region I'm interested in obtaining membership.)

In addition to that I've done enough digging to be able to purchse a copy of an Alpha Kappa Alpha history book. (No, it's not Through the Years).

The moral of the story is when there's a will, there's a way. Hope that helps!