Are You Too Good For These Men?

[AKA_Monet]

I know a few 35+ men available, never been married and without children. Not a large number, though.

For instance, men who graduate from med school are ~27-29ish. They have residency for 2 years and a neurology surgical fellowship for many more years and they get out of that by 35ish...

I know, because my Sorors were all kinna pissed off because I invited this fione pediatrician who was 40 years old. But, when I met him, 4 years ago, he wasn't married... He had a girlfriend, then...

It's funny, because, why is it as a fully married woman I am meeting all kinna single brotha's my age--30-something, who don't have attachments and details, but then, I cannot find my single sistafriends anywhere to introduce them?

[delph998]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I don't understand why people see an issue with men being 30+ and never being married.

Soror, it's not an issue. It's a blessing actually, BUT with how rampid HIV/AIDS is, I can't help but question (not judge) if this guy could possibly be a down-low brotha. Is it wrong, I don't know. But it's a harsh reality for me. Soror Sheryl Lee Ralph just came and spoke on this very topic and that made it even more real to me. I guess I'm saying that I am very afraid. And truthfully, there are divorced men with children that are down low brothas, so again it's just a fear.

Ladygreek -- I agree with your comment regarding age. Like I said, my sister and I are seven years a part and you can't tell. Further 40's are the new 30's and so on.

[btb87]

Originally Posted by delph998

Further 40's are the new 30's and so on.

Ooooh, that's encouraging!!

[BlessedOne04]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

It's funny, because, why is it as a fully married woman I am meeting all kinna single brotha's my age--30-something, who don't have attachments and details, but then, I cannot find my single sistafriends anywhere to introduce them?

Umm let me hand you my number and if you see anyone you can just send them my way!

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by delph998

I guess I'm saying that I am very afraid.

I'm sorry you're in fear, Soror, and I hope you are able to work through that.