UF brat, MollyUF - ANXIOUSLY awaiting your rush updates!! - Page 6

ErikaXO · #1 02-15-2002, 01:37 PM

Thanks, Angels......Molly PLEASE don't think that I am trying to launch a personal affront on you because I am not. I totally understand both sides of the situation and I have nothing against you. But I am wondering if the people who are saying "this is a model of how a rushee should be" really read the whole thread. Making nasty remarks about a chapter who dropped you, having a less-than-enthusiastic attitude about the chapter whose bid you accepted and then publishing those feelings for KKG members to see? I don't really think that is how I would want all rushees to be.

Molly, I will say again, you are part of an EXCELLENT sisterhood. Your membership in Kappa Kappa Gamma will follow you for the rest of your life and will cast a light of well-earned admiration upon you by those who meet you. I hope that you are able to put your experience behind you completely and put your energy into your chapter. I just think that this is a good example of how people need to be careful about the things that they do, and also about the things that they say afterward.

h2oot · #2 02-15-2002, 02:27 PM

Well put, Erika.

Molly, I want to reiterate what I said earlier. KKG is great sorority and you should be proud to be invited to join.

I have repeated over and over on the Rush board, that all of the sororities on my campus have much to offer any PNM who puts in the time and effort to form the bonds of sisterhood.

I also see theads about "which is the top sorority" and others where a PNM says, "while my house may not be one of the more popular ones....." Sisterhood is not about being popular, its about developing character, forming bonds, and self-discovery. If after four years you can hold you head high, then absolutely your sorority is "tops".

GreekLetterGirl · #3 02-21-2002, 07:35 PM

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....." Sisterhood is not about being popular, its about developing character, forming bonds, and self-discovery. If after four years you can hold you head high, then absolutely your sorority is "tops".

very well said H2oot I totally agree...

Molly wear your letters with pride in knowing you are in a great organization and a sister whol wants you ... not every one ends up at their #1 choice for one reason or the other so you are faced with the options of dwelling on it or wearing your letters proudly and enjoying your college years I promise you they are the best you will ever have ....

MollyUF · #4 02-21-2002, 08:31 PM

Hey Everybody!

Sorry I haven't been around to respond to all the stuff that has been going on! Seems like quite a conversation has been started about all the events that went down.

Some of the things I've read on here, I've been mildly offended by. I've been nothing but honest on these boards, and getting ripped for it kind of sucks. But it's alright, all of you are entitled to your opinions, and since none of you are close to the situation or know both sides, it's hard to make comments that are 100% valid to the whole ordeal.

In defense of my dignity, refering to it as the "hooters video", makes it sound much more salacious than it really was. It was quite literally three girls, wearing hooters Tee Shirts (not the tight little tank tops), standing behind a couch where the individual had his hands tied. We were fake hitting him and stuff, it was entirely comical, not even close to being sexual. It was most definitely all in good fun.

Obviously me vouching for my own character doesn't carry that much weight, just because no one is going to say bad things about herself. But everyone that knows me would tell you that I am a very friendly and open person. When I met the future rush chair I said hello, extended my hand for a handshake, she refused to shake it, looked me up and down and turned around and kind of burrowed herself in her boyfriends side.

Let me apologize up front for calling her what I did earlier. Everyone has their insecurities and personal problems and it's really not fair for me to judge. If she felt threatened by me or the situation, she was probably horrendously misinformed about my intentions and character. BUt you know what they say, until you walk a mile in their shoes....

A lot of you made interesting points regarding the rush chair's ability to "axe" an individual at their own discretion. I don't know the details about what went on in the house, but I know that girls liked me A LOT there. I could be entirely misinformed. Mabye all those girls couldn't stand me. But in my heart of hearts, I KNOW the rush chair, either by cutting me on her own, or by flaming me to the other members of the sorority, is the reason I am not a chi omega today.

I especially want to apologize to members of Chi Omega and Kappa. It was not my intention to disrespect Chi Omega, and DEFINTELY not my intention to disrespect my own house. I do love my sorority, especially the national strength it has. I get a great feeling of pride telling people I'm a Kappa. It's a wonderful sorority with wonderful traditions. I love my sisters and have made great friends at the house. You all can hate me for being honest, but if I could go back and change things, would I? There is a good chance I would. Chi Omega is a much stronger/larger/and more active house on campus. We are the 2nd smallest house on campus. And on this campus, numbers say A LOT. I think the girls in XO are probably more like me. Am I happy at Kappa though?? YES. Am I glad I pledged??? ABSOLUTELY. I AM THRILLED TO BE A KAPPA FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE.

And that's that.

Molly

ps- I haven't thought about this situation in a while, I'm pretty much over it. I just posted b/c I thought everyone who followed my rush story might find it interesting. It's also neat to think about how dramatically our lives shift in ways we don't even know without us realizing it. My whole life would be different if I had changed one thing. It's crazy to think what if...?

Peaches-n-Cream · #5 02-21-2002, 09:16 PM

Molly- try not to think about the "what if's" too much because it might distract you from the wonderful opportunity that you have with Kappa. I hope that you have as wonderful a time with Kappa as I had and have with DPhiE!

AchtungBaby80 · #6 02-21-2002, 10:19 PM

I can see the logic behind some of the points that were made, but I am with MollyUF--even though I've never been in the exact same situation, I can imagine what she's had to go through and I really think I'd react the same way. Being honest is dangerous sometimes, especially in these cases, but I don't think she should be criticised for it. My opinion doesn't count for much, but I think she's handled a bitterly disappointing situation very well; and, no matter what went on inside the Chi Omega house, that situation looks really dodgey. To be honest myself, it seems like somebody got jealous and took it out on her. I do second the comment, though, that thinking about "what if" is no good--I had my share of those moments, but it really doesn't accomplish anything. But no matter what, I'm glad to know that she's turned this into a positive situation and deserves congratulations.

ErikaXO · #7 02-21-2002, 11:03 PM

I am REALLY glad to hear that things are going well at Kappa and that you are happy......it is going to get better and better too.

I don't think anybody was criticizing anyone for being honest......I think the criticism was coming in about the WAY certain things were said. Sharing your feelings is fine, and is very important....but there are tactful ways of saying things and there are careless ways of saying things. Nobody knows what really happened in this rush situation except for the members involved in making the decisions, and it is probably best that way. The bottom line is that it is over, and everyone has moved on.

Enjoy Kappa, Molly, you are part of a GREAT sorority.

Just curious, Achtung.....did something like this happen to you?

AchtungBaby80 · #8 02-21-2002, 11:24 PM

No, no...I rushed the fall of my sophomore year and even though I was pretty clueless, I managed to end up with my first choice.

BUT...I do have some friends and acquaintances that have had bad rush experiences, so I'm maybe overly sympathetic to that after seeing what they went through.

mmcat · #9 02-22-2002, 07:58 AM

mollyuf
i'm glad all is well with you. your post was excellent. enjoy kappa and don't sweat the past. enjoy the now and work to try to improve kappa on your campus. you can make a world of difference. you have a wonderful forever.
lol
mmcat

h2oot · #10 02-26-2002, 12:48 AM

Good luck in Kappa. Things have a way of working out best in the long run.

imsohappythatiama · #11 02-26-2002, 12:02 PM

Molly:

Although I am a little sad about the road you took to get here, welcome to Kappa!

Someday you are going to look back at all of this and laugh, because in the end, it doesn't matter what happened at XO. You may think you know why you were cut, but in the end, you will never know the full story unless you were in the room on that night of voting.

Hell, I have been Rush chair at one University and Rush Advisor at two Universities, and sometimes I don't even know why a girl gets cut. Sometimes it just happens--and you can't rationalize it in the same way that you can't control it. So don't sweat it, and don't torture yourself with "what ifs" because, sweetheart, IT WASN'T MEANT TO BE.

So many women go through Rush looking for a chapter that can make something of them--that can get them a cuter boyfriend, a prettier house, a nicer closet full of clothes to borrow, votes for homecoming queen, etc. Hey, we've ALL done it at one time or another.

But what, in the end, what HOLDS VALUE after you've left college, and have a husband and maybe a few kids and some stretch marks and wrinkles is this: what your chapter helped you make of YOURSELF.

Because as we say in Kappa, in the very end a sorority can only be a better way to stumble down the back steps and out the front door.

All of this has made me think of an old Kappa song that I've always loved:

Not thy key oh Kappa
Not thy fleur-de-lis
These are only symbols
Of what you mean to me.

There is something deeper
Than thy flower or key
That must be the meaning
Of fraternity.

Molly, I sincerely hope that you will find that "something deeper," (be patient, it can take time!) and I wish you the lifelong joy that I have found in being a Kappa sister.

Loyally,

imsohappythatiama

PS--We'd love to see you around the KKG forum!

...and above all I shall remain womanly and true.

xo_sue · #12 02-26-2002, 12:37 PM

Dear Molly,
I was so happy to read your last post because it let me really see you- a thoughtful, intelligent and caring young woman.

With the help of Amycat, I got the insight I needed to understand what you went through (thanks Amy!) and since I went to a small school - it was very hard for me to see your side of the rush experience. Now I am wiser.

You will be an awesome sister in KKG and you will travel to places within the U.S. where things will be different. Where I live- no one and I mean no one has heard of Chi Omega. But you know who they have heard of and consider it a very elite sorority... Kappa Kappa Gamma.

The chairwomen of all the social organizations here were KKG's or Thetas in college. And let me tell you- they are beautiful and very classy women.

Please keep us posted Molly- I bet by the time you are a senior- KKG will be a huge house and it will be thanks to you and the hard work and sisterhood you are putting into it!

Best of luck Molly! Sue

justamom · #13 02-26-2002, 01:59 PM

imsohappythatiama-That was a beautiful post!

sweetie adpi · #14 04-28-2002, 08:59 AM

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Originally posted by h2oot

I also see theads about "which is the top sorority" and others where a PNM says, "while my house may not be one of the more popular ones....." Sisterhood is not about being popular, its about developing character, forming bonds, and self-discovery. If after four years you can hold you head high, then absolutely your sorority is "tops".

amen!

LeslieAGD · #15 04-28-2002, 09:51 AM

I know on these PNM Threads we all get curious as to who a PNM is cutting and keeping and what they think, but can't they just say "I cut XZY...I didn't really fit there" as opposed to "XZY is a weak house and blah, blah, blah..." Personally, I wouldn't want to hear anyone putting down one of AGDs other chapters and I'm sure most people don't want to hear that about their organization either.

Erin & Dale...you have a wonderful group of sisters on my campus. Sigma Kappa is a great bunch!