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03-17-2008, 01:05 PM
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This is still definitely an issue. My sister-in-law was reading a book to my nephew that dealt with people with all shades and he immediately pointed out the darkest skinned person and said he doesn't like her. My nephew is 3 years old and our immediate family are all shades. He's very fair, but my sister and father are darker skinned. We're trying to get him out of that mind-set, but more importantly, we're concerned about how he's conformed to that.
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11-05-2007, 11:09 PM
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OMG, Thank you!
It kinda peeves me when people know you are in an interracial relationship/marriage and trying to conceive/ are pregnant they say, "you are going to have beautiful children". WTF?  |
Oh man, about two weeks ago, the boy and I were at an event...one of the waiters, who's from the same area of the world as the boy, tried to convince him to have a kid with me!  He was all, "my girlfriend is Dominican, and our kids are gorgeous." The girlfriend was a waitress at the club too, and he brought her over to show us! She also tried to convince us how beautiful our kids would be.
I thought it was hilarious until I remembered that some people have to go through this nonsense every day.
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11-08-2007, 11:17 AM
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Oh man, about two weeks ago, the boy and I were at an event...one of the waiters, who's from the same area of the world as the boy, tried to convince him to have a kid with me! He was all, "my girlfriend is Dominican, and our kids are gorgeous." The girlfriend was a waitress at the club too, and he brought her over to show us! She also tried to convince us how beautiful our kids would be.
I thought it was hilarious until I remembered that some people have to go through this nonsense every day. |
i get that when i go out with by bestguyfriend. he's Filipino and dates black women exclusively (another story there). When we go out his friends who haven't met me, they assume we're on a date and feel the need to tell us how cute our kids will be. 
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11-05-2007, 08:25 PM
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Sistahfriend, ain't that the truth?
last year after my miscarriage, someone did express their sympathies (which is all good) but then they added "that's too bad, it would have been a pretty child"
WTF? You should have quit while you were ahead! I was just too stunned
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11-06-2007, 07:55 PM
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Good Evening all,
This post is right on time for me... I'm a beautiful dark-skinned Black woman who feels that we're all beautiful in our own way... I was raised to think that being dark skinned was wrong and I've been asked if I was adopted since I could remember (my mom is caramel, my older and younger sisters are light/medium brown, my dad is really dark, but he wasn't around)... It took a while for me to embrace this God-given beauty, but it happened... As a people (all people, all races) we still have a problem with skin color... it's sad, but true... The only solution to this problem (it's ideal, but not so real) is to just love people for who they are... It may not be that easy for everyone, but if you wanna get over it, then you'll do it...
I've received compliments for having long, permed, good hair and I've been called "pretty for a black girl"... I recently cut my long, permed hair and I'm natural (which is a whole 'nother ball game entirely)... In the end, I'm just me... Question: Why is it that I'm more accepted as a dark skinned woman with shoulder length permed hair, but overlooked or shunned for having natural hair?
While I was an undergrad (Sociology major) at a predominantly white institution, I took a class called Racism in American Society... The professor was AWESOME... On the first day of class, she put everyone in order from lightest to darkest... As a Black woman, I was proud to stand at the darkest end of the spectrum (If I'd been light skinned I'd be proud there, too!)... Funny thing is, there were people who were clearly darker than me who didn't want to be the darkest person in the class... They looked ashamed and moved closer to the middle of the spectrum... The professor gave money to the 6 darkest students in the class... It was an experiment to show whites/lighter skinned people how it felt to be rewarded solely on the basis of skin color....
I STILL HAVE MY DOLLAR 3 YEARS LATER....
This experiment touched me and made me look @ PEOPLE differently....
It's just my thoughts 
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11-08-2007, 02:39 AM
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...While I was an undergrad (Sociology major) at a predominantly white institution, I took a class called Racism in American Society... The professor was AWESOME... On the first day of class, she put everyone in order from lightest to darkest... As a Black woman, I was proud to stand at the darkest end of the spectrum (If I'd been light skinned I'd be proud there, too!)... Funny thing is, there were people who were clearly darker than me who didn't want to be the darkest person in the class... They looked ashamed and moved closer to the middle of the spectrum... The professor gave money to the 6 darkest students in the class... It was an experiment to show whites/lighter skinned people how it felt to be rewarded solely on the basis of skin color....
I STILL HAVE MY DOLLAR 3 YEARS LATER....
This experiment touched me and made me look @ PEOPLE differently....
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Your teacher is the best. (ps im glad you know your true self worth )
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11-08-2007, 11:20 AM
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Good Evening all,
This post is right on time for me... I'm a beautiful dark-skinned Black woman who feels that we're all beautiful in our own way... I was raised to think that being dark skinned was wrong and I've been asked if I was adopted since I could remember (my mom is caramel, my older and younger sisters are light/medium brown, my dad is really dark, but he wasn't around)... It took a while for me to embrace this God-given beauty, but it happened... As a people (all people, all races) we still have a problem with skin color... it's sad, but true... The only solution to this problem (it's ideal, but not so real) is to just love people for who they are... It may not be that easy for everyone, but if you wanna get over it, then you'll do it...
I've received compliments for having long, permed, good hair and I've been called "pretty for a black girl"... I recently cut my long, permed hair and I'm natural (which is a whole 'nother ball game entirely)... In the end, I'm just me... Question: Why is it that I'm more accepted as a dark skinned woman with shoulder length permed hair, but overlooked or shunned for having natural hair?
While I was an undergrad (Sociology major) at a predominantly white institution, I took a class called Racism in American Society... The professor was AWESOME... On the first day of class, she put everyone in order from lightest to darkest... As a Black woman, I was proud to stand at the darkest end of the spectrum (If I'd been light skinned I'd be proud there, too!)... Funny thing is, there were people who were clearly darker than me who didn't want to be the darkest person in the class... They looked ashamed and moved closer to the middle of the spectrum... The professor gave money to the 6 darkest students in the class... It was an experiment to show whites/lighter skinned people how it felt to be rewarded solely on the basis of skin color....
I STILL HAVE MY DOLLAR 3 YEARS LATER....
This experiment touched me and made me look @ PEOPLE differently....
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girl, you are touching on so many things right there.
<--- dark sista who has been natural as well as permed and has recieved TOTALLY distinct treatment depending on hairstyle. LOL.
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11-07-2007, 03:01 PM
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The guy who could be my babies' daddy (not that I would do that at this point) is fair skinned, and we would have beautiful children--but that's because we are both pretty good looking.
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11-08-2007, 01:43 AM
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Ugly is a genetic trait. Flav and some random white girl will not equal pretty babies; just light skinned crickets.
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11-08-2007, 02:42 AM
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Ugly is a genetic trait. Flav and some random white girl will not equal pretty babies; just light skinned crickets.
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You know you are so wrong for that (but it was funny)
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11-08-2007, 05:29 PM
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Ugly is a genetic trait. Flav and some random white girl will not equal pretty babies; just light skinned crickets.
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Oh my goodness. I just choked on my gum!
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03-08-2008, 04:20 PM
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*sigh*
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03-08-2008, 11:30 PM
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You know..I just read Reaching Back and Reborn by Nea Simone and I just purchase Passin' by Karen Quinones Miller...that deals with this issue...
This whole subject is foreign to me and my family because it was never important to us and we are all shades.
But its still an issue in the community, which I think is a damn shame, esp. since Millions of blacks, "disappear" annually.
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03-31-2008, 08:19 PM
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I do not dislike dark-skinned people, but I don't want daqrk-skinned kids. Simply being honest.
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03-31-2008, 08:20 PM
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I do not dislike dark-skinned people, but I don't want daqrk-skinned kids. Simply being honest.
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Wow...
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