Physical appearances you refuse to date.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by deltadevil

normal human beings dress like thugs though. atleast in the black communities that I spend my time in

Fixed that for you.

[deltadevil]

maybe prettyboy was making a joke? he seems like the type of person that likes humor based on the things i've seen him post in other threads.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by deltadevil

maybe prettyboy was making a joke? he seems like the type of person that likes humor based on the things i've seen him post in other threads.

The scary part: He's totally serious.

[nikki1920]

Maybe that's the kind of guy she likes. *shrug*

[deltadevil]

Originally Posted by nikki1920

Maybe that's the kind of guy she likes. *shrug*

" Go home roger!!!!"

[agzg]

I'm not commenting on the dressing like thugs thing really, but there are plenty of ways a guy can dress where I won't date him, even if he is the nicest guy.

I wouldn't date a guy who dresses like a metrosexual because I can't stand people taking longer to get ready than I do.

I wouldn't date a guy who has holes in all his clothes because he obviously doesn't give a rat's about his personal appearance, and can't fully appreciate mine.

I'd date a guy who wears pleated pants because expecting all men to know the difference is a little unreasonable - plus I can just throw them out as they wear out and make sure he doesn't buy any more.

Really, if there's a guy with a sense of personal style but doesn't let style rule his life - that's datable material to me. I'm not into changing guys to fit what I would like them to look like, but I am into guys that take my input seriously and consider it (whether or not they actually take my fashion advice).

Most importantly, I like guys that know what looks good, and not trashy, on me, and are willing to give me their own input. If we look like a well-put together, but not image obsessed, young couple when we go out together that's ideal.

Live-in's one of those pleated pants guys, but most of those pants have worn out and have been disposed of. He takes my advice when he goes shopping, but knows what he likes and doesn't act like a dress up doll for me. If I look good in something, he tells me, and if I have something funky going on with my outfit he lets me know.

His thing is sneakers and tee shirts, but he takes really good care of his favorite sneakers and his favorite tees, plus he wears a ton of really cool stuff when it comes to sneakers and tees, so I can't fault him on that, because he doesn't wear any of those cheesy graphic tees that you get at Target.

[deltadevil]

Well I am 19 and I dont try to fit in with anybody, I dress based on what I like personally. And dressing in a suit doesnt mean that person is making nice money or working at a nice job. The managers at burger king dress in suits all the time. I just dont see why older people get mad to see a young person dressing in baggy clothes. You also say that "You have to dress up for You and not to impress everyone else." So do you basically dress in suits because you want to?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by deltadevil

Well I am 19

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by deltadevil

Well I am 19 and I dont try to fit in with anybody, I dress based on what I like personally. And dressing in a suit doesnt mean that person is making nice money or working at a nice job. The managers at burger king dress in suits all the time. I just dont see why older people get mad to see a young person dressing in baggy clothes. You also say that "You have to dress up for You and not to impress everyone else." So do you basically dress in suits because you want to?

19....

That says a lot right there.

I know there were some styles that my generation dressed in when I was your age that made people have some not so flattering comments...and trust I am really in no mood to have the whole saggy assed pants debate short of saying, I think it's tacky, it looks unclean, lazy and slovely.

But...you do you...remember this thread is about Physical appearances and I think most of the women made it abundantly clear that they do NOT like the style nor do they find it attactive.

Something else you may want to consider.

The caliber of women you attract when in baggy clothes vs the women you attract when dressed otherwise.

And don't even push the argument about clothes doesn't equal intelligence because I think we all know that BUT what your style you choose can also say something about WHO YOU ARE.

A suit is just a start...it's too many baggy panted brothas out here I see and know who don't even OWN a suit and the last time they wore one was either Easter, to a funeral or to their sentencing...think about it.

Originally Posted by deltadevil

Well I dress like a "thug" but that doesnt mean i have bad home training.

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

If that's the case, good luck having people take you seriously in the real world.

^^^ Amen bruh...that right there is truth.

[deltadevil]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

19....

That says a lot right there.

I know there were some styles that my generation dressed in when I was your age that made people have some not so flattering comments...and trust I am really in no mood to have the whole saggy assed pants debate short of saying, I think it's tacky, it looks unclean, lazy and slovely.

But...you do you...remember this thread is about Physical appearances and I think most of the women made it abundantly clear that they do NOT like the style nor do they find it attactive.

Something else you may want to consider.

The caliber of women you attract when in baggy clothes vs the women you attract when dressed otherwise.

And don't even push the argument about clothes doesn't equal intelligence because I think we all know that BUT what your style you choose can also say something about WHO YOU ARE.

A suit is just a start...it's too many baggy panted brothas out here I see and know who don't even OWN a suit and the last time they wore one was either Easter, to a funeral or to their sentencing...think about it.







^^^ Amen bruh...that right there is truth.

Im not saying nothing is wrong with wearing a suit. I know you have to wear a suit to a job, interviews, and things of that nature, but why cant the person wear baggy clothes half of the time? Not baggy to the point where the top of the pants are under the butt, but baggy as in a little big with a belt on them.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by deltadevil

Im not saying nothing is wrong with wearing a suit. I know you have to wear a suit to a job, interviews, and things of that nature, but why cant the person wear baggy clothes half of the time? Not baggy to the point where the top of the pants are under the butt, but baggy as in a little big with a belt on them.

how about wearing a belt...period...why should we have to see your nasty assed underwear??

That's why they are called "UNDER-WEAR".

Emphasis on the UNDER

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by deltadevil

Not baggy to the point where the top of the pants are under the butt, but baggy as in a little big with a belt on them.

Now you're backing down.

If this was just about men wanting their scrotum to breathe, we wouldn't be where we are in this discussion.

[deltadevil]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Now you're backing down.

If this was just about men wanting their scrotum to breathe, we wouldn't be where we are in this discussion.

No I am not backing down. That is how i wear my jeans. Maybe its the fact that I dont have a job or run one but, I dont really care how low anybody wears their pants because they have the right to do whatever they want long as its not hurting the next person

[libramunoz]

Delta Devil,
You are assuming a lot to be a child of 19. Yes, you are legally an adult in the eyes of the law, however, by your comments, your thinking tends to be that of a child.

When you become grown, you have to learn how to dress for both your age and where you are working. I mean, I don't think that you would appreciate seeing one of your female professors dressing in a mini skirt and a tube top with high heeled shoes trying to teach you about philosophy. Again, it's a matter of being able to dress where you are working and your age.

At 19, yes, you may see some people dressing this way or that, but a) don't believe the hype and b) don't assume that this is what EVERYONE in that area does. Because ultimately, it will invaribly show your lack of common sense and your lack of maturity.

Yes it is letting kids dress how they want to dress, however, it goes back to HOME TRAINING! Just because your friends are dressing in XZY fashion doesn't mean that you HAVE TO as well.

When you step out of your home, the way that you dress does tend to reflect what is going on in YOUR home. If your parents don't care what you dress in or what you look like when leaving the house, then hey, believe me, folks do assume that your parents haven't given you ANY home training.

When I was growing up, we didn't have the most money in the neighborhood, but yet when I left that door, I was clean, had my clothes on right, and looked like I had some sense. When I moved to the country, we still didn't have the most money in the world, but yet, when I left the house, I was clean, my clothes were hole free, and I looked like I had sense.

The whole point is that in dressing, it reflects who you are and what you are WILLING to be about. Dressing to sag seems to reflect that you aren't about jack diddly squat and at 19, you SHOULD know better, but then that goes back to what's your HOME TRAINING?

[deltadevil]

Originally Posted by libramunoz

Delta Devil,
You are assuming a lot to be a child of 19. Yes, you are legally an adult in the eyes of the law, however, by your comments, your thinking tends to be that of a child.

When you become grown, you have to learn how to dress for both your age and where you are working. I mean, I don't think that you would appreciate seeing one of your female professors dressing in a mini skirt and a tube top with high heeled shoes trying to teach you about philosophy. Again, it's a matter of being able to dress where you are working and your age.

At 19, yes, you may see some people dressing this way or that, but a) don't believe the hype and b) don't assume that this is what EVERYONE in that area does. Because ultimately, it will invaribly show your lack of common sense and your lack of maturity.

Yes it is letting kids dress how they want to dress, however, it goes back to HOME TRAINING! Just because your friends are dressing in XZY fashion doesn't mean that you HAVE TO as well.

When you step out of your home, the way that you dress does tend to reflect what is going on in YOUR home. If your parents don't care what you dress in or what you look like when leaving the house, then hey, believe me, folks do assume that your parents haven't given you ANY home training.

When I was growing up, we didn't have the most money in the neighborhood, but yet when I left that door, I was clean, had my clothes on right, and looked like I had some sense. When I moved to the country, we still didn't have the most money in the world, but yet, when I left the house, I was clean, my clothes were hole free, and I looked like I had sense.

The whole point is that in dressing, it reflects who you are and what you are WILLING to be about. Dressing to sag seems to reflect that you aren't about jack diddly squat and at 19, you SHOULD know better, but then that goes back to what's your HOME TRAINING?

Well I dress like a "thug" but that doesnt mean i have bad home training. For a person who has never been in trouble for anything school and street wise, never been a drug dealer or a gang member shows that I have very good home training if you ask me. I dress in what i personally like. Im not a big fan of ties and suits therefore I dress in gym shoes pants that are a little bit baggy and t shirts. I have no problem with a parent putting some type of input on what a child wears, but they should also allow that child to pick out what they want to wear unless the child is mentally incapable of doing things on his or her own.

As for the part that i put in bold, I dont care what a person has on long as what they say is true or worth listening to. Clothing doesnt make up a persons knowledge on different subjects.