Why you didn't make it into a sorority.

[Glitter650]

the whole three sisters is an event thing comes because that's when insurance is responsible for you I believe.... s although it is sometimes a pain becasue you kinda have to be more careful when it's an "chapter event" at least you are protected. Maybe my greek system is different because we don't have any houses... but here our girls throw parties on our own all the time and invite the boys... we just don't use chapter money to but the alcohol and althugh I guess it technically is an "event" since usually more than three of us are there we don't advertise it with our letters or say it's a Phi Sig party or anything.. it's word of mouth I think not having an offical house can be helpful in that way because then it would be dry... but since our chapter just has sisters that live together in their own apartments...

[veemers]

i totally agree with james. there's a girl who's rushed our house three times and has not once gotten a bid. she's very aggressive and disrespectful, and we just don't want her as a representative of our house. we are not in the business of teaching social skills.

[sairose]

Originally posted by 33girl
did you not read my last post or James' original post??????? That is EXACTLY what we said.

Read what the original point of this thread was, not the path it has taken.

Uh...sorry I was so slow to reply....but I'm totally confused. my post was referring to James' original post. I do agree that, many times, if you do not get a bid, there was a good reason for it. GLOs have the right to extend a bid only to people they feel would be an asset to their chapter.

However, what I meant was that sometimes there is a girl who would have made a FANTASTIC member, but for whatever reason, she didn't get a bid. Perhaps she was too shy during rush. Maybe her best qualities didn't happen to shine through. Her grades might not have been high enough. Whatever. Does that mean they didn't deserve to be in a sorority? Of course not. Sororities have to base membership selection on what they see. And I totally understand that. But it's hurtful to say they shouldn't have gotten a bid.

[33girl]

Originally posted by sairose
But it's hurtful to say they shouldn't have gotten a bid.

JAMES DID NOT SAY THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE GOTTEN A BID, HE SAID THAT IS WHY THEY DIDN'T GET A BID.

Sorry to shout, but I just feel like you are overpersonalizing the issue, rather than seeing what was actually said.

[sairose]

33girl I have PMd you.

[AchtungBaby80]

Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
But guys, I think James is really talking about the young ladies who come on here with stories about how they rushed and did every single thing right, they had a 4.5 high school GPA, people tell them they're so beautiful, etc. but they got cut from every house. We're not talking about the girls who went through rush and were shy and didn't have the opportunity to let their best qualities shine. I mean, I know it sounds awful, but sometimes PNMs can get obnoxious..."Well, I'm so cute, I was a cheerleader/Homecoming Queen/Beta Club member in high school and those houses had the nerve to drop me! What's WRONG with them?!?!?"

Like I said...

[33girl]

Originally posted by sairose
33girl I have PMd you.

received, and let's just consider this matter closed.

[sairose]

Sorry I misunderstood your point, James. I guess we all misread things sometimes.

[FSUZeta]

that just as some chapters on some campuses are highly selective in the ways they decide who is extended an invitation to join, that the same can be said for some pnm's? there will be some pnm's who would never consider joining a chapter that was not in the top tier on their campus, whose members weren't the
"campus queens" and were drop dead gorgeous. selection works both ways, and each side can be equally superficial when they make their choices.such is life.

[azdtaxi]

I think rush at Southern schools must be so different. The first time I went through rush I got cut completely first round. I found out later because of something weird to do with my gpa ... but I knew a lot of girls that got cut. I mean now its fine bcause I ended up where I am suppose to be but for ya'll to say that people only get cut because there is something seriously wrong witht them is just really wrong and makes pnm scared of rush.

[DGMarie]

I was just thinking, what if they had to tell you WHY they cut you?


BTW, the new Lilly Pulitzer Spring dress catalog arrived in the mail today. Who could cut a girl in a Lilly???

[Tippiechick]

I actually had someone at Ole Miss that rushed me and was in a class with me. After I was cut by this sorority, she told me later that she really wanted me, but some of the other girls thought my teeth were too big. No joke. They aren't crooked, I don't have any front teeth missing, no black teeth, etc. They were just a bit too 'big' for them.

I thought it was really an odd thing.

[sairose]

Originally posted by FSUZeta
that just as some chapters on some campuses are highly selective in the ways they decide who is extended an invitation to join, that the same can be said for some pnm's? there will be some pnm's who would never consider joining a chapter that was not in the top tier on their campus, whose members weren't the
"campus queens" and were drop dead gorgeous. selection works both ways, and each side can be equally superficial when they make their choices.such is life.

Actually, I HAVE considered that. I know this girl who is a friend of friends of mine...she's VERY superficial. She knew before she even came to college which sorority she wanted to be in. Mind you, she didn't know anyone in any of the sororities; she was just basing this decision on superficiality because she knew that this particular sorority is a top tier one at my school, and well, their girls are gorgeous. Mind you, they're wonderful girls, and super sweet. But she wasn't basing her choice on personality, but by image. She did end up in that sorority.

What's really sad, is that she looks down on the girls that aren't in the top tier ones.

I don't know about everyone else, but I joined my GLO because I liked the girls, and I meshed with them the best, and I felt at home with them, and I liked what they stood for. What a concept!

[exlurker]

Originally posted by DGMarie
I was just thinking, what if they had to tell you WHY they cut you? . . . .

Interesting comment! Some but not all NPC groups require a chapter to contact the relative (i.e., phone call, etc.) if a legacy is cut. At least that's what some legacy policies on national web sites say. I'd guess that would be a super fun conversation.

Turning it around, of course, what if PNMs had to tell chapters why they cut THEM?

Some things may be better left unsaid .

BTW, DGMarie, congrats to "Anchors Online" for really encouraging DGs to submit Sponsor Forms.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by exlurker
Interesting comment! Some but not all NPC groups require a chapter to contact the relative (i.e., phone call, etc.) if a legacy is cut. At least that's what some legacy policies on national web sites say. I'd guess that would be a super fun conversation.

We have to, and I was Rec Chairman. It is one of the best ways of training for the Diplomatic Corps that I can begin to think of!!

I can think of one legacy who had so much leverage that, the ONLY reason we didn't cut her was because absolutely no one - including our Alumnae Group! - wanted to call her relatives!!