U of Alabama Fall 2013 Dates

[SewSheKnits]

Sorry for the double post...I forgot to add, though, that at 7:40ish they walk in silence to turn in their preference cards for the final time. Each Rho Chi group was assigned a time or some sort of order to do this. That could go as late as 10:30.

[nervousnellie]

Hi all, my DD is rushing at UA. She is very slightly below the 3.0 (a high 2.9, if they rounded up she'd be there). She knew it was going to be a tough week, but she's weathered the storm. The problem she has (and I do too, being her mom) is she's going to 2 pref parties. House A, she loves and wants to join, House B she can't see herself in at all. I told her to keep her options open, look for good in all. It's not that she doesn't think house "B" is a bad house, she just doesn't feel the fit - at all. She is thinking about suiciding. I've told her it's called that for a reason. Any advice?

[gatordeltapgh]

Tough call. Personally, I would never SIP at Bama because they are all great chapters. That's not just fluff.

With that said, if she feels she can absolutely not accept a bid to #2, then she shouldn't list them. It isn't fair to that chapter.

When I look at the stats from last year, most women got their first choice but each year is different and you just never know. If she SIPs she won't be eligable to be placed as a quota addition to either chapter so it's a huge gamble. It could work out or DD could miss her opportunity to join a great community.

[pinapple]

Originally Posted by nervousnellie

Hi all, my DD is rushing at UA. She is very slightly below the 3.0 (a high 2.9, if they rounded up she'd be there). She knew it was going to be a tough week, but she's weathered the storm. The problem she has (and I do too, being her mom) is she's going to 2 pref parties. House A, she loves and wants to join, House B she can't see herself in at all. I told her to keep her options open, look for good in all. It's not that she doesn't think house "B" is a bad house, she just doesn't feel the fit - at all. She is thinking about suiciding. I've told her it's called that for a reason. Any advice?

YES!

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=129632

READ THIS THREAD AND CALL HER ASAP.

After you read that, know this: If her top choice puts her on their top list, she will get them. She will get them if they dip into their 2nd list. But if she is too far down she gets nothing. No opening of the bid cards, no screaming girls in pink running the roads....nothing. There are no do overs.

[HQWest]

You have seen all the stuff about the trials and tribulations of sophmore and transfer students. Alabama is one of those campuses that it can be really disappointing to be not greek when all the rest of your friends are greek - missing out on swaps and game days etc.

I would encourage anyone to try it rather than SIPing. Try it, you might be two steps away from your new best friend. Yes chapters will COB - but you might only get one or two choices and that might not be where your friends are either.

It might be your only chance.

[AnchorAlumna]

It's from that "other" school but it's an excellent explanation of the ins and outs of pref, SIP, snap bids and COB.
https://fp.auburn.edu/greek/Files/PrefDayPrimer13.pdf

[gatordeltapgh]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

It's from that "other" school but it's an excellent explanation of the ins and outs of pref, SIP, snap bids and COB.
https://fp.auburn.edu/greek/Files/PrefDayPrimer13.pdf

AnchorAlumna - Do you know if Bama goes the extra step of not allowing SIPs to be eligable for snap bids! I know that was a campus choice from the "other" school but not a NPC mandate.

[IndianaSigKap]

With chapters as large as Bama, any PNM has only met a very small fraction of the chapter. Can anyone really be sure she doesn't fit in until she meets more women? Bama strikes me as one of those campuses where it's one and done, so to speak. I would give that second sorority a chance until initiation. If isn't not right after 6-8 weeks, ok. But to say you don't fit into a chapter after a few moments of chatting with a few women...

[HQWest]

Its kind of a moot point since the only chapters that can snap bid are those that did not make quota.
If after quota at formal recruitment they do not make total, or if total is raised, chapters below total can COB. That usually has more options

[thetalady]

NervousNellie, I think the best thing you can ask her is "Would you rather accept a bid to your 2nd option or not in a sorority at all?" because that might be her choices....

[nervousnellie]

She said none at all. I need to respect her wishes. It is her life, not mine! She feels quite secure with her first house, but I know that NOTHING can be counted on. I think she is aware of this as well. I do respect the fact that she does not want to join a house just to be Greek, and is willing to wait for next year if it doesn't happen. I gave her a nest, she has her own wings and choices. I just hope it all works out.

[thetalady]

You have a really good attitude, NervousNellie! I'll wish good things for your little bird.

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Originally Posted by nervousnellie

I do respect the fact that she does not want to join a house just to be Greek, and is willing to wait for next year if it doesn't happen.

You sound like a great mom. I just hope your daughter educated herself enough to know that more than likely, this is her only chance. Like a few posters above me, Bama is pretty much one and done. Some Sophomores are successful, but those are not "re-rushing" Sophomores, those are girls that did not rush as freshman for whatever reason.

[BeachMom]

Ditto Ditto Ditto to the comment above. This is Alabama we're talking about......

Good Luck nervousnellie to you and your daughter.

[nervousnellie]

She listed both houses! Feeling better already!