Is she pregnant?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

I know a lot of what I said doesn't make any sense, but right now this is all new to me. I know, I fucked up, but I have to put that behind me now, and move on. KSU Violet I already said "I brought this on myself", post your thoughts, but I don't need you to repeat it back to me. Pretty boy, to answer your question, I'm not ready to be a parent, (if you're not already) are you? If you and others were in my shoes, you would have doubts too. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. I pretty much know it's my kid, but I also know people who thought the kid was theirs and it wasn't.

Kevin and the rest who have given good advice to me, thanks a lot for your support. I made an appointment with an attorney for Wednesday and I'm getting a physical this Monday. I'll keep you guys posted. Probably via pm because some of you aren't being very helpful at all. Kevin and 33girl thanks again.

Sweetheart, all your posts and information can be tracked by IP Address. That means if the woman you impregnated gets a hold of this stuff, she could use it against you. If you don't care about that, then good luck! If you do, well, you can seek supermoderator support and MAYBE it can be archived...

Anyhow, after getting your lawyer, you could consider seeking family counseling as to how to negotiate a parenting relationship--even if your woman does NOT go because you will be dealing with your custody agreement preferably with a social worker. The reason is your child support agreement you pay will be equitable to your child and how you spend your time to see your offspring.

[Xanthus]

^^^^Thanks for the advice.

I did end up getting my physical, and I'm still healthy like I figured I would be. I also talked to an attorney and he gave me some advice as well. I'm not going to go with the blood test though, because I know that's only going to make matters worse.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

^^^^Thanks for the advice.

I did end up getting my physical, and I'm still healthy like I figured I would be. I also talked to an attorney and he gave me some advice as well. I'm not going to go with the blood test though, because I know that's only going to make matters worse.

Sounds like some of your feelings have been resolved. Keep the advice of your attorney.

[KSigkid]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

^^^^Thanks for the advice.

I did end up getting my physical, and I'm still healthy like I figured I would be. I also talked to an attorney and he gave me some advice as well. I'm not going to go with the blood test though, because I know that's only going to make matters worse.

A couple of things with this:

1) AKA_Monet isn't an attorney (as far as I know), so what she's saying may not actually be the law in your state. With ANY legal issues whatsoever, you should be talking to your attorney.

As Kevin alluded to earlier, you're not (and can't) get competent legal advice over a message board, so you should be discussing any issues directly with your attorney.

2) You seem pretty open to posting about the details of your life, so: Do not, under any circumstances, post anything that your attorney tells you on this board. That goes for advice, conversations, anything whatsoever. Anything between you and your attorney should stay between you and your attorney.

Good luck with everything.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

^^^^Thanks for the advice.

I did end up getting my physical, and I'm still healthy like I figured I would be. I also talked to an attorney and he gave me some advice as well. I'm not going to go with the blood test though, because I know that's only going to make matters worse.

Well good. This is a very good start. Best of luck to you!

[Kevin]

[LouisaMay]

tatzaana,
I'm sending you a PM with a link to a great place to discuss your situation, as well as some information that might help. This site (and particularly this thread) is probably not the best place to get the feedback that you need.

LM