Are you close to your Big/Lil?

[jetage]

My big and I have had an interesting relationship. I didnt know her too well when I got her as my big, but slowly during my freshman year we would go out together, shared the same circle of friends, etc. This past year she went away for 6 months and I kind of came into my own without her, developed my own close friends, etc. She came back for our spring term and I wasn't nearly as close with her as I was last year. Then, she disaffiliated. I love her to death as a person, but she wasn't necessarily a good mentor in terms of being enthusiastic about our organization (hence, her disaffiliation).

HOWEVER, MY LITTLE IS AMAZING. First, she's one of the coolest/strongest people I've ever met, I feel like she's my blood sister. I think we have a good balance because we're the same major, I can give her school advice, I have taken many posititions in both my sorority and the Panhellenic council, and most of all we have so much FUN together. We definitely have our own groups of friends, which is fine/I like it this way, but we always manage to see each other for lunch/going out/whatever at least once a week. I'm extremely sad to part from her this summer But I love my pairing and as new head of my family can't wait for my little's little next year

[twinkle555]

Im semi close to my big sis..she moved in 2007 but visits about 2x a year..

Im semi close to my first lil..she transferred schools after a year in AOII, I see her often though

Im SUPER close to my 2nd lil..she will be my maid of honor one day )))

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by aloysious

My big brother was a dick with ears.

You were your own big? Really?

[introspecto]

I had a good relationship with my big, but she was a graduating senior when I pledged, so she was largely occupied with job finding and other such things. I'm extremely close to my little, though. She is one of my best friends within the fraternity (we are co-ed) and I spend tons of time with her. We have probably the closest big-little relationship within our chapter. I'm the most distant with my grandlittle, who is very independent - he seems a bit antisocial at times.

[BabyPiNK_FL]

I see my big several times a year. We have a good relationship. I think it's even impoved with time.
I just LOVE my littles, since day one we've been attached at the hips. I'm the closest with my first and last ones, but the 3 in between are also great. I speak with all of them regularly and see them frequently. Recitals, baptisms, club nights, birthdays, everything.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by BabyPiNK_FL

I see my big several times a year. We have a good relationship. I think it's even impoved with time.
I just LOVE my littles, since day one we've been attached at the hips. I'm the closest with my first and last ones, but the 3 in between are also great. I speak with all of them regularly and see them frequently. Recitals, baptisms, club nights, birthdays, everything.

Wow! 5 littles! And I thought I had a lot when I took 3.

My big sis and I are pretty close. I was a bridesmaid at her wedding. We've made it a priority to keep in touch over the years. Facebook makes that so much easier.

My first little and I didn't really have time to get close. She dropped out of AOII after the first semester after she realized that she didn't have time for AOII and softball, and since softball was paying for school, AOII had to go.

My second little sis and I are extremely close. We have always been that way. I was matron of honor in her wedding, and she would have been a bridesmaid in mine if I had had a real wedding. We have the same sense of humor, and I've gotten to be that mentor for her throughout our relationship, which is what the Big Sis position is for.

My third little sis and I haven't been that close, which is mostly my fault. I took her as a senior when I was winding down and getting ready to go to med school. She's a wonderful woman, and I'm proud to call her a sister. Luckily with FB, I've been able to reconnect with her. She had other sisters to fill in for me once I left college, and she was a junior when she pledged.

[joliebelle]

My big sis and I are pretty close. She was a year ahead of me in school, and we just had the most amazing times together. She stayed in town after graduation, and she still hangs out with other sisters on occasion.

Little #1- We were really close until she got engaged (fiance, and now husband is in the Navy). After she went early alum the summer before our senior year, we just didn't talk like we used to, which I expected because of her reasons for going alum.
Little #2- I think that we are the closest, unexpectedly. She's my opposite and I love her because she's so driven; she just graduated with 2 degrees in 3 years, including a year of study abroad.
Little #3- I got her with #2 as twins my junior year. I wish I had spent more time with her, but between her music theater major and me just being busy, it didn't happen as much as I liked.

[buffalogreek]

I personally think Big/Little is important but I think it just really depends on the people within the relationship as some guys in my chapter just wanted a little to have a little and didn't care who they got while others (including myself) find the one we really want.

When I got my Big I was three days into pledging and we barely knew each other. We got semi close during pledge as we had weekly big brother events but I always felt like I was trying more to get to know him then he was me. After barely speaking for an entire year (even as roommates for half that year) we finally started to become good friends and when he chose to stay on and go to Law School at our school, our friendship only grew. Its safe to say that my Big is one of my good friends and he is definitely someone I can go to for advice, hang out or just someone to rely on.

Now my littles are another story....Little #1 when I first got him the two of us were very close. He is the same age as me but pledged a year later. We were good friends until Little #2 came along and he stopped talking to me. This has continued past graduation as well. Little #2 and I get along great but our relationship does not rival anything I had with the first one just because he is busy with his life and I am with mine. We tried to get lunch together every so often to catch up.

At my school the idea of the family tree goes beyond just the big and little and to the next generation. Though my relationship with my littles are bad I do have great relationships with both my Lil Lil's and Lil Lil Lil's.

[mittens]

My big and I are pretty close. She is very involved within AOII and I admire that. I found out that she wasn't supposed to be my big, but I am happy that I did get her She has been very supportive and helped me grow within my chapter

My big has three littles though, one of them went alum already and her other little, I call her "twin" even though that may not be the correct term because she calls me "trip". I just like saying "twin" better... but my twin is amazing. I love her.

[Miriverite]

My big was actually the first affiliated woman I met on campus when I arrived as a freshman. A year after, when I went through recruitment, she was a Rho Chi, so I didn't know that she was an AXO as well. In fact, I remember being slightly disappointed because I already wanted her as my big, and I originally thought that she was part of another sorority! We mutually picked each other and have hung out occasionally. We're close enough that we can tell each other things and have deep conversations, but both she and I are insanely involved on campus and thus very busy. We usually meet up once a month or so, which is enough for both of us. She recently graduated, though, so I guess we'll see where our lineage goes next year when I get my little =)

[myopicsunflower]

My little and I are still really close -- 16 years after she pledged! Love her so much...she's an incredible woman, and we have so many fun memories.

[blueiris10]

i love love love my big! she is amazing. and i'm getting a little in the spring! yay!

[agzg]

I'm going to be the MOH in my sister-mother's wedding in 2011.

I'm not as close with my sister-daughter, but she's close with my sister-mother, and we keep missing each other in phone calls/facebook/when we're both in the same town.

[littleowl33]

My Big and I are very close. I pledged as a freshman in spring '07 and she was graduating at the end of the semester. The chapter usually tries to avoid giving Littles to graduating seniors, but she had been abroad and had somehow never gotten a Little so she got me! She had been one of three Littles and I think because of that she made an extra effort to make me feel special by taking me out, buying me presents, etc. She was fantastic! We found out we had a lot in common (besides the same major) and got pretty close. She is definitely one of my role models - a very strong, intelligent and funny person!

After she graduated we ended up not talking for about a year. I blame myself 100% - I was busy with sophomore year and she was busy with her first job, but I wasn't good about returning the efforts she made to stay in touch. I still feel bad about it. But about a year after she graduated and moved away I had something really sad happen, so I called her out of the blue and we ended up talking for hours - she is a saint! Soon after she quit her research job and moved back to Baltimore to take a different one. Since then we've grown a lot closer and though we don't see each other too often anymore (we have both since moved away to new cities) we still talk/text/facebook a few times a week.

I would say I'm also pretty close with both my Littles. Little #1 came when I was a sophomore - we were already friends from our on-campus jobs in the same department and I shamelessly pushed her into rushing. She is a fun, beautiful, smart and ambitious young woman who will be continuing on to a prestigious combined BA/MA program next fall. Because she finished her bachelors in 3 years we were able to graduate together!

I didn't really know Little #2 well when I took her the next year (she joined as a sophomore when I was a junior), and but as we got to know each other better I was so impressed by how cool she is. She is very different from the rest of the family on the surface (Big, Little #1 and I are all WASP-y social science majors and she's a biomedical engineer who was born in China) but she is so much fun and incredibly smart. I wish she had joined a year earlier so we could have had more time together! The three of us have had some great times together and I miss them both so much now that I've graduated.

Neither of them took Littles until my senior year (Little #1 took a Little last fall, who then took two last spring, and Little #2 took two Littles last spring) so I'm probably not as close to the Littlests as I am to them, due to lack of time. However they are all fabulous girls and great assets to Kappa!

Wow, I just wrote an essay. Can you tell a nostalgiac recent grad when you see one?

[GammaPhi1874]

I love my Big! we are very close. I'm also very close to Little #1 and Little #3 unfortunately Little #2 and I aren't as close but I hope that will change with time.