Rush at UCSC - Page 9

wishinhopin · #**121** 10-10-2001, 04:17 PM

Lilith, that was one of the most reassuring and sweetest things I've read in a long time. Thank you for your wonderful advice!

ZTAngel · #**122** 10-10-2001, 05:00 PM

Don't worry about Gamma Phi being upset that you're trying to bring another sorority onto campus. The only thing they have to be upset about is that they missed the opportunity to have such a motivated and dedicated person as yourself join their organization.

bruinaphi · #**123** 10-10-2001, 05:10 PM

As an aside, your (ex) friend may not have had all that much say in the membership selection process and she might not know how to approach you after everything that has happened since you started rushing. She may genuinely like you and might be very happy to see that you are starting your own membership organization.

As for Gamma Phi, I wouldn't worry about them right now. I don't think they are going to perceive you as a threat yet -- that won't come until you are really established and are competition for them. For now, just keep your head high and don't let your (ex) friend get to you during that meeting tomorrow.

You're doing an amazing job! Good luck!

greeklawgirl · #**124** 10-10-2001, 06:58 PM

Corina,
Just wanted to tell you what an excellent job you are doing...Just look at the progress that you have made in the last two weeks! WOW!

You'll do amazingly tomorrow. I'm just proud, proud, proud! We are all sharing in your excitement. Let us know what happens!

aephi alum · #**125** 10-10-2001, 07:26 PM

Corina,

First off, good luck tomorrow!

If I were you, I'd start with a relatively small core group of women - such as the 18 women who want to join an NPC sorority but didn't get into Gamma Phi. I would not start postering all over campus until you know for sure that a sorority is interested in colonizing. Otherwise, you're likely to get a flood of women interested in joining the new sorority, and when you're at the stage of (1) picking the sorority that will come to campus and (2) getting approval from the administration to allow colonization, it's easier to deal with 18 women and their opinions than, say, 100.

18 is a good sized group - my local only had 10 members when we went national!

Once your core group and an NPC sorority have decided you're a good fit, *then* I would start postering and looking for additional new members. The NPC sorority might have you pledge and then hold rush for additional new members who would then be initiated with you.

Note that once your new chapter is established, your sorority and Gamma Phi will be working together and forming a campus Panhel. Just something to keep in mind - don't make enemies when you don't need to.

As for your Gamma Phi friend, in the membership selection process she only has one vote and probably not much say. She may just be upset that you weren't extended a bid, and she may not know how to talk to you. Just a thought.

lilith · #**126** 10-10-2001, 07:41 PM

Keeping copies of all of your correspondence w/ NPC, Gamma Phi, and the University is a great idea. It will come in handy throughout the process as well as may turn out to be a great peice of founding history for your new org. Now, as far as DG goes. To the extent of my limited knowledge, I believe an undergraduate interested in extension should not (cannot) contact any particular NPC group until her campus has been cleared for extension. It may be premature to start correspondence with them yet.

lilith · #**127** 10-10-2001, 07:43 PM

OH! I meant to ask if you were keeping a diary during all of this? It would be wonderful with regards to documenting the founding of your chapter in the years to come!

wishinhopin · #**128** 10-10-2001, 09:44 PM

I haven't been keeping a diary, beyond what you all are reading here. As for the DG correspondence, I spoke with a couple people and basically I'm on the right track with them. So tonight I'm just trying to get all my paperwork together and ready for tomorrow. I can't help but be nervous though!

mmcat · #**129** 10-10-2001, 10:23 PM

if you need to, tell the prof. that you have a personal matter to deal with...
no one will turn that down.
also, just take a breathe, you are doing the totally correct thing for you. you have a cause and a reason. go to the meeting, find out what you need to do and get it done.
you are a bright, talented woman. this is all quite possible.
do not get scared.
you may just surprise yourself.
good luck!!!
and bravo.
mmcat

wishinhopin · #**130** 10-11-2001, 03:13 AM

I feel yucky. So I wrote to my exfriend and she was totally condesending. I can't spell. She told me that bringing new NPC sororities and national frats to campus was her job, but it was nice that I was "helping". So I'm just thinking, ok, well, it wasn't exactly difficult for me to do what I did, so what the hell have you been doing? I can understand maybe she feels like her position is threatened or something, but she definitely did not react in a very "sisterly" way. So I have a feeling tomorrow's meeting will be somewhat tense. I really hope all of this works. I just feel so dejected right now, I need to cheer up and bring back my confidence or else I will just suck horribly at this meeting. More later.

mmcat · #**131** 10-11-2001, 07:15 AM

you are on the right track. it sounds like she is on no track and feeling the pinch a bit. go in there with your rhetorical ducks in a row and find out what they have to say. there are still things you can do. don't let her response blow your confidence. you are a good lady and have the right idea. don't get scared. we are with you.
mmcat

shadokat · #**132** 10-11-2001, 10:27 AM

wishin,

You have come too far to let some girl get you down!! You are going to do this!! You are going to bring the opportunity of sisterhood to a group of women who really want it, and they are going to be so thankful that you helped in that effort!! Don't let anyone from Gamma Phi Beta intimidate you, because it is their loss that they don't have someone as motivated and dedicated to their cause as you are to yours! Keep your head high and go into that meeting with the attitude that you are bringing another NPC sorority to the campus, with or without Gamma Phi Beta's support.

I hope that her attitude is just her own, and not that of the whole sorority. When I went to the colonization of our newest colony this past weekend in Indiana, I was so amazed at how supportive the NPC was! The presidents of each of the sororities came (ASA, Gamma Phi Beta, DZ), along with two of the fraternity presidents! The sororities brought gifts for the new colony and everyone was so supportive. It was truly great to see Panhellenic spirit like that.

So wishin, keep your chin up girl...you're doing a great thing, and nobody can change that!!!

maggieaxid · #**133** 10-11-2001, 11:02 AM

Don't let this chick get you down!!! She obviously isn't doing her job. I think you should go armed with a list of names of girls who want to participate and help you and all the work YOU HAVE DONE in regards to getting a new organization on campus. Plus, you have one of the best assets of all right here. You have hundreds of girls from all NPC organizations who are willing to help you and lend a hand. She doesn't have that resource. So go in with your head up high, all your great information and show them how you have kicked butt in two weeks while she has done nothing. AND if you want to, and I am not sure how headstrong you are, you may ask the guy who you are meeting with that you would also like to be an intern in this process since you are already familiar with it and all the assets that you can bring to the table.
GOOD LUCK! WE ARE BEHIND YOU 100%
-Maggie

carnation · #**134** 10-11-2001, 11:08 AM

If she's condescending to you or turns you away, remember that she's not the last word. She's an undergrad, right? Who crowned her?

You should go right above her to her boss if she has the nerve to say no...if he says it's her job, go to his boss, armed with everything you have. Actually, a college that accepts federal money can't stop a Greek group from colonizing.

greeklawgirl · #**135** 10-11-2001, 12:50 PM

I can't add anything onto the wonderful words of advice already here. Just wanted to remind you that you've come way too far to be intimidated now! We are all thinking about you and we know good things will be coming your way! Good luck this afternoon.