DARK/LIGHT...SKIN COLOR.........Is this still an issue? Let's be honest Sorors & SF' - Page 8

PrettyBoy · #**106** 10-20-2006, 01:36 AM

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Originally Posted by MsFoxyLoxy77

and your point is?

LOL

cjoanell · #**107** 10-20-2006, 10:50 PM

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Originally Posted by lovelyivy84

Don't Feed the Troll.

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white rapper · #**108** 10-22-2006, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by MsFoxyLoxy77

and your point is?

My point is that I like skinny light skinned sistas and asian chicks with big booobs. Have you ever had a skinny light skinned sistas or asian chicks with big booobs? If you did you would know what I was talking bout. Its better than Disneyland. Just strap yurself in and hold on tight.

pinkies up · #**109** 10-22-2006, 06:43 PM

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My point is that I like skinny light skinned sistas and asian chicks with big booobs. Have you ever had a skinny light skinned sistas or asian chicks with big booobs? If you did you would know what I was talking bout. Its better than Disneyland. Just strap yurself in and hold on tight.

Please step away from the crack pipe.

Jill1228 · #**110** 10-22-2006, 07:25 PM

Thank you! You are da bomb girl!

I was one who was relentlessly teased because of my darker skin tone. Summer is my favorite season and living near the ocean most of my young life, I spent mucho time out in the sun...and I got darker...and I did not give a rip!

It kills me to hear the "she is really black, but she is pretty". yes I heard this from my 88 year old grandmother. It works my nerve to hear folx say stuff like that. I love you Nana, but dang...

But i echo someone who said to read the book "The Color Complex" Wonderful read

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I have found that instead of thinking and talking about this "color complex" I just make it a point to correct (usually, black) people when I see or hear them displaying colorisms or hair texturisms. For instance, if I hear some ignorant soul say "good hair" or say "I need to stay out of the sun because I'm black enough as is," I go on (what my friend calls) my Angela Davis speech. I say "no such thing as 'good hair' unless you're talking about healthy hair" and "no such thing as being 'black enough' but you need to stay out of the sun to protect yourself from UV rays and skin cancer, not getting darker.
Either case, people have generally learned not to make certain comments around me. I could be changing the world if I force everyone to interact with me on a daily basis. Then I'll be their #1 source of socialization.

PrettyBoy · #**111** 10-23-2006, 03:17 AM

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Originally Posted by white rapper

My point is that I like skinny light skinned sistas and asian chicks with big booobs. Have you ever had a skinny light skinned sistas or asian chicks with big booobs? If you did you would know what I was talking bout. Its better than Disneyland. Just strap yurself in and hold on tight.

LOL

PrettyBoy · #**112** 10-23-2006, 03:17 AM

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Originally Posted by pinkies up

Please step away from the crack pipe.

LMAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAO

Lady of Pearl · #**113** 10-28-2006, 09:17 PM

Unfortunately some people are still colorstruck. Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. Alas, some still ascribe to the eurocentric concept of beauty-light skin, thin, with long hair. It is up to the individual to be secure in themselves and not use the typical standard of beauty to measure themselves up against.
It is only when an individual accepts and love themselves for who they are contrary to what society dictates will they be secure in themselves.

nonchalant · #**114** 10-28-2006, 11:46 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Was your mom from the South? It seems like that's where a lot of this stuff is still happening.

Yes. She was born and raised in Alabama.

black_princess · #**115** 10-29-2006, 01:33 AM

Just to weigh in. . .I have a friend who is my age (22) and from the Northeast. She says that her mother told her from a young age that she should not bring home any dark-skined men, especially if they are (in her words) "blue -black" . She told my friend that she won't be able to see her kids if she does. Mind you, my friend, her mother and my friends father are not fair skinned. So I just find the whole situation funny and sad at the same time.

Today, my friend says that she just seems to be drawn to lighter side, but in her mind doesn't have a preference. She just happens not to meet any darker men. Also, whenerver she is describing a handsome man you can definately hear the passion in her voice when its a light skinned man as compared to a darker man. I'm not saying that anything's wrong if she has this preference, I just wonder how different would her choices be if mom hadn't planted those early seeds.

PrettyBoy · #**116** 10-29-2006, 02:08 AM

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Originally Posted by black_princess

Just to weigh in. . .I have a friend who is my age (22) and from the Northeast. She says that her mother told her from a young age that she should not bring home any dark-skined men, especially if they are (in her words) "blue -black" . She told my friend that she won't be able to see her kids if she does. Mind you, my friend, her mother and my friends father are not fair skinned. So I just find the whole situation funny and sad at the same time.

Today, my friend says that she just seems to be drawn to lighter side, but in her mind doesn't have a preference. She just happens not to meet any darker men. Also, whenerver she is describing a handsome man you can definately hear the passion in her voice when its a light skinned man as compared to a darker man. I'm not saying that anything's wrong if she has this preference, I just wonder how different would her choices be if mom hadn't planted those early seeds.

That's krazy. I've always heard that most women, black or white are more attracted to men with a darker complexion than men with a lighter complexion. Correction. I see it more often. I see a lot of men with a lighter complexion with darker women, and vise versa.

hellocutie · #**117** 10-29-2006, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I see a lot of men with a lighter complexion with darker women, and vise versa.

I see that a lot too. My boyfriend is has a lighter complexion and I have a darker complexion, and it's funny because he told me that he has always been attracted to browner women. His father, who is as fair as they come, also has a darker skinned wife. He may have gotten his preference from his father in an indirect way.

pinkies up · #**118** 10-29-2006, 10:50 PM

That's funny. My brother and I both have light complexions and we are both attracted to people with darker skin tones. I've dated guys with light skin, but for some reason I was always afraid if we had kids they'd be see thru. (just kidding) I was always attracted to guys darker than me.

GIJANE · #**119** 10-29-2006, 11:36 PM

I am glad to see this topic addressed in this forum. As a brown complexioned woman, neither light nor dark, I feel sort of out of place sometimes in dark or light discussions.
I go to a bar in Columbus, OH frequented by whites and I am typically the only black person there. I used to get stared at, but now they see me as a regular. I haven't heard many conversations centered around the tone of my skin. They typically comment on my attractiveness in general, but never on the fact that I am black.
I used to also believe that AKAs were light and Delta's were darker skinned, until I did my research and saw pictures of each set of founders and saw the truth. I believe that the paper bag tests and so forth were ridiculous due to the fact that both sororities had founders of different complexions.
I wish the world would realize that your skin tone does not determine your intelligence or level of beauty.
In regard to color preference in dating, I was always equal opportunity and dated who approached me. I am not sure if I care about how light the man is or not, as long as he treats me right.
BTW, I have dated white men too.

PrettyBoy · #**120** 10-30-2006, 12:32 AM

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Originally Posted by pinkies up

That's funny. My brother and I both have light complexions and we are both attracted to people with darker skin tones. I've dated guys with light skin, but for some reason I was always afraid if we had kids they'd be see thru. (just kidding) I was always attracted to guys darker than me.

My mom said she chose my dad who's darker so her kids wouldn't be bleached out. There are 3 of us and we are 3 different shades. LOL. I guess she chose the right guy. For me, it doesn't matter what color. Light or dark, as long as I'm attracted to her inside and out.