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01-09-2009, 05:58 PM
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01-10-2009, 10:52 AM
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Second Invite
6 Party (Second Invite) was mainly about Sisterhood and each house showed a video/slideshow.
Yesterday I was super nervous when I got my list(especially since we started later in the day…so I had longer to think about it):
Chex
Smacks
Cookie Crisp
Apple Jacks
Kix
Frosted Wheats
I expected to be dropped by Captain Crunch and Corn Flakes even though I really liked them so I wasn’t all that upset. I was definitely happy to get six houses back with two of my initial favorites still present. Yesterday was much better on the weather front. About 40 degrees, sunny, and no ice on the sidewalk to slip on J All in all, a much better day than before. That said, I don’t think I’ve ever seen my feet so swollen and sore. I just don’t think I was made for high heels So here was my day:
Chex- Loved loved loved! The video was adorable and I really got a feel for how close the sisters really are. Not to mention the theme was so creative and fun. I wish I could go into more detail about each individual house but I don’t want to give too much away but I made sure I took notes so I would remember each house. Anyway, I could definitely see myself here. I liked them at 19 party and I’ve become more impressed and excited by their house each time. Each girl I talk to is different. Some are more outgoing, some a little quieter but it really seems like they get along and support each other. I would love to go back there today.
Smacks- This was my other favorite from the beginning. These girls seem so well-rounded and chill. To me, they seem like the girls a guy would bring home to mom. Their video revealed their goofy side and really made me excited to be a Smacks. The conversations I had extended past the usual “where are you from, what’s your major” which was great. I think it shows you really click when people don’t need to ask those questions because it just comes up naturally in the conversation. I’m feeling really good about this house so I would love to go back for Pref.
Cookie Crisp- I’m surprised by how much I really like this house. I can’t reveal why I feel a little discomfort here but other than that, I really like the girls. They have just as much fun as any group on campus and their video was hilarious. I had great convos with the girls but I still not sure it’s for me.
Apple Jacks- I didn’t mind this house but I have never felt super excited about it. Last night, it just plain annoyed me. I felt like I was being starred at while I talked. I didn’t feel welcomed and it just felt like a really bad interview. Definitely not a favorite. Most of my friends that got this house back seemed to really like it so maybe my feelings are based on a few bad conversations. :/
Kix- Wow. So this is the house I never thought I would like and thought I was crazy for not liking. Every girl I’ve talked to loved it from the beginning. It took me a while but I loved it yesterday. The video was great and even showcased their philanthropy (so did a few other videos). My whole opinion of the house took a 180 but I hope I don’t end up disappointed if they finally cut me.
Frosted Wheats- I feel bad but I just can’t get myself to like this house. I wouldn’t fit in and it’s just so awkward here.
So we ranked 1-6 with our last 3 rank making the most difference:
Chex
Smacks
Kix
Cookie Crisp
Apple Jacks
Frosted Wheats
Goodness Gracious I am super nervous!!! Two more hours until I find out….
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01-10-2009, 12:05 PM
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I'm glad things are going well for you! Only about an hour to go til you find out! Woo hoo!
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01-10-2009, 02:48 PM
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I'm glad there are multiple houses that you really like. Looking forward to reading about pref night.
When I was there It went 8-party, 4-party, down to pref-night (2 houses).
It was so hard to take it down from 4 to 2. I like that pref night is now 3 houses.
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01-10-2009, 05:35 PM
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Well things are NOT ok. I am completely heartbroken.
Frosted Wheats
Apple Jacks
My bottom two. That's it. And I'm one of the lucky ones. I'm going today just to give it a chance but it isn't looking good. I might just go through informal if I don't find my home now. Thanks for reading. I wish I could say this is me having a positive attitude but my mind is completely blown on this one. I don't understand it at all. I always knew it was competitive but that's why I had a lot of recs, great grades, and a positive attitude. I guess it's just not enough. I'm still deciding what to do.
Frosted Wheats- Surprised me with really good conversations but I don't think it's for me. I can't explain it. I just don't feel the connection.
Apple Jacks- I felt a little better here today. Once again, not the strongest connection.
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01-10-2009, 05:41 PM
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I know that it is easy for everyone else to say because we are not in your shoes right now...but just see how it goes. I understand what you are saying about making connections - but sometimes it just takes a little longer to make that special connection. Sometimes women who thought about dropping out stayed and didn't hit it off right away with their new member class - but over time they really fell in love with their chapter. With others that "connection" they thought they had during recruitment wore off big time. You just never know
I hope that you have a good day : )
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01-10-2009, 05:51 PM
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I always tell PNMs to stick it out because you really never know if either of these 2 chapters ends up being the place with the best friends whom you will look back on and wonder how you ever lived without.
I'd at least go to the last parties and see how you feel.
But of course I know that this is your decision, so best of luck with whatever you decide to do.
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01-10-2009, 05:58 PM
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I understand your hurt and sadness, but remember that these actives have CHOSEN you! They see something in you and want you to come back, so try to see something in them. Don't rule out Frosted Wheat because of the rumor mill - you yourself said that you had great conversations. Sleep on it and you will feel better in the morning - shock can upset anyone.
I wish I could give you a big hug right now!
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01-10-2009, 06:12 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by fantASTic
I understand your hurt and sadness, but remember that these actives have CHOSEN you! They see something in you and want you to come back, so try to see something in them. Don't rule out Frosted Wheat because of the rumor mill - you yourself said that you had great conversations. Sleep on it and you will feel better in the morning - shock can upset anyone.
I wish I could give you a big hug right now!
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I think this is excellent advice. Remember what some of the IU girls have said here - all the the houses there provide the members with a great Greek experience. After all the effort you have put into preparing for recruitment, you really owe it to yourself to finish it out. Otherwise you might always wonder, "What if?"
I don't know if you read the thread I started about "When did you KNOW?" but some of the women who shared their stories didn't know until preference, after preference, or even after their bid came. I really encourage you to finish it out and see what happens. You have NOTHING to lose by finishing and the potential to gain a lot.
Perhaps you will be one of the women who helps unleash the potential of one of these chapters.
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01-10-2009, 06:00 PM
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I rarely post but wanted to throw in a little bit of encouragement to you. I've known several girls who've gone through IU rush in the past few years. Two were roommates - one did well with rush as the rounds progressed (although not without her own angst moments), the other...sounds similar to you. Started okay and then kept getting more and more cuts and she was really struggling to hang in there. I'm SURE you know where this is going...she did hang in there and got a bid to a house. She was wrung out by the end of what is a very competitive rush and was happy to have a bid. She ultimately loved her house and was very glad to have participated in the greek experience at IU. Good luck...whatever you decide...but I hope you'll hang in there a little bit longer.
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01-10-2009, 06:08 PM
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It sounds like like Apple Jacks COULD work. Only you can judge - but speaking as someone who got their second choice, let me assure you that often it is for the BEST to be where you are really, really wanted. Give them every opportunity, and understand that the system is imperfect. There is no telling why you were cut - and you should try (easy for me to say, I realize) not to take it too much to heart.
Here's hoping for a happy ending for you -
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01-10-2009, 06:12 PM
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keep your chin up hoosierxgirl! Just keep going, so many girls have felt this way at one time or another. I know it feels like there is something about you that the other houses didn't like and that there's something wrong with you. there's not. unfortunately, its just that competitive and you are amazing for making it this far-- i don't know if i would have been able to keep positive for so long.
Hang in there! It will all work out in the end
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01-10-2009, 07:21 PM
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((HoosierGirl))
I'm sorry about your disappointment. Once I was on the other side of Rush at IU (as an active member), the first thing that went through my mind was "How the heck did I get in HERE?"--Why? Because there were so many amazing girls that came through the doors of the house that got cut each round. Way way more great girls than spots for them. I know its hard not to take it personally. And it can be so disheartening to get your hopes up and then to feel that they've been dashed.
If you made it back to 6-party, trust me, there are women in those houses that are disappointed that you weren't invited back to their house, too.
My house didn't do informal rush, so I don't have any experience with that, but I do remember my freshman year a few sophomores on my dorm floor that went through informal recruitment in the Fall.
I hope that you choose to stick it through Pref.--maybe you will feel differently after tonight.
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01-10-2009, 07:22 PM
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Thank you all for your encouragement....It really means a lot to me! I guess I'm so upset right now because I feel like in most situations, I know what I could do "better" or "more" of. It just seems like I put my whole heart into it and it was ripped apart. I had favorites going in, got a few cuts, made new favorites, got cut, and tried again to have an open mind. I think I'm going to rank tonight and just see what happens in the morning. I don't want to force myself into a house I don't want to be in but at the same time, I've learned that sometimes falling in love with a house takes time. I guess I don't want to "settle" just to be in a sorority but I don't think I can wait another year either to go through as a sophomore. Does anyone think (especially IU alumni) the informal process would be worthwhile? Because I know I can't go through it if i accept a bid tomorrow...Once again, thanks a lot to everyone for reading and for your words of encouragement.
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01-10-2009, 07:36 PM
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Cuts are tough. Trust me, you most likely are not the only PNM who feels this way right now.
I don't know alot about informal, but I know that it may be tough for you to go through formal again next year and get a bid.
Something to ask yourself: If you dropped out of recruitment, went through informal, and didn't get a bid, would you regret dropping out?
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