Mississippi Sorority Recruitment 2015 - Page 7

carnation · #91 10-02-2015, 01:08 PM

Those stories were pretty commonplace in Texas. Some of the girls would stay at the new school and others would transfer back and attempt to affiliate. I don't personally know anyone who rushed unsuccessfully at school A, transferred to B and pledged the desired group there, and transferred back to A and successfully affiliated.

lake · #92 10-02-2015, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by SweetTeaParty

THIS! Happened ALL the time, pre-internet. Who could know the schools where you'd been accepted or gone through rush (or even recieved bids/pledged)?

At my school (where the Fall term started after Labor Day, and rush was in late October) there was a young lady who was on her 3rd (!) Rush that year to get her dream GLO. She received her bid at our school and transferred her sophomore year back to a large SEC school. But the chapter there refused to affiliate her! So, she was back (immediately) to our school. Didn't miss a day.
All of this came out after she returned - - her chapter was not amused. (And, I can't imagine the cost of doing this! Her parents must've been nuts!)

This is the best story I've heard yet about that craziness! That young lady must have had psychotic-level determination to reach her goal to put herself through three rushes!! How could she even function at school? The physical, mental and emotional exhaustion would've been a severe detriment starting out the school year, and getting the grades you needed to even initiate!

33girl · #93 10-02-2015, 02:14 PM

My question is, if all this comes out, will you really be afforded the post-graduate social amenities that the "right" sorority gets you? Or will you be Tilly the Transfer until you're in the nursing home?

sassymom · #94 10-02-2015, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by OldOleMiss

Nolefan and Sassymom- GOOD LUCK to your daughters!! and keep the wine handy -you've almost made it through. Friends daughter was cut by one of her favorites but still had 4 great ones for skit (sorry sisterhood :-) ). She also had a very good friend that was released all together so she is feeling very grateful.

That is good to hear. I'm glad your friend's daughter is being openminded and feels grateful. I didn't go to Ole Miss but I've heard all the houses are great. Cuts are said to have been brutal this year from what PPP heard. PNMS have been whispering that it's because Alpha Phi is colonizing this year. From the earlier posts in this thread I guess that might have some truth to it.

PPP had only left 4 after the first round of cuts and luckily all 4 invited her back for sisterhood. We were worried before but now we're thinking her chances are good that she will get a bid. PPP just called and said that she feels good. They have to meet in about 2 hours and she seems cool as a cucumber.

Good luck to your friend's daughter, Nolefan's daughter, and every other PNM going through rush. This has been so nervewracking and I wish I could have some wine just thinking about it but some singalong music will have to do for now.

honeychile · #95 10-02-2015, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by thetalady

They did have rush prior to school starting though the 90's. Then the University administration insisted that it be changed. Girls used to immediately leave school, if they did not get the rush results that they wanted. They would go to another school where they had been accepted to try rushing there. Seriously. Now rush is held after the last date to drop out of school and get a refund on the semester.

My chapter was used twice like this when I was an active. It was when there wasn't a snowball's chance of a "yankee" getting an SEC bid, if you lived above the Mason-Dixon line! What really burned me was the number of women who would have been committed to the chapter who had been cut so that these special snowflakes could get a bid.

Another phenomena was when a chapter closed (in our case, WVU), and many sisters transferred and wanted to affiliate. For the most part, we accepted them happily.

lake · #96 10-02-2015, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by honeychile

My chapter was used twice like this when I was an active. It was when there wasn't a snowball's chance of getting an SEC bid, if you lived above the Mason-Dixon line! What really burned me was the number of women who would have been committed to the chapter who had been cut so that these special snowflakes could get a bid.

Another phenomena was when a chapter closed (in our case, WVU), and many sisters transferred and wanted to affiliate. For the most part, we accepted them happily.

But maybe, if they wanted to be a member of that GLO sooooo bad, they end up being really good, involved alums? Do you think that is true? Or do you think it's all about being in a certain GLO on a certain campus?

honeychile · #97 10-02-2015, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by lake

But maybe, if they wanted to be a member of that GLO sooooo bad, they end up being really good, involved alums? Do you think that is true? Or do you think it's all about being in a certain GLO on a certain campus?

I had never thought of the alumnae involvement. That makes me feel much, much better about a few tense times in the ole sorority suite!

And yes, I do think that campus culture has a lot to do with it, too.

nolefan · #98 10-02-2015, 05:18 PM

Sassymom, I'm dying laughing - sing-along-songs!!! That is perfect! My middle daughter turns 13 this weekend and I have a slumber party happening at my house tonight - not going to drink a whole bottle of wine with a bunch of 13 year olds running around, so maybe I will have to turn up the music!!! At least I will be distracted from my clock and my cell phone

You all will appreciate this: when my daughter sent me photos of her rush schedule, I glanced at the first page and she only had one party, all other slots were "break" - I am not accustomed to these rounds being broken into two days, well my heart dropped into my shoes... oh boy, I thought she had only been invited back to one. I was so relieved to see the second sheet marked with four more houses that I about dropped my phone. She is very very happy with all the houses on her schedule and I am feeling so much better about our chances of this being smooth sailing. She is not a drama queen, sometimes I wish she'd get more wound up about things but the nice thing is that her disappointments don't sink her to the ground either. This may make our Sunday a much sunnier day, even if she doesn't end up at her first choice.

Thank heaven we have our "family birthday party" and college football to get me through tomorrow. That and the fact that my area is expecting to float away tomorrow. We're just south of Charlotte, NC and north of Columbia, SC - somewhere between 'build an ark' and 'lower the life boats'....

Thank you OldOleMiss and Sassymom for your good wishes, sending the same to the girls you're pulling for. Sassymom, do you have any other daughters? I have two younger and am already hoping they choose schools where it may not be so MUCH.

BTW, My husband was able to get me a hotel room for the weekend, but a couple weeks ago my daughter decided that maybe I didn't really need to come over after all.... (since she would be so busy and all

) So..... Canceled the room for someone else to have and although it's much easier not having to drive all that way this weekend, I realize I will miss having a sideline seat for all the activity on Sunday. Glad she is feeling more self confident but..... #FeelingEnvious

OldOleMiss · #99 10-02-2015, 05:51 PM

Stay dry Nolefan!!! My mom's in Columbia and yes has been contemplating both arks and life-boats! Glad your daughter is doing so well!!! Hang in there!

austingammaphi · #**100** 10-03-2015, 01:06 PM

Adding to the multi-rush stories--I'd heard about this sort of thing happening, but I only saw one first-hand--and it was a doozy. A girl in my high school class, daughter of high-profile society donors (who were and are absolutely people), was one of the nastiest pieces of work I've ever encountered. Mean, self-important, and just hateful. Her only friends were hangers-on who enjoyed her parents' generosity. We both moved into the same private dorm at UT, and started recruitment together. This was back before open houses, and you started out with up to eight invitations (out of fourteen houses). She started out with a full set of invitations--and was immediately cut from every.single.one--including her mother's house.

Within twenty-four hours, she was out of the dorm and on her way to Mary Baldwin, where there are no NPC sororities. I didn't see her again until our ten-year reunion, where she refused to speak to anyone and left early. I hope all that money makes up for having no friends.

jolene · #**101** 10-03-2015, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by austingammaphi

Adding to the multi-rush stories--I'd heard about this sort of thing happening, but I only saw one first-hand--and it was a doozy. A girl in my high school class, daughter of high-profile society donors (who were and are absolutely people), was one of the nastiest pieces of work I've ever encountered. Mean, self-important, and just hateful. Her only friends were hangers-on who enjoyed her parents' generosity. We both moved into the same private dorm at UT, and started recruitment together. This was back before open houses, and you started out with up to eight invitations (out of fourteen houses). She started out with a full set of invitations--and was immediately cut from every.single.one--including her mother's house.

Within twenty-four hours, she was out of the dorm and on her way to Mary Baldwin, where there are no NPC sororities. I didn't see her again until our ten-year reunion, where she refused to speak to anyone and left early. I hope all that money makes up for having no friends.

UT as in Texas or Tennessee? Why go to a reunion if you're not going to talk to anyone?

nolefan · #**102** 10-03-2015, 02:11 PM

They are at Prefs right now.... Eeeeeeeeeeek!!!!!!!!

sassymom · #**103** 10-03-2015, 02:56 PM

Thank you nolefan! And congratulations on your middle daughter turning 13! That's a big one. I hope the slumber party went well, that the girls helped keep you distracted, and that y'all danced into the night.

Three daughters? That's a lot of recruitments.

I only have my one daughter and one son who is still in high school. My husband is not a fan of Greek life even though he dated me as a sorority woman, so jury's out on who will end up influencing our son more.

With the breaks...the same thing happened to me with my daughter's schedule during the philanthropy round! I'm so far removed from my own recruitment and not at all in the know about Ole Miss recruitment that I almost had a panic attack. Thankfully things turned out okay. Congratulations to your daughter for having a full schedule and being happy about all of the houses she has left. I think that your daughter sounds like she has an amazing attitude about this process. She seems to be taking things how they go and I think that being relaxed is the only way to get through this in a positive way. I hope she gets her top choice on Sunday, but if your daughter has a relaxed and grateful attitude, I'm sure Sunday will go swimmingly no matter where she ends up.

PPP is so excited as well and I'm so glad that she didn't let tent talk influence any of her decisions. We talked about it a bit last night after I got in (the drive was fine but I was tired after hours of driving!) so after our talk I went back to the hotel and we had an early night. I asked her if she wanted to spend the night in my hotel room, but she said that wasn't allowed to do that, so we got together for a quick breakfast this morning, after which she had to go get ready because they had to meet at 12:15 pm for preference. I didn't realize how early in the day preference would happen, but this will give us a chance to get dinner together afterward and maybe catch a movie so that we're both distracted. The Martian just came out and is supposed to be good.

I do hope you're not getting too much rain! I've heard that hurricane Joaquin has been terrible! Hope you're hanging on and that it's not as bad as was expected!

In other news, I can no longer get updates about how PPP's rush is going because last night I accidentally smashed my iPhone. Now I don't have any means of taking pictures or video tomorrow since I also forgot to bring my camera. The nearest Apple store is 2 hours away and my phone insurance won't ship to an address that isn't my home address. Not that I'd be able to get a delivery on Sunday anyway. PPP keeps saying that I wouldn't get any good photos or videos anyway so why worry about it? I guess if she's not fussed about it, I shouldn't fuss about it either, but this is one of those cases where I as a mom get pretty wound up and my daughter is pretty chill. She said there are going to be many photos taken and she would take a lot with her phone as well, so I will have a photo or two of her with her new letters.

Does anyone know how long the bid day festivities go on for tomorrow? I know that we need to get to the Grove by noon and that bids are distributed just at 1:15. I'm assuming it'll be an all day thing with bid day parties in the evening and that PPP and I will just get breakfast on Monday before I drive home. It's a pretty quick trip and that makes it quite tiring. But I'm glad I came, even though PPP is busy with the whole recruitment thing.

sassymom · #**104** 10-03-2015, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by jolene

UT as in Texas or Tennessee? Why go to a reunion if you're not going to talk to anyone?

I'm assuming it's Texas based on her username.

I agree, there's no point in going to a reunion if you're not going to talk to anyone. That's strange.

sassymom · #**105** 10-03-2015, 03:12 PM

For all the Ole Miss women, is The Lily Pad where we're supposed to get bid day gifts? I didn't realize until PPP told me that some moms send their girls presents every day of rush week. That seems excessive.

I also didn't realize that we could order presents before bid day and that they'd get a master list of the pledge classes. I'm going to walk there now to see whether I can still place an order.